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Old 07-23-2009, 07:22 PM
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Good for you Jim, And it keeps getting better.
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Old 07-23-2009, 07:22 PM
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Great on the 50 days sober baldjim. It only gets better

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Old 07-23-2009, 07:26 PM
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Yeah for you!!! Yes indeed the rewards are awesome!
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Old 07-23-2009, 07:29 PM
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well i put the plug in the jug but still struggle with inner peace.. the not drinking is easy now but the living with a sober chad is very hard on a day to day bases..\my significant other has never seen me drink and does not understand sometimes when i have to go to a meeting.. its almost like she truly believes i am not alcoholic...Not sure what to do .. i feel like i am walking on egg shells when i want to go to a meeting and she is not always understanding..I have gotten away form my meetings alot and dont go near as mush as i did before we met. I know i need to go but cnat handle feeling guilty for needing a meeting.. Any input?


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I'd recommend having a discussion with your SO about the subject, starting with you asking her if she thinks there's anything she does that she feels you don't understand. Get as much detail as you can; don't get defensive if you think you actually understand - try your best to see her situation from her perspective. If you still have the energy after that, then see if she is willing to swap perspectives, and take on your want/need to go to meetings. If she further insists that she doesn't get it/doesn't understand, then she may have a problem with empathy... I sincerely hope she doesn't, as I imagine that further conversation on the matter may end up nowhere and I can't think of where to take the situation after that...
I wish you the best, nonetheless
Take care, and I hope your guilty feelings fade!
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Old 07-23-2009, 08:13 PM
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Nice going, Jim. Now maybe some hair will start growing again. But now that you have a small bit of sobriety behind you, what are your plans for staying sober? I may have missed it, but I can't remember you ever mentioning AA. Have you considered this as a way of maintaining your sobriety?
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Old 07-23-2009, 09:08 PM
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50 days is awesome Jim...not sure it really does grow hair tho. LOL
Thanks for your positive posts mate - always a pleasure

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Old 07-23-2009, 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by chadv View Post
well i put the plug in the jug but still struggle with inner peace.. the not drinking is easy now but the living with a sober chad is very hard on a day to day bases..\my significant other has never seen me drink and does not understand sometimes when i have to go to a meeting.. its almost like she truly believes i am not alcoholic...Not sure what to do .. i feel like i am walking on egg shells when i want to go to a meeting and she is not always understanding..I have gotten away form my meetings alot and dont go near as mush as i did before we met. I know i need to go but cnat handle feeling guilty for needing a meeting.. Any input?


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I'm not an AAer Chad so I've not dealt with anything like this but if there was something I felt I needed to to maintain my sobriety, and my wife didn't understand? I'd lay it out.

I might even suggest alanon for her, tho it sounds like in your case she might not be into that.

Bottom line is, you are an alcoholic....and you need to do what you need to do to stay sober Chad.

What does your sponsor think?
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Old 07-24-2009, 03:41 AM
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Originally Posted by joedris View Post
Nice going, Jim. Now maybe some hair will start growing again. But now that you have a small bit of sobriety behind you, what are your plans for staying sober? I may have missed it, but I can't remember you ever mentioning AA. Have you considered this as a way of maintaining your sobriety?
thanks for your reply

i have not gone to AA but my advice after what my doctor told me yesterday would be

DO NOT just quit without seeing your doctor first as i did this can be very dangerous ,i had very high levels of enzyme thingys??? and i should not of just stopped drinking ,could explain why i was in so much pain at first

the other thing i would say ia do go to AA ,I HAD NOT REALISED HOW MUCH I HAD BEEN USING BOOZE TO GET ME THROUGH THE TOUGH TIMES

i would honestly say giving up the phsycal addiction to drink was much easier than the lonliness and feelings of utter despair i felt

it was almost like i had died ,greif,sorrow,self pity,self loathing you name it i felt it but thanks to the kind posts on SR i realised that i was not alone and other people felt them too which helped me through the toughest times

the darkest hours dont always come in the night :c014

this song helped me thorugh it all

YouTube - Shinedown - Sound of Madness lyrics
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