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Old 11-17-2009, 01:20 PM
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Tytan, now matter where you are you can order Dunkin Donuts coffee online at dunkindonuts.com. Also if you google dunkindonuts coffee coupon, web sites will pop up where you can print out coupons for money off. DD web site says you can order whole beans or ground. It seems like you are set to make progress on your marriage. That's great. I have an amazing understanding husband. He has learned he can't control my drinking and certainly has learned over the years that "enabling" is not good for either of us. He has definitely seen an improvement in my mood and temperament this last week. I'm going to repeat myself here (forgive me folks for those who read this before) but I heard something on a TV show a while back that really stuck, kind of a bumper sticker mentality thing. "Happiness is a choice." I printed it out on a large sticky and stuck it in the kitchen. When drinking I so often would wallow in resentment, self pity, etc. Then when I first got sober, I wallowed in the "poor me, everyone else can drink, why can't I?" It's only day 12 this time around but the happiness choice thing has really been helpful. It really makes for a better day with the right attitude. If I start the same old "vicious cycle" (take note VC) I will be attending that same old pity party again. Hope everyone has a great day.
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Old 11-17-2009, 01:31 PM
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Sorry VC. That "dig" was uncalled for. Forgive me? :ghug3
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Old 11-17-2009, 01:45 PM
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Hi November gang...

Just popped my head in again to see how all of us are doing on our journey to and thru recovery land.

Alot of honesty being shared here...and that is great. We need to be honest about drinking/using...and those of us that respond need to encourage each other not to, no matter what the circumstance.

VC-I am sorry your friend ordered that beer for you, I know you must feel responsible for his incurred costs. But....you have come this far. Planning a day is as much a slip, as a slip. Why play with fire? Make a flimsy excuse about being on medication, or you might even feel like being honest with him later on. He most likely can send that beer back.

Peace...
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Old 11-17-2009, 01:49 PM
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LOL...oh Asta, I did not take that as a dig......!! No harm, no foul.

Thanks for all the comments on beer day.....kinda why I threw it out there....to get some helpful responses I suppose.......and to have you guys talk me down!! HUGS.

Beautiful day here today.....hard to believe it is November. Talked to my best buddy today and we are going to have Turkey Day at my place this year.....we are invited all people who have nowhere to go.....divorcees...geeks, singles....etc....it should prove interesting! LOL.

What are you guys doing?
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Old 11-17-2009, 02:00 PM
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I woke up this morning and thought...ok what do I have to do today to get my life back...then realized I don't want my life back. I was acting crazy desperate, doing anything to try to hang onto that idea of who I was and what my life was...but now, sober. I realize that none of it was worth it.

So, here I am sober...with no clue what it is I want or who I am, and it's such a huge relief I can't even tell you. I don't have to fight to save that person I didn't even like. I just have to work recovery and I trust that as I go, something and someone will emerge. It had better, because I have no interest in being who I was before.

I feel sort of calm and numb and weird, but it's OK...at least for today. I got me to another meeting, may hit one this evening...and found a recovery site for people with my spiritual backround...and talked about my recovery with two of my siblings.

I don't want to ever have to be that other me again. Not that she was terrible, she was just so darn high maintenance
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Old 11-17-2009, 03:13 PM
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Originally Posted by ViciousCycle View Post
LOL...oh Asta, I did not take that as a dig......!! No harm, no foul.
Appreciate it! If I can be this insensitive sober, just think what a b****h I was when I was drunk. :-)


Beautiful day here today.....hard to believe it is November. Talked to my best buddy today and we are going to have Turkey Day at my place this year.....we are invited all people who have nowhere to go.....divorcees...geeks, singles....etc....it should prove interesting! LOL.
What a great idea! I had a friend that did that several years when we were coworkers back in San Francisco back in the late 70's. A lot of people we worked with had no family in the area, so even tho she had a small condo, she always had a crowd. It was fun. (That was way before I started some serious drinking. No problem driving home back in those days.)

We are just having a quiet weekend around T'giving. Husband will watch football & eat, I will cook and eat. Both of us doing things we enjoy.
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Old 11-17-2009, 04:07 PM
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Oh, I will be watching football too.....I love football.....
My friend is bring some games over too....it should be a great day. I am looking forward to it!!
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Old 11-17-2009, 05:13 PM
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I still go to my mom and dad's house for Thanksgiving! (I know...I should offer to take over one of these years, but why ruin a good thing?)

The Lions always play on T-Day, so that's a given.. that we'll watch them lose with full stomachs.
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Old 11-17-2009, 06:13 PM
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Hi all!

Day one for me...not much to say. Just really glad to be almost through this day!

Be well

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Old 11-17-2009, 07:09 PM
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spryte: Welcome to SR! You have found a great group of very supportive people here. Hope you stick around and that day 1 is not as awful as some of my day 1's have been. Look forward to hearing more from you!!
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Old 11-17-2009, 07:19 PM
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spryte! welcome and congratulations on day one.

i look forward to hearing more from you on these boards.
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Old 11-18-2009, 03:22 AM
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Morning. Middle of the night really. Can't sleep.

Got the internet back, for what it's worth. Showtime in three hours, gotta move and got 3 hours to do it, and I can barely move. It's day 2, I don't wanna be picking up boxes and carrying them.

Still debating this whole thing... everybody I talked to said I shouldn't quit that I'm strong I can do it. It's got me very confused. Keep in mind I was very honest about how bad this has gotten... but last year I had to make up some stuff 'cause I drank down 2 gallons of high-test whiskey in a little over a week, I remember saying those exact words when I went to apologize and make it up. They didn't react much to that then either, I'd always assumed they thought I was either lying or exaggerating.

I don't know anymore. One thing at a time. Move. Then school. That's two things.

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ETA to add... welcome Spryte. Mind's not working, I was trying to find you in the Members with Less Than 2 Weeks thread... mind is *really* not working.

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Old 11-18-2009, 06:08 AM
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Welcome spryte! Hope you have a great day 2!

Good luck moving today, tb. Moving sucks...ugh.

Hope you all have a good hump day!
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Old 11-18-2009, 06:14 AM
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Hi Spryte......I hope to hear more from you too.......nice to have you here.

Well, it's Wednesday......I have a bunch of things to do today......that will keep me out of trouble.

Well, the good news is, my BF really isn't a big drinker.....since he has come home from hunting camp, he pulls out soda at night. That makes it easier on me. This relationship is only 2 months old......I have been crazy about him for a long time, but I mean together-together. He pretty much lives here now. Who am I kiddin. He DOES. We have settled into a real comfortableness..... life is good right now. So why do I wait for the other shoe to drop? Self-preservation I imagine.....anyway......enough of my rambling.......just my early morning thoughts. It's just nice to finally have some happiness. There has been somewhat of a drought around here.

TB, good luck with your move...........get er' done........so you can be rid of the psychos........

Day 13 Asta!!! Woo Hoo!!!! My fav number.

Have a strong day today November-ites.
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Old 11-18-2009, 06:25 AM
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Glad to hear he's a pop drinker, VC! I'm glad things are going well for you. (Did he bag a buck?) My guy's still up at camp, but I have a friend coming over tonight who cares more about me not drinking than I do. (Not really, but you know what I mean.)
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Old 11-18-2009, 06:49 AM
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They were elk hunting, Mirage.......one guy got a cow.........guess that's what they call the female......what do I know? lol
When does your dude come back?
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Old 11-18-2009, 09:43 AM
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I am on Day 2. My b/f and I broke up and I vowed to myself after months of closet drinking if I can get through this sober, I can get through anything.

That is what is keeping me on track. I hope someone else can feel this way also.
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Old 11-18-2009, 10:45 AM
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Go for it SS..........breakups are so hard......but masking it with alcohol will only prolong the pain......I should know! LOL. Will be thinking about ya, stay strong!
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Old 11-18-2009, 11:35 AM
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Welcome SS...sorry to hear about your breakup. You're right...about the benefits of doing it sober. Also I've found I'm generally more depressed/sad/cranky when I'm drinking. Not getting good sleep, etc. is a big part of it. Anyway..glad you're here with us!

Dude returns on Friday. A cow, eh? I wish he'd hunt actual cows and chickens...then I'd actually eat the meat! haha.
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Old 11-18-2009, 12:12 PM
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Day 8 and all is well!

Asta: I knew someone was going to bring up ordering Dunkin’… but you know what I love? The cream and sugar mixture. Mmmm…. And you can’t order that… once the start marketing that stuff… I am so there!

I hear you on the rest of it too… I’m feeling so much happier. It’s like my wife said, why couldn’t you have figured before finally got drunk enough to show the neighbors your who-dilly.

Who knows… anyway, we went to dinner with an old friend of hers from the States. Of course I roll up in to the restaurant thinking… “oh God… what am I going to order?” I can’t even remember a time being in a restaurant without ordering an alcoholic beverage. It was strange… it wasn’t like I wanted one… it was just habit. But, I just ordered a bottle of sparkling water and had a cup of tea afterwards. And you know what? I thing I enjoyed the food more than usual.

There is a part of me that wishes that I could get to some place where I could have just a glass of a nice wine with my main course… but the farther along I get in this process the more I realize that isn’t a very good idea. The reason I’m in this situation is that I can’t predict how many glasses of wine/beer/booze I will have after my first. Sometimes I would have just a glass wine with dinner… and sometimes I would consume another two bottles after that first glass. Erg. Oh well.
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