Hello --- I'm New Here
his sweetheart
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Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: central ohio
Posts: 12
Hello --- I'm New Here
Um I'm not sure where to begin. *deep sigh*
I guess first off everyone can call me Harley or Spirit. I'm married, been married for about 2 1/2 years. My husband is an alcoholic and I'm here for support. We met online and when we first got together this wasn't even on the horizon. He didn't start this until after our first year together. He is a truckdriver. He had had a problem over 12 or 13 years ago with alcohol - he got a dui and lost his license for a year. But he went without his license up until 2 years ago this past June. When he got his license back and his cdl's, he got a job drivin over the road. We had trouble with his boss paying him - it was a small company {only 3 trucks}. He would send my husband out with no advance $$ - so basically my husband was to hungry. He still owes us over $1200. My husband went to work for someone else after dealing with this for several months. He has bounced around with several companies - 2 of them major companies but the money just wasn't there. He started drinking pretty heavy just about a year ago. I won't let him drink and drive. And he has enough sense about him to not fight me on it - He doesn't want to lose his license or cdl's. So when he does drink - I'm his DD.
I love my husband very much and I've tried to talk to him... but to no avail.
I was diagnosed a year ago July with severe sleep apnea, then arthritis and depression. I'm disabled and unable to work. I have no one to talk to about what I'm going thru here. I feel totally lost at the moment and don't really know what to do.
Nice to meet y'all
Harley
I guess first off everyone can call me Harley or Spirit. I'm married, been married for about 2 1/2 years. My husband is an alcoholic and I'm here for support. We met online and when we first got together this wasn't even on the horizon. He didn't start this until after our first year together. He is a truckdriver. He had had a problem over 12 or 13 years ago with alcohol - he got a dui and lost his license for a year. But he went without his license up until 2 years ago this past June. When he got his license back and his cdl's, he got a job drivin over the road. We had trouble with his boss paying him - it was a small company {only 3 trucks}. He would send my husband out with no advance $$ - so basically my husband was to hungry. He still owes us over $1200. My husband went to work for someone else after dealing with this for several months. He has bounced around with several companies - 2 of them major companies but the money just wasn't there. He started drinking pretty heavy just about a year ago. I won't let him drink and drive. And he has enough sense about him to not fight me on it - He doesn't want to lose his license or cdl's. So when he does drink - I'm his DD.
I love my husband very much and I've tried to talk to him... but to no avail.
I was diagnosed a year ago July with severe sleep apnea, then arthritis and depression. I'm disabled and unable to work. I have no one to talk to about what I'm going thru here. I feel totally lost at the moment and don't really know what to do.
Nice to meet y'all
Harley
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Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: MN
Posts: 40
Glad you found us! So sorry for the last year that you have had to endure. I know I was the one that was driving my family crazy over the last year. Hoping you can find support and great advise here. All the best.
Jules
Jules
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family!
Posts: 23,020
Hello Harley, and welcome to SR! You'll find plenty of information and support here, I hope you'll stick around and share with us.
What I'd really encourage you to do is to post your introduction in our Friends & Family forums, and start reading and posting there, it's a busy little area and they're very understanding and compassionate. I'm sure you'll find it helpful in your recovery.
What I'd really encourage you to do is to post your introduction in our Friends & Family forums, and start reading and posting there, it's a busy little area and they're very understanding and compassionate. I'm sure you'll find it helpful in your recovery.
Follow Directions!
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
Posts: 9,730
Welcome to SR Harley, check out the Friends and family forum, a lot of good people there that either are or have been in the same boat you are in now. In regards to your husband, well when he stops is when he has drank enough to where it is no longer worth it.
today at work!
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