just getting started
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Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: rochester ny
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just getting started
Today I have been sober for 10 days. I used to only have a few glasses of wine at night, then as my marraige became stressfull and began to fall apart, I began to drink a bottle of wine a night and even more so on the weekends. The main reason I stopped drinking was because I want my husband to stop. So I started off as just doing it to be supportive of him. Now that I have not drank (or smoked a cigarette) in 10 days, I realize now how much I was drinking in excess. Because my body is detoxing from drinking and smoking I feel absolutey horrible, especially at night when I try to sleep; insomnia, panic attacks, but I am determined to keep it up. I just want to know when I will 'feel' better and pray my husband will stick to this as well. He says he doesnt have the will power I do. Praying every day and thanking the Lord for his strenghth:praying
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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Congrats on your sober time and welcome to SR! It's great that you're able to stop drinking but as far as your partner stopping, there's nothing you can do to help unless they want to stop for themselves. Your sobriety is a wonderful example of the benefits of living sober, but it's up to your partner to stop for himself.
I'm glad you found us and joined the family. Lots of support here, and there's a friends and family of alcoholics forum which you could find helpful in dealing with your husband's drinking.
I'm glad you found us and joined the family. Lots of support here, and there's a friends and family of alcoholics forum which you could find helpful in dealing with your husband's drinking.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
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Hi, welcome to SR. The 3-4 weeks were the toughest for me physically but then the real work begins as you have to learn how to live, how to deal with life's ups and downs while sober.
I think you also have to focus on YOU primarily before you can really help another.
Keep coming back there's lots of great people here.
I think you also have to focus on YOU primarily before you can really help another.
Keep coming back there's lots of great people here.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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Welcome to our recovery community....
Please check out this link about sleeping problems
tho they are usual in early sobriety
Insomnia? 42 Simple Tips to Help You Get to Sleep - Insomnia treatment, cures
Blessings to the 2 of you
Please check out this link about sleeping problems
tho they are usual in early sobriety
Insomnia? 42 Simple Tips to Help You Get to Sleep - Insomnia treatment, cures
Blessings to the 2 of you
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Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: rochester ny
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Thank you so much jamdls and least! Since I have not had a drink, I do have the clear realization that I can only help myself. If my husband decides he 'needs' to go back to drinking, it has been made clear, there is no future for us. I am ok with this. As I said, I never realized how much I was drinking until I stopped, and I am so thankful I made the decision to quit. Thank you also for the info on about how long I may or may not feel crappy. It is so nice to have this forum....it is so nice to have people to talk to and get through....God bless
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Focus on your self & your sobriety, check out the friends and family section her in regards to how to deal with his continued drinking, you may want to consider Ala-non as well for dealing with him and AA for your self.
You are reaping the benefits of sobriety, the hardest part for many of us is not the actual stopping drinking, it is the staying stopped long term, this is one reason why many of us use recovery programs like AA, SMART & the like.
You are reaping the benefits of sobriety, the hardest part for many of us is not the actual stopping drinking, it is the staying stopped long term, this is one reason why many of us use recovery programs like AA, SMART & the like.
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Thank you everyone for your kind words, welcoming and suggestions. I know that the hardest part will be "staying stopped". I cannot kid myself. I am positive that once all the side effects come to an end, I will once again want a drink. But I am determined to stay focused on what I want out of my life and what the future will hold with my sobriety. I will definitely look into Al non and AA meetings in my area to keep me strong as all of my family and friends still drink and I dont want to take any steps backwards at this point in my life.
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