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Old 09-05-2009, 09:39 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Well folks, my short time here is coming to an end. You guys have been a help and great source of positivity and encouragement for me at times when I've needed it. Unfortunately assorted encounters, observations, and comments have started to make this place something of a source of negativity for me. I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to improve myself, and if something is in anyway bringing me down, then I need to trim it. I won't delve into specifics.

Also, I'm trying a new approach as I near two months sober. I can see why they recommend 90 AA meetings in 90 days. In the first few days and weeks, I've come here everyday, but now I'm at a point where I feel that to be truly free of alcohol, that must include me being free of "recovery" stuff. Recovery stuff to me has just become yet another chain to alcohol. I've just thought myself around in circles about alcoholism and have personally exhausted the subject for myself. As I've noted elsewhere, I don't recommend at all for anyone else to take this approach, but I feel that by reading so much recovery and alcohol related information, posts, etc, that my life still revolves around alcohol. I want to be totally free. This feels right for me.

I wish everyone the best in their paths. SR - thanks for being here. You have helped me, and I hope you continue to help many more struggling alcoholics. I have referred one person to this site already who expressed a problem with alcohol, and I will not hesitate to refer others. all the best. .
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Old 09-05-2009, 09:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Old 09-05-2009, 09:52 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Old 09-05-2009, 10:20 PM   #4 (permalink)
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[QUOTE=matt88;2355999] but now I'm at a point where I feel that to be truly free of alcohol, that must include me being free of "recovery" stuff. Recovery stuff to me has just become yet another chain to alcohol. I've just thought myself around in circles about alcoholism and have personally exhausted the subject for myself. As I've noted elsewhere, I don't recommend at all for anyone else to take this approach, but I feel that by reading so much recovery and alcohol related information, posts, etc, that my life still revolves around alcohol. I want to be totally free. QUOTE]


I understand where you're coming from...I too sometimes feel that by being so wrapped up in becoming sober that I am still connected to alcohol...everyday still thinking about it in one sense or another...I know its better to be thinking about it where you're in control of it, but nonetheless, its still there and its tiresome...

Anyway, good luck on your journey...all the best.
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Old 09-05-2009, 10:38 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Old 09-05-2009, 10:53 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Well folks, my short time here is coming to an end. You guys have been a help and great source of positivity and encouragement for me at times when I've needed it. Unfortunately assorted encounters, observations, and comments have started to make this place something of a source of negativity for me. I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to improve myself, and if something is in anyway bringing me down, then I need to trim it. I won't delve into specifics.

Also, I'm trying a new approach as I near two months sober. I can see why they recommend 90 AA meetings in 90 days. In the first few days and weeks, I've come here everyday, but now I'm at a point where I feel that to be truly free of alcohol, that must include me being free of "recovery" stuff. Recovery stuff to me has just become yet another chain to alcohol. I've just thought myself around in circles about alcoholism and have personally exhausted the subject for myself. As I've noted elsewhere, I don't recommend at all for anyone else to take this approach, but I feel that by reading so much recovery and alcohol related information, posts, etc, that my life still revolves around alcohol. I want to be totally free. This feels right for me.

I wish everyone the best in their paths. SR - thanks for being here. You have helped me, and I hope you continue to help many more struggling alcoholics. I have referred one person to this site already who expressed a problem with alcohol, and I will not hesitate to refer others. all the best. .

Matt I hope you stay here. But if you decide to go, You have a good wind at your back in terms of recovery. You will fly past the negativity.
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Old 09-05-2009, 11:34 PM   #7 (permalink)
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l respect that !
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Old 09-05-2009, 11:47 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Old 09-06-2009, 06:40 AM   #9 (permalink)
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When you realize that SR's 'negativity' is a microcosm of real life's negativity, come on back.

We need to be able to deal with negativity, adversity, and success, all at the same time.

Reality can be an awakener.

We'll be here for you.

5 minutes later... an added note Matt... 4 or 5 people here who are constantly negative and annoying I have on block... I never see their posts anymore... I do a lot of that in real life too. So your point is well taken.
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Old 09-06-2009, 07:31 AM   #10 (permalink)
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In meetings and here on SR I
take what I want and leave the
rest.

Whatever will help me stay sober
oe more day.

Alcohol is what got me here in
recovery in the first place and
will always be there tempting
me because it is so cunning,
baffling and quite powerful.


Time and time again Ive heard
others say how getting a taste
of recovery had screwed up their
drinking carreers and going back
to the drink will never be the same.

It's a bummer isnt it?

There have also been countless
times that Ive heard from others
who have had a taste of sobriety
to only go back out then to return
to share with me that alcohol is
still alive and well and kicking azz.

For me I was so grateful for them
going out instead of me. But for
the Grace of my HP there goes I,
because that could have very well
been me.

It didnt matter if that person had
1 month, 5 yrs., 15 yrs., 25yrs,
if they went out, it only confirmed
to me that alcohol still didnt work.

At 19 yrs sober Im just one day
away from a drunk if i dont have
the principles and steps of recovery
to guide me along my journey in
life.

I cant keep my sobriety and all
the rewards that are granted to
me if i dont give the knowledge
that was so freely passed on to
me over the yrs.

Keep Coming Back. It works if
you work it.
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Old 09-06-2009, 07:50 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Matt, I agree with Sharon. I some times get sick of recover talk, but I feel obligated (in a good way) to give back. If not for the advice and help from SR and AA I would not be sober. I want to give my limited advice to those that need it. If no one had given it to me I would still be out there.
Anyway mate hope all goes well and you always welcome back
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Old 09-06-2009, 08:28 AM   #12 (permalink)
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matt, while I totally get what you're saying I do hope you'll be back. There is nothing wrong with taking a break. I know sometimes the constant talking about the subject can also be a trigger in several ways. Good luck to you and I really do hope to see you back again.
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Old 09-06-2009, 09:17 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I joined on here about 5 years ago. At that time, I spent more time then, I should've of on here.

Moderation is the key to being on here or anything else for that matter.

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Old 09-06-2009, 09:18 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Old 09-06-2009, 09:56 AM   #15 (permalink)
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"You guys have been a help and great source of positivity and encouragement for me at times when I've needed it."

Matt - I agree with the saying "take what is needed and leave the rest" - As much as I respect your decision to part from SR I hope that when the stress of the "outside world" is at its worse you will rememebr your quote above.

Best of luck on your journey.

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Old 09-06-2009, 10:05 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Old 09-06-2009, 10:13 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Wow, to be honest, your comments surprise me.

Sometimes there is negativity here, but no need for me to dwell on that. There is always something positive. And, I love working on recovery in the sense that is an experience of continuously growing and learning, in my life.

I wish you well.
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Old 09-06-2009, 12:33 PM   #18 (permalink)
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