November 2009 Group
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Tytan, now matter where you are you can order Dunkin Donuts coffee online at dunkindonuts.com. Also if you google dunkindonuts coffee coupon, web sites will pop up where you can print out coupons for money off. DD web site says you can order whole beans or ground. It seems like you are set to make progress on your marriage. That's great. I have an amazing understanding husband. He has learned he can't control my drinking and certainly has learned over the years that "enabling" is not good for either of us. He has definitely seen an improvement in my mood and temperament this last week. I'm going to repeat myself here (forgive me folks for those who read this before) but I heard something on a TV show a while back that really stuck, kind of a bumper sticker mentality thing. "Happiness is a choice." I printed it out on a large sticky and stuck it in the kitchen. When drinking I so often would wallow in resentment, self pity, etc. Then when I first got sober, I wallowed in the "poor me, everyone else can drink, why can't I?" It's only day 12 this time around but the happiness choice thing has really been helpful. It really makes for a better day with the right attitude. If I start the same old "vicious cycle" (take note VC) I will be attending that same old pity party again. Hope everyone has a great day.
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Hi November gang...
Just popped my head in again to see how all of us are doing on our journey to and thru recovery land.
Alot of honesty being shared here...and that is great. We need to be honest about drinking/using...and those of us that respond need to encourage each other not to, no matter what the circumstance.
VC-I am sorry your friend ordered that beer for you, I know you must feel responsible for his incurred costs. But....you have come this far. Planning a day is as much a slip, as a slip. Why play with fire? Make a flimsy excuse about being on medication, or you might even feel like being honest with him later on. He most likely can send that beer back.
Peace...
Just popped my head in again to see how all of us are doing on our journey to and thru recovery land.
Alot of honesty being shared here...and that is great. We need to be honest about drinking/using...and those of us that respond need to encourage each other not to, no matter what the circumstance.VC-I am sorry your friend ordered that beer for you, I know you must feel responsible for his incurred costs. But....you have come this far. Planning a day is as much a slip, as a slip. Why play with fire? Make a flimsy excuse about being on medication, or you might even feel like being honest with him later on. He most likely can send that beer back.
Peace...
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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LOL...oh Asta, I did not take that as a dig......!! No harm, no foul.
Thanks for all the comments on beer day.....kinda why I threw it out there....to get some helpful responses I suppose.......and to have you guys talk me down!! HUGS.
Beautiful day here today.....hard to believe it is November. Talked to my best buddy today and we are going to have Turkey Day at my place this year.....we are invited all people who have nowhere to go.....divorcees...geeks, singles....etc....it should prove interesting! LOL.
What are you guys doing?
Thanks for all the comments on beer day.....kinda why I threw it out there....to get some helpful responses I suppose.......and to have you guys talk me down!! HUGS.
Beautiful day here today.....hard to believe it is November. Talked to my best buddy today and we are going to have Turkey Day at my place this year.....we are invited all people who have nowhere to go.....divorcees...geeks, singles....etc....it should prove interesting! LOL.
What are you guys doing?
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Arizona
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I woke up this morning and thought...ok what do I have to do today to get my life back...then realized I don't want my life back. I was acting crazy desperate, doing anything to try to hang onto that idea of who I was and what my life was...but now, sober. I realize that none of it was worth it.
So, here I am sober...with no clue what it is I want or who I am, and it's such a huge relief I can't even tell you. I don't have to fight to save that person I didn't even like. I just have to work recovery and I trust that as I go, something and someone will emerge. It had better, because I have no interest in being who I was before.
I feel sort of calm and numb and weird, but it's OK...at least for today. I got me to another meeting, may hit one this evening...and found a recovery site for people with my spiritual backround...and talked about my recovery with two of my siblings.
I don't want to ever have to be that other me again. Not that she was terrible, she was just so darn high maintenance
So, here I am sober...with no clue what it is I want or who I am, and it's such a huge relief I can't even tell you. I don't have to fight to save that person I didn't even like. I just have to work recovery and I trust that as I go, something and someone will emerge. It had better, because I have no interest in being who I was before.
I feel sort of calm and numb and weird, but it's OK...at least for today. I got me to another meeting, may hit one this evening...and found a recovery site for people with my spiritual backround...and talked about my recovery with two of my siblings.
I don't want to ever have to be that other me again. Not that she was terrible, she was just so darn high maintenance
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Originally Posted by ViciousCycle 
LOL...oh Asta, I did not take that as a dig......!! No harm, no foul.
Beautiful day here today.....hard to believe it is November. Talked to my best buddy today and we are going to have Turkey Day at my place this year.....we are invited all people who have nowhere to go.....divorcees...geeks, singles....etc....it should prove interesting! LOL.
We are just having a quiet weekend around T'giving. Husband will watch football & eat, I will cook and eat. Both of us doing things we enjoy.
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I still go to my mom and dad's house for Thanksgiving! (I know...I should offer to take over one of these years, but why ruin a good thing?)
The Lions always play on T-Day, so that's a given.. that we'll watch them lose with full stomachs.
The Lions always play on T-Day, so that's a given.. that we'll watch them lose with full stomachs.
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Morning. Middle of the night really. Can't sleep.
Got the internet back, for what it's worth. Showtime in three hours, gotta move and got 3 hours to do it, and I can barely move. It's day 2, I don't wanna be picking up boxes and carrying them.
Still debating this whole thing... everybody I talked to said I shouldn't quit that I'm strong I can do it. It's got me very confused. Keep in mind I was very honest about how bad this has gotten... but last year I had to make up some stuff 'cause I drank down 2 gallons of high-test whiskey in a little over a week, I remember saying those exact words when I went to apologize and make it up. They didn't react much to that then either, I'd always assumed they thought I was either lying or exaggerating.
I don't know anymore. One thing at a time. Move. Then school. That's two things.
TB.
ETA to add... welcome Spryte. Mind's not working, I was trying to find you in the Members with Less Than 2 Weeks thread... mind is *really* not working.
Got the internet back, for what it's worth. Showtime in three hours, gotta move and got 3 hours to do it, and I can barely move. It's day 2, I don't wanna be picking up boxes and carrying them.
Still debating this whole thing... everybody I talked to said I shouldn't quit that I'm strong I can do it. It's got me very confused. Keep in mind I was very honest about how bad this has gotten... but last year I had to make up some stuff 'cause I drank down 2 gallons of high-test whiskey in a little over a week, I remember saying those exact words when I went to apologize and make it up. They didn't react much to that then either, I'd always assumed they thought I was either lying or exaggerating.
I don't know anymore. One thing at a time. Move. Then school. That's two things.
TB.
ETA to add... welcome Spryte. Mind's not working, I was trying to find you in the Members with Less Than 2 Weeks thread... mind is *really* not working.
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Hi Spryte......I hope to hear more from you too.......nice to have you here.
Well, it's Wednesday......I have a bunch of things to do today......that will keep me out of trouble.
Well, the good news is, my BF really isn't a big drinker.....since he has come home from hunting camp, he pulls out soda at night. That makes it easier on me. This relationship is only 2 months old......I have been crazy about him for a long time, but I mean together-together. He pretty much lives here now. Who am I kiddin. He DOES. We have settled into a real comfortableness..... life is good right now. So why do I wait for the other shoe to drop? Self-preservation I imagine.....anyway......enough of my rambling.......just my early morning thoughts. It's just nice to finally have some happiness. There has been somewhat of a drought around here.
TB, good luck with your move...........get er' done........so you can be rid of the psychos........
Day 13 Asta!!! Woo Hoo!!!! My fav number.
Have a strong day today November-ites.
Well, it's Wednesday......I have a bunch of things to do today......that will keep me out of trouble.
Well, the good news is, my BF really isn't a big drinker.....since he has come home from hunting camp, he pulls out soda at night. That makes it easier on me. This relationship is only 2 months old......I have been crazy about him for a long time, but I mean together-together. He pretty much lives here now. Who am I kiddin. He DOES. We have settled into a real comfortableness..... life is good right now. So why do I wait for the other shoe to drop? Self-preservation I imagine.....anyway......enough of my rambling.......just my early morning thoughts. It's just nice to finally have some happiness. There has been somewhat of a drought around here.
TB, good luck with your move...........get er' done........so you can be rid of the psychos........
Day 13 Asta!!! Woo Hoo!!!! My fav number.
Have a strong day today November-ites.
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Glad to hear he's a pop drinker, VC! I'm glad things are going well for you. (Did he bag a buck?) My guy's still up at camp, but I have a friend coming over tonight who cares more about me not drinking than I do. (Not really, but you know what I mean.)
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I am on Day 2. My b/f and I broke up and I vowed to myself after months of closet drinking if I can get through this sober, I can get through anything.
That is what is keeping me on track. I hope someone else can feel this way also.
That is what is keeping me on track. I hope someone else can feel this way also.
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Welcome SS...sorry to hear about your breakup. You're right...about the benefits of doing it sober. Also I've found I'm generally more depressed/sad/cranky when I'm drinking. Not getting good sleep, etc. is a big part of it. Anyway..glad you're here with us!
Dude returns on Friday. A cow, eh? I wish he'd hunt actual cows and chickens...then I'd actually eat the meat! haha.
Dude returns on Friday. A cow, eh? I wish he'd hunt actual cows and chickens...then I'd actually eat the meat! haha.
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Day 8 and all is well!
Asta: I knew someone was going to bring up ordering Dunkin’… but you know what I love? The cream and sugar mixture. Mmmm…. And you can’t order that… once the start marketing that stuff… I am so there!
I hear you on the rest of it too… I’m feeling so much happier. It’s like my wife said, why couldn’t you have figured before finally got drunk enough to show the neighbors your who-dilly.
Who knows… anyway, we went to dinner with an old friend of hers from the States. Of course I roll up in to the restaurant thinking… “oh God… what am I going to order?” I can’t even remember a time being in a restaurant without ordering an alcoholic beverage. It was strange… it wasn’t like I wanted one… it was just habit. But, I just ordered a bottle of sparkling water and had a cup of tea afterwards. And you know what? I thing I enjoyed the food more than usual.
There is a part of me that wishes that I could get to some place where I could have just a glass of a nice wine with my main course… but the farther along I get in this process the more I realize that isn’t a very good idea. The reason I’m in this situation is that I can’t predict how many glasses of wine/beer/booze I will have after my first. Sometimes I would have just a glass wine with dinner… and sometimes I would consume another two bottles after that first glass. Erg. Oh well.
Asta: I knew someone was going to bring up ordering Dunkin’… but you know what I love? The cream and sugar mixture. Mmmm…. And you can’t order that… once the start marketing that stuff… I am so there!
I hear you on the rest of it too… I’m feeling so much happier. It’s like my wife said, why couldn’t you have figured before finally got drunk enough to show the neighbors your who-dilly.
Who knows… anyway, we went to dinner with an old friend of hers from the States. Of course I roll up in to the restaurant thinking… “oh God… what am I going to order?” I can’t even remember a time being in a restaurant without ordering an alcoholic beverage. It was strange… it wasn’t like I wanted one… it was just habit. But, I just ordered a bottle of sparkling water and had a cup of tea afterwards. And you know what? I thing I enjoyed the food more than usual.
There is a part of me that wishes that I could get to some place where I could have just a glass of a nice wine with my main course… but the farther along I get in this process the more I realize that isn’t a very good idea. The reason I’m in this situation is that I can’t predict how many glasses of wine/beer/booze I will have after my first. Sometimes I would have just a glass wine with dinner… and sometimes I would consume another two bottles after that first glass. Erg. Oh well.
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