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WakeUp 11-14-2009 07:17 AM

WakeUp crashed and burned
 
I drank.
No, make that, I'm drinking.
The Voice won. I was defeated.

I need to get my car maintenanced, and I will write a journal on this experience.

When I get back, I will have more to say on what I've found.

Anna 11-14-2009 07:19 AM

Hi,

Don't give up!

smacked 11-14-2009 07:48 AM

Well if you're drinking right now, I hope you're not driving to get your car worked on!

When you're ready, it's achievable :)

LovesToTravel 11-14-2009 12:59 PM

I believe that I need to stop reading here.:cries3:

Hevyn 11-14-2009 01:13 PM

WakeUp, use it to your advantage. Become fed up with the rollercoaster & stay off it for good. I've had many setbacks, but am finally getting it right this time. You can too.

Dee74 11-14-2009 01:45 PM

Hi wake up

I'm sorry you crashed and burned.

One thing I learned is, when you start to hear 'the Voice' as you call it, we have to do everything in our power to counteract that. I hope you'll go back and look at what else you could have done this time, and get back to recovery right away :)

Loves to Travel, I hope other peoples struggles don't put you off.

There are a lot of success stories here too - but yeah - it's hard.
We wouldn't need SR if it was easy.

I think it's good to have a place to come to where we can be honest and where ppl understand - it's good to talk it out.

good luck to you and wake up both :)
D

WakeUp 11-14-2009 03:27 PM

Now for the analysis.
Oh, btw, good call smacked. I was not too imparied to drive, everything's fine.

Why did The Voice win?
I posted another thread in which I head the Voice talking to me. A couple of posts stood out, one of which said, you need to work all 12 steps, you need the tools to defeat The Voice.
Another phrase, "while you're in meetings, The Voice is doing pushups."

The Voice is always trying to keep ahead of you, always trying to outsmart you. I think of The Godfather II movie, "keep your friends close, and keep your enemies closer."
The Voice is the enemy to my recovery.

Why did The Voice defeat me?
I had a couple of HALT initials affecting me. Angry and tired. At what? Work.
I know now I need all the tools, all 12 of them, to help me defeat The Voice.

What I did and did not do.
I deliberately planned the purchase and consumption of alcohol.

I had roughly 50 phone numbers in my bag and didn't call a single soul.
Why? I think the reason I didn't call anybody was that I wasn't going to listen anyway.

What did I accomplish by drinking?
In a word, nothing. Nothing at all, the old behaviors returned. Hey, I'll try The Experiment. Try some controlled drinking. That went out the window after the first bottle was empty.

What did I learn?
Early sobriety is tough! It's tough work. I think I got by for a month and a half by sheer white knuckling.
Sobriety is a fight, a fight for your life.

I also learned that failure is one step closer to success. I may fall, but I get up again.

I learned how much I want to be sober now. I appreciate it so much more now.

I still have the desire to stop drinking.

thirtybubba 11-14-2009 03:43 PM

Up and down, down and up... and you learn a thing or two each time.

I'm pulling for you, because in order for me to win... you have to pave the way.


TB

NEOMARXIST 11-14-2009 04:03 PM

Good post wakeup.

ps. That avatar of yours kinda cracks me up as it looks at first glance like someone doing a line.

Yes I hear ya on the controlled drinking thing. Any thought I have of it, which TBH I don't as i ain't never drank with any control, is totally deluded as how am I gonna have any rational thought about not drinking more booze once the buzz has hit? I ain't gonna stop for no-one. I know that.

I always used to count my drinks interms of a "sesh". 9 500ml cans of 5% lager was my staple and enough to get me passed out though i was usually pretty agitated and restless when on can 8 and would go to get more to finish the job if the shop was open.
I was and will always be a drink untill passout drinker. I have no control over booze and that is why it is such a dangerous drug for me.


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