How did you tell them?
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
Posts: 9,730
Sunshine I know it seems hard as heck to just tell people one has quit drinking, but I have found that the more open and honest I am that when they say "The truth will set you FREE!" it is very true!
One important thing you will find is REAL friends support one when they need it. If you tell a real friend you have quit drinking and why, they will support you, they will come up with things to do that do not involve drinking.
Drinking buddies are just that and to be honest, they are no lose. I have found a ton of real freinds, sober friends in AA that do tons of things that do not involve drinking.
One important thing you will find is REAL friends support one when they need it. If you tell a real friend you have quit drinking and why, they will support you, they will come up with things to do that do not involve drinking.
Drinking buddies are just that and to be honest, they are no lose. I have found a ton of real freinds, sober friends in AA that do tons of things that do not involve drinking.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: La La Land, USA
Posts: 2,567
I stopped hanging out with my drinking buddies, we had little else in common. If I happened to see them and they asked why I wasn't at the bar anymore, I simply told them I quit drinking.
Anyone who tried to tell me I should have, or that I didn't have a problem, or encouraged me to have 'just one', was and is toxic to my life and threatening to my sobriety, and definitely not someone who cares for my well being.
Plus, now that I don't drink, I have no reason to hang out in bars or around drinkers.
Anyone who tried to tell me I should have, or that I didn't have a problem, or encouraged me to have 'just one', was and is toxic to my life and threatening to my sobriety, and definitely not someone who cares for my well being.
Plus, now that I don't drink, I have no reason to hang out in bars or around drinkers.
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 19
Thanks again everyone! On saturday, I told people that I wasn't going out, no way, not after the S*** show that was friday...and I had a little peer pressure, but not as much as I expected - only one person came and banged on my door and tried to actively drag me out. I felt like I was missing out on fun, but then yesterday morning when I woke up after an awesome 10 hour sleep, I was a lot happier with myself.
So.. let's see if I can keep this up.
So.. let's see if I can keep this up.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Dallas, Tx
Posts: 2,405
I found new outlets as well, my drinking buddies continued to get in touch w/me for awhile but I found them to be really boring once I got sober so I completely cut them out of my life. The most persistant 1, I just sent him an email explaining that I needed and wanted a new life for myself and he wasn't to be part of it.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 1,385
Hey SP. Welcome to SR
Here's a link to thread that is similar to the one you have going here.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ll-people.html
Here's a link to thread that is similar to the one you have going here.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ll-people.html
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