Relapse
 

Hi everyone

Joined recently, had a spectacular relapse after around 24 months of the most blissful sobriety. Struggling to come to terms with having slipped, missed a crucial day at work, broke a huge promise to myself and my wife, kids... Am picking up the pieces, but would appreciate an assist... I don't expect something for nothing, am open to assisting where I can, too.

Kanyon,

Welcome to SR! You'll find lots of support here, great people too!

Love,

Lenina

Just don't be to hard on yourself.
Your only human.

Welcome to SR Kanyon, so what did you do to stay sober those 2 years?

What did you quit or start doing that led you to decide it was okay for you to drink again?

BTW glad to see you are back at it.

Welcome to SR Kanyon! I'm glad you joined our family.

I too just relapsed after several months of sobriety. Am now picking up the pieces and moving forward again. You can too. Let's stay sober together, ok?

(((hugs)))

Welcome to our recovery community.....:wave:

Glad to know you are working on a fresh start.
:yup:
Blessings to you and your family

Take what you need from here and contribute whatever you can. Welcome Kanyon, this is a good day for a new start in your recovery.

Welcome back to the good life. :D

We are all alcoholics. Our compasses point to a drink. Some of us never pick up again...and some slip and jump back on immediately.
Some go out and stay out. You aren't one of them.

You are here.

Welcome back

First thing I always ask somone if, they were attending meetings!!!

I stay sober by offering my ESH to the new people in the program

Welcome Kanyon...glad you're here! :ring

Welcome Back! if you did it before.. you can do it again! i have had my share of trouble in the "Slip department" over the years.. it hurts and nobody should hammer you for it IMHO.. you are Back Now and that is what matters Most! ODAAT!

i have had plenty of slips. I have finally put together almost 8 months.

Welcome to SR Kanyon :)

D

Hey Kanyon
 

Glad you made it!

I'm going to start a Slippers Anonymous meeting. I know it all too well.

I too would say "Don't beat yourself up, it's useless." I didn't truly understand the word "Powerless" until about the 6th relapse. Then it kinda sank in a little. So I made a decision to capitalize on the experience of over 100 men and women. (Hey, I'm an alcoholic, yes I will use you all I can...it's in my nature..)Today I've realized they were JUST like me. Their solution really works. It's only 164 pages long. It takes 2.5hrs. to read.

I haven't had to slip in 5 years, but I'm capable of it I know from experience. This time I'm not keeping myself sober. I'm not even struggling with drink. The problem has been removed. It does not exist for me.

Anyone can have it. It's promised.

Welcome to SR. I hope you'll share your story.

Hi and welcome Kanyon :hug:

I think (for me anyway) what would be the hardest thing to do after a relapse (believe me, I have had my share) would be to forgive myself for making a mistake, and that is what it was, a mistake. It is not a defect of chatacter to make a mistake, it is called being human. Then I would try to think about my feelings and actions leading up to the relapse after two years. I am sure your wife knows, possibly ask her if you were acting different. Maybe she can help in the future to mention that you are "not yourself". For me, if I am not working on my recovery, I am working on a relapse. There is no middle ground. Then jump back into the good life, and work that recovery. If you had two years sober, you know how to do it. Just never stop "doing it"! Please be kind to yourself, being able to forgive ourselves is one of the most powerful tools we have. :hug:

Cathy

Thank you.

Hows it going, Kanyon? :)

D

I had hit rock-bottom (for myself), had partied hard for a whole weekend, came back late the Sunday, and realised it had to stop. So it was the first time I had really promised myself and my wife and truly meant it!

That was the hardest part... I tried to stay fir and so on, and mostly succeeded. What I thought I could do was maintain my old friendship circles, that was a big mistake. I think spending time with them was eroding at my conviction, unbeknownst to me at the time, it was a subtle process... Then I just cracked...