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Old 08-01-2009, 04:45 AM
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More mountains to climb?? Oh really??

Well for some, you may recall a few weeks back my freaking out over where I was going to live, having to start paying the X way too much money in child support leaving me in a financial situation and having to quit my lease. I have to, either that or an eviction. I'm not having that.

So here we are weeks later and the X comes to me with this proposal........why don't we get a place together OR I move in with him? Moving in with him would mean I pay all the bills. Him moving in with me would mean me subjecting myself to be booted out of my own place again by him. He's done this to me twice I don't see the point in "three times a charm!"

This is the man I asked to support me and help me. I had offered to go to treatment and I wasn't worth the time then. He should have never served me with divorce papers. He was irresponsible in our marriage, horrible with money and completely VACANT as a husband. I felt like I was totally alone. I DID NOT get married to be alone. It was depressing, I drank a lot and eventually drank myself into being one very sick girl. It was all horrible.

So now HE needs ME again?

Interesting...............
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Old 08-01-2009, 04:57 AM
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well you know what I think





and

let him sort his own problems out, VB
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Old 08-01-2009, 06:11 AM
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Just take care of vegibean. Whatever you decide to do is up to you. But just make sure it's for the good of vegibean.
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Old 08-01-2009, 07:04 AM
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Sounds like, that way madness lies!



Seriously, it sounds like a BAD idea!
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Old 08-01-2009, 07:12 AM
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You know what to do Vegibean!
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Old 08-01-2009, 08:18 AM
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You are able to look at things clearly and, it seems, with resentment.
You are weighing the pros & cons while being honest about the past.

This is indeed significant progress & a restoration of some sanity!!
Thank you for staying committed to your life and your recovery!!
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Old 08-01-2009, 08:31 AM
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LMAO @ Stone.

Aiy-eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 08-01-2009, 09:38 AM
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Oh Vegi I think that is hysterical, good thing I had already swallowed the coffee in my mouth or it would have been all over my laptop, rofl

He really is sicker than you were, lol

You know what to do and you know that NO is a complete sentence, lmao

I am glad you are hanging on to a bit of your sense of humor. Way to go!!!!!

Love and hugs,
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Old 08-01-2009, 09:42 AM
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Laurie, when I told my sponsor about the texts I was getting from yesterday she busted out laughing. Yes, it's amazing, truly amazing.
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Old 08-01-2009, 09:49 AM
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Red face

There is another option,

To Forgive is to set a prisoner

free

and discover that the prisoner was

you.


regardless of if you do or don't
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All I have to say is...GOOD GRIEF!!!

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Old 08-01-2009, 12:33 PM
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((VB))

I was just thinking about you, yesterday, wondering how things were going with you.

My XABF had two favorite sayings:

#1 - "there are 2 things I ain't never seen - a dinosaur, and a b***h I need
#2 - you'll need me, before I EVER need you.

Okay...last time I heard from him, he was in jail....again. Got an entire letter, saying "I love you, I NEEEEEEEEED you, you're the only one I care about, I can't live without you, I really need you. Oh, and can you please send me some money, I'm so hungry!"

What he GOT was a letter telling him how well I was doing in recovery, and wishing him well

Hugs and prayers!

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