New to this site and definatly need some support

Old 11-07-2009, 09:24 AM
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I am new to this sight and so far what I have seen is pretty amazing! Everyone is goin thru the same things and offer sooo much support to one another.... its so hard 2 find that!! Im livin with someone who doesnt do drugs (and im not so sure she understands addiction AT ALL) and was on my ass to get clean and i finally did... and i truely feel like she just wants me to fail now!! She knows exactly what 2 say or do 2 make me wanna either relapse or kill myself... She never tells me that shes proud of me, but she is so quik 2 point out my mistakes! But her boyfriend could not use for 2 days and shes all ova him tellin him how proud of him she is and makin it known 2 everyone that he has 2 days clean... It just kinda hurts cuz shes my sister and the one who made me see alot of things that made me wanna be clean!
Anyways, i just wanna be able 2 talk 2 people who might understand me and can maybe offer me some advice about what 2 do? Im kinda lost right now... Thank you and i am actually so glad i joined this sight even tho i have NO IDEA how 2 do anything yet?? I think i might have posted this message in the wrong place LOL... i kind of feel better even just getting my feelings out in this message and having hopes that someone will respond!! Thanks again
<3 Alexis <3 :praying
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Old 11-07-2009, 09:36 AM
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to SR Alexis

Are you and your sister close? Im betting she is proud of you but feels 'awkward' actually saying it? I don't know but this has been my experience with siblings
You'll get lots of support here anyways.
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Old 11-07-2009, 09:38 AM
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Old 11-07-2009, 09:41 AM
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Welcome to SR Alexis!
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Old 11-07-2009, 09:48 AM
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Welcome and congratulations for making the decision to get clean!!!!! People who have never been addicted don't really "get it", and the praise she uses on her bf is most likely her way of trying to control his behavior, like praising a puppy for tinkling outside to train it.

If you want tons of support from people who really KNOW where you are coming from you have come to the right spot, we all "get it"
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Old 11-07-2009, 10:26 AM
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I am so glad you found this great safe place!

Perhaps your sister is afraid and doesn't know how to express her feelings to you - it sounds like she is definitely struggling with something herself but that belongs to her. You are doing ALL the right things by managing your recovery.
I do know how important is to us to have positive feedback, encouragement, hugs - someone to love us flaws and all.
Keep coming back here - we all know how you feel, and we are all wanting you to succeed.
Sending big hugs to you - BBC
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Old 11-07-2009, 10:28 AM
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Keep coming back, you'll find a lot of support here.
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Old 11-07-2009, 02:40 PM
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Welcome Alexis!

Yeah, we definitely get it LOL - look forward to hearing more from you

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Old 11-07-2009, 02:43 PM
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Old 11-07-2009, 05:45 PM
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Glad you found SR, Alexis! It's a great place for support and helps me a lot..hope it helps you, too. Hope to hear more from you! :ghug3
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Old 11-07-2009, 05:58 PM
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Hi and welcome from me as well. Post, read, ask... great forum for support.
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Old 11-08-2009, 12:07 PM
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My sister told me that she doesn't want to say much about it to me but she is behind me 100%..but then I don't live with her. You have to do this for yourself. Get your congrats and inspiration here.

Welcome to SR. I just LOVE these smilies!
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Old 11-08-2009, 09:52 PM
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hi Alexis -

Welcome to SR!

Are you in , or considering a progranm of recovery?
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Old 11-08-2009, 10:21 PM
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Most people are intolerant of addiction. I myself was a non-drug user and cut a number of drinkers and drug users out of my life before I became an addict myself.

The sad truth is that an addict using or in recovery often look the same from the outside. She probably does not know anything about addiction as you point out. If she is not an addict, why would she?

But the upside is that your commitment over time will eventually win her over. Some of those same people I cut out----I late took back in. It took time, but it will happen.
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