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Old 11-20-2009, 10:00 AM
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Yeah, Friday...

Today's my all alone day... and tomorrow and Sunday. Suppose I might go for a walk to the AA place.

Woke up kinda happy though.

Take care y'all.
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Old 11-20-2009, 10:15 AM
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I'm November too 11/11, which makes me 8 days sober today
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Old 11-20-2009, 10:24 AM
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Originally Posted by thirtybubba View Post
Yeah, Friday...

Today's my all alone day... and tomorrow and Sunday. Suppose I might go for a walk to the AA place.

Woke up kinda happy though.

Take care y'all.
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Keep yourself busy!!!!!!!!!!!

I know how hard that is.


My feelings are all over the place. I feel like punching something. I am enraged for no reason. This sucks big time.
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Old 11-20-2009, 10:37 AM
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God I don't remember day 3 being this hard. I feel like ripping my hair out...and I am at work so its not like I am alone.
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Old 11-20-2009, 10:42 AM
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My whine today:
Boyfriend is pissing me off in the money dept. He lives here, he needs to pay his way. We agreed on an amount...I told him it would be the last conversation about it, that I would not hound him, or he would have to go.....I am not the money police....so he gives me some Tuesday.....and some more yesterday.....adds up to half of what we agreed on......so far? WTF? And shouldn't he have to pay for half the turkey for T-day?????? I hate talking money but don't want to feel used either. I really don't think he does it on purpose, I just think he is a dumb-ass.
VC - Yeah, he may be a dumb-ass. Many people of the opposite sex seem to be (its the Mars vs. Venus conundrum). I'm a CPA by trade with an idea that may or may not work. If you really are living together, I would suggest setting up a joint bank account, with each of you contributing a set agreed upon amount each month/week/ or whatever works. Only joint expenses are to be paid from that account. Rent, groceries, utilities, you get the drift. Any extras that the other wouldn't use you pay from your other personal funds. When the joint money runs out because someone hasn't paid their share, the spending stops until the money kicks in. Hopefully it doesn't result in any adverse credit dings. I would have it in writing (informal of course) just so you have something to refer to if a problem comes up. You can drag it out and say, "See, this is what we agreed to on so and so date." C'mon, fork up! Anyway, just a thought.

Congrat to SoberITCity, Good work! Keep it up. :-)

SuddenlyS: Day 4 will be better. I can almost guarantee it IF you don't drink on day 3. I'm finding it get a bit easier as time passes. Yesterday being the exception when spouse was really ticking me off. But I DIDN'T drink because of it. Pass the coffee please..............
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Old 11-20-2009, 11:41 AM
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I mean, this is pretty deep...like I even decided to alter the way I write my name, because I used to go back and cross my t by taking the upswing of the last letter and slashing back through my name, a sort of self destructive violent move. I thought that doesn't work anymore, that's not who I am...
That's pretty awesome Threshold. You know? Life adjustments like that can seem so small but can have such a profound impact. Names can mean a lot... when I signed up for SR I had the hardest time coming up with a name that I wanted to go by. I finally came up with Tytan... it's not just a misspelling of a mythological God. It was a name I went by when I was in Middle School… I was into BBS’s… I don’t think people even remember what those are… but it was before the internet and people would connect computers together to chat and play games via modems. You could call someone direct and connect. There was a whole subculture before email and the internet took off. Anyway… I was known as Tytan. I haven’t used this screen name for almost 20 years… and its nice… it’s the “me” before I started myself destructive path... when I was just some geeky kid taking computers apart and putting them back together.

There can be a lot of healing in a name.


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Old 11-20-2009, 11:53 AM
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Hi Everyone,

Went to a meeting this morning.... starting to feel good about things.

Thanks for the kind welcome.

Kudos to everybody for hanging in there.
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Old 11-20-2009, 11:56 AM
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Threshold: Once again thank you for the kind words and the encouragement to write it means a lot. My heart goes out to you and your husband. I will be sending all my happy thoughts across the pond for you! Happy birthday!
Asta: Thank you thank you but you ain’t heard nothing yet… Day 11 is in the record books!
Richie: Day 2! How are you feeling?
Asta and Thirsty: I know we’re not match for face to face contact… but I think we’re all become segregate friends to each other. I’m toasting a pint of Sparkling Water!
Welcome Finster!
I have to run everybody, it’ll be a light typing day for Tytan. The wife wants to curl up and watch the episode of “Glee” before we head off to bed! Have a great Friday everyone!
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Old 11-20-2009, 12:04 PM
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I was born in November! Twice!

DOS: 11/12/09

DOB: 11/??/79
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Old 11-20-2009, 12:32 PM
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Asta: Thank you thank you but you ain’t heard nothing yet… Day 11 is in the record books!
The wife wants to curl up and watch the episode of “Glee” before we head off to bed! Have a great Friday everyone!
Hey Tytan, Know you're probably abed by now, but thought I'd share that I really have been enjoying Glee too. Invariably I start bawling at one point or another, but that's cleansing, right?
Anyone who hasn't seen it, here in the US it is on Wed nite on FOX at 9. It's a really well done show.

And Tytan, good show on day 11 down!!
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Old 11-20-2009, 01:27 PM
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just passin' through
hi to all the new guys!
he may be a dumb-ass. Many people of the opposite sex seem to be
say what now?
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Old 11-20-2009, 04:20 PM
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Sober... day 3's are horrible.. for me at least. Day 4's are better. I hope you follow that pattern this time.

I'm having my day 4... I didn't get to have the days properly, kept awake, doing things almost 24/7 since I sobered up. Get a couple hours here and there, some rest, some relaxation... Not enough... and I know it.

I'm happy though. Good enough for me, although I'm half asleep. Headed to AA place now... be back in about 8 hours.

Take care y'all.
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Old 11-21-2009, 12:16 PM
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Day 12 and all is well! But, I drinking a lot more coffee. I normally stop drinking coffee around lunch time… now I’m drinking it off and on all day. I hope it doesn’t start screwing with my sleep schedule. But then again… at least I’m not following into the 4 in the morning trap. I can’t remember how many times my wife would go to bed and I would be like, “I’ll be right up… as soon as I finish this drink…” and you all know the drill… although I has intended to finish that drink and go to bed… I end up refilling my glass when I empty it… and I keep refilling it… and the next thing I know it’s 4 in the morning. Arg! And it takes until 2 PM the next day to fully recover. Mmmmm… coffee is much better.
So, I have to admit… the board has been very light since last night. It worries me. Not much activity for a Friday/Saturday. What has everyone been up to?
Asta: “Glee” is a life saver. My wife and I have very different tastes in television for our evening “veg-out”. My mother freely admits that she used TV to raise me… so I will watch anything with a good story. But the wife is very picky: Top Chef, Amazing Race, How I Met Your Mother and Big Love. That’s it. And if you are a TV junkie like me… and you look at those titles you will probably understand my dilemma… there is no pattern to her favorite shows. Every year it’s like pulling teeth to introduce a new show into the mix. I normally subject her to about 5 or 6 pilots of shows I think she might like… most of them next grab her… except for shows like “Dirty Sexy Money”… and then they get canceled. Arg! Anyway, I used to be an actor and my wife was in show choir in high school… so when Glee started getting go reviews I forced her to watch the pilot. It’s hands down one of our favorites. Thank god for iTunes downloads!
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Day 36, wish I felt as cheery as in the early days. Blahhhhhhhhhhh feeling. Hope it passes, maybe this whole sobriety bit is a ton of work with sometimes hard-to-identify benefits. Off to find food....
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Old 11-21-2009, 01:32 PM
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Tytan, I too was raised with the TV on most of the time. I was born in Sweden & we came to the US when I was 4 so my parents (especially mom) used the TV to learn English! So it was on pretty much all the time, even after they became proficient in the language. One escapism program that I enjoy quite a bit is "The Big Bang Theory." Do you get that there? Not sure why, buy I always find myself chuckling or LOL when I watch it, especially the Sheldon dude. :-)

I've had a cranky couple of days. Today isn't starting out much better. I'd rather not repeat myself, if you're interested you can read my post in Secular Connections. Anyhoo, trying to keep busy today.

Watson, lets hope we both get out of the blaaaaahs soon.

Later all.
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The blahs will pass guys.....stay busy, do something different......watch the comedy channel!!.....I watched Frank Caliendo (sp?) last night......the guy totally cracks me up!!!

I don't watch alot of TV.......I cannot sit that long nor do I want to........my a$$ time is spent on the computer I guess.......I do watch football pretty much all day on Sunday.........that or an occasional movie........do love Seinfeld and Frazier...........

Hope everyone is doing ok today...........I am just chillin......feeling lazy actually........

What are you guys up to???????
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Old 11-21-2009, 03:05 PM
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Ah, coffee, Tytan. I swear I'm living off so many cups (mainly decaf) as well as hot Irish tea, herbal teas, diet apple cider . . . . wonder if I'll do more harm to my liver with all the fricking Equal or aspartane (sp?) in these beverages? For some reason, drinking water doesn't do it and I'm not one to drink regular sugary stuff. My blahs have passed a bit. A big meal and now night has fallen so I feel on safer ground. I do get wiggy middle of the day though. Something to be cautious about. First time in close proximity to a liquor department - and wine bottles lined up throughout the grocery department - husband buying beer. I stayed away but seeing the bottles of wine. Not easy to walk away especially feeling blah. Glad I avoided the temptation for this one day, at any rate.
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Old 11-21-2009, 03:12 PM
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I'm up to a whole lotta nothin! Went out to lunch with the fam, came home and fell asleep for an hour. What's up with that? I bought a bracelet for myself on line from sobrietystones.com. (Early xmas gift) It's got 12 stones that represent the steps. I wanted something I can wear all the time to remind myself to stay strong. Plus they're supposed to have healing qualities. What? Stop laughing at me! Anyway, I'm excited to get it.

Got some more Christmas shopping done...lights up tomorrow! I know it's a bit early, but I wanna do it before it's 20 degrees.

I love tv. Nothing's too stupid for me.

Hope you all have a good Saturday night!
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Glad you're feeling better, watson!
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Old 11-21-2009, 04:45 PM
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Moved the last of the mulch around the yard this pm. Was finishing up just as it started to sprinkle. We had a 1/2 truckload delivered a few months ago. Finally get to cross it off my to do list. Have a Netflix movie for 2/nite. Sat nite TV stinks. Probably do some reading. Got my 2 books that I ordered from Amazon 2day. The Small Book (a rational recovery book), and Lit, a memoir by Mary Karr about her struggles to get sober and "becoming a mother by letting go of a mother." (from the flap) It got great reviews in my local paper a couple of weeks ago. It was a decent price too for a hardcover.
Nuthin much else goin on.
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