I didn't NEED to drink... I CHOSE to drink!
If you mentally crave a relationship, even if it's not physical, to me, that is an addiction.
But in regards to everything that you said, you've had detox symptoms physically, so wouldn't that prove to you that you also have a physical addiction?
If you "choose" to drink, then you can "choose" not to, right? It's no big deal. Just stop drinking for a month, make it your choice.
I thought like that - thought I could stop for a month, then re-train myself to drink normally. What I found out, was that if I could drink normally, I would have done it in the first place.
Now that I've made to decision to quit drinking altogether, guess what? I don't have to think constantly about alcohol. What would your life be like if you could give up the constant thoughts about drinking? How much time do you spend each day thinking about drinking? That's what got me.
But in regards to everything that you said, you've had detox symptoms physically, so wouldn't that prove to you that you also have a physical addiction?
If you "choose" to drink, then you can "choose" not to, right? It's no big deal. Just stop drinking for a month, make it your choice.
I thought like that - thought I could stop for a month, then re-train myself to drink normally. What I found out, was that if I could drink normally, I would have done it in the first place.
Now that I've made to decision to quit drinking altogether, guess what? I don't have to think constantly about alcohol. What would your life be like if you could give up the constant thoughts about drinking? How much time do you spend each day thinking about drinking? That's what got me.
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I see some more similarities in the last few posts. Here is my main problem with AA. Please correct my misconceptions. I think ... I KNOW I am missing the big picture here. I'm a scientist by training (Masters in biology... cancer research for 3 years) and a future dentist (2 yrs more of a 4 yr program). To me, an allergy of the body = histamine and leukotriene release. I'm trying to get around my background to see the big picture here, but if the very definition of what AA is set up to do, defines an allergy of the body as being...not a true allergy at all, I'm already kind of lost
Laura, AA is not the only option for recovery.
I am not an AA person and there are many here who follow recovery paths other than AA. I also believe that stopping drinking is easy and that it is the mental aspect that is SO difficult. We need to find new ways to deal with life, its problems and ups and downs and that is what the journey of recovery is about.
I am not an AA person and there are many here who follow recovery paths other than AA. I also believe that stopping drinking is easy and that it is the mental aspect that is SO difficult. We need to find new ways to deal with life, its problems and ups and downs and that is what the journey of recovery is about.
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I see some more similarities in the last few posts. Here is my main problem with AA. Please correct my misconceptions. I think ... I KNOW I am missing the big picture here. I'm a scientist by training (Masters in biology... cancer research for 3 years) and a future dentist (2 yrs more of a 4 yr program). To me, an allergy of the body = histamine and leukotriene release. I'm trying to get around my background to see the big picture here, but if the very definition of what AA is set up to do, defines an allergy of the body as being...not a true allergy at all, I'm already kind of lost
More recently, however, I have decided that I just can't continue to to what I've been doing to myself anymore. Parts of the AA program I find helpful and make sense to me, so I have found a person who works a sucessful AA program to help me with these things. There are other programs that rely on a more cognetive behavioural approach, such as SMART or Lifering, to name a couple. I am also trying to use parts of these programs as well. Finally I see a theripist (or I will be seeing one soon, I just moved and need to find a new one) who will hopefully help tie all of this together.
My point is, you can always find a million reasons why AA or any recovery program, or ANYTHING in general, is NOT for you. Go to a meeting or two, see what you think, try not drinking for 30 days, check out some of the other recovery programs (there is an extensive list in the "sticky" posts in the Secular Connections forum), do what YOU need to do to help YOURSELF.
There is a saying in AA "take what you need and leave the rest behind." That one saying (and AA has a lot of them!!) helps me more than anything!! You will find those who will tell you if you don't do it this way or do it that way you are doomed. They are just trying to share their experience of what has worked for them, and many are very passionate about it. Listen to what they have to offer, and find out what works for you. This is life or death stuff for many people here. You may not yet be at that point, you may never get to that point, but it is clearly effecting your life in a negative way as you have pointed out in many different ways.
Just so you know, one reason I "know" a lot about "recovery" is that I have spent years (begining with my join date here in Feb 2002) "researching" it. I had to make sure I got it exactly right, just for me. During that "research" time, my drinking went from getting buzzed occasionally to drinking a half bottle of port wine (decent stuff), to chugging a whole bottle (cheep stuff) while locked in the bathroom, to a half bottle of Bacardi or Seagrams 7, to a whole bottle of the cheapest hooch I could find, and now that doesn't even get me "suffeciently drunk!! I went from being happily married with a beautiful little boy, to an inpatient rehab, to stints in the mental hospital, divorced, having to move back in with my parents at age 40 with no job. Again, I am not you, but these have been my experiences while I carefully studied "recovery" and argued why it would not work for me. Guess what, it didn't!!
I am now making an actual effort to try to recover, and it is freakin hard!! It's a series of falling down, getting back up, trying to learn from my mistakes, but now dwell on them and doing what is suggested by those who have some success at recovery, even if it doesn't make sense to me at the time. I mean what is the worst thing that could happen?? It doesn't work. Well, my way sure hasn't been working, so logically it makes sense to take advice from those who have a way that has worked for them. I'm at least trying it, it's all I can do.
Hope some of this rambling mess helps you along your path. There is no one single path to recovery, but it does help you find your way if you follow the advice and suggestions of those who have traveled the path before you. Take care.
I'm not an AAer either Laura
heres a link to many programmes - not just AA/NA. I encourage you to check them out.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...resources.html
Also check out our Secular Connections forum - you'll find other ppl with similar ideas as yrself there
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heres a link to many programmes - not just AA/NA. I encourage you to check them out.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...resources.html
Also check out our Secular Connections forum - you'll find other ppl with similar ideas as yrself there
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I think AA definitely misappropriates the word allergy. The phenomenon they are describing is definitely real but I too would not call it an allergy. However, there are many other much more recent sources for researching the science of alcoholism:
Welcome to NIAAA
Brain Damage Caused by Alcohol Consumption
And I am sure you can use your library resources available (digital and otherwise) through dental school for doing hardcore research if you want. The thing that I do know is that cognitive functioning is affected by chronic alcohol abuse. I know this because I have seen it in myself. I didn't notice it in while I was drinking; I mean I graduated from an Ivy League school getting so loaded every night with a great GPA. So markers such as that aren't really accurate. But what I have noticed is this. I was in therapy while I was drinking. I am still in therapy at the same times with the same therapist. The quality of therapy and what I get out of it is improved about 500%. Something drastic has changed in my life. It is funny too because for the last few years of my life I would be dry for one month here and there but this never happened. Finally my brain is healing and recovery is taking hold. I can definitely notice the before and after. For that alone quitting drinking is worth it.
However, I think identifying with the science is hard because ultimately that is purely only an intellectual exercise. What made me so happy to a certain extent was when I started reading about the emotional side of alcoholism— hearing about the void people felt, the isolation, and the pattern of people's lives. I had so many markers. I had felt so off my entire life and for once I finally fit into a group. I had found a solution to my life, oh, I am an alcoholic that is why I feel like sh*t. And ultimately I was scarily cookie cutter as an alcoholic. I never hit a very external bottom with DUIs, losing jobs, etc. but I def hit what I might term a spiritual or emotional type bottom. In early recovery I really loved these books:
Drinking a Love Story by Caroline Knapp
Memoir by high-functioning alcoholic, really good, i might read this one first
Sober for Good by Anne Fletcher
about people getting sober in all different ways, aa and non-aa ways, based on studies and interviews
A Place Called Self: Women, Sobriety and Radical Transformation by Stephanie Brown
Another great resource for listening to stories is an AA meeting (I'm not in AA either). You don't have to participate. You can just go to listen. If you go to a speaker-discussion it can be really interesting and enlightening to hear peoples' experiences from their mouths. Their is no obligation to join or anything.
SMART recovery website has some tools that take a more rational approach in the beginning for examining your drinking. They might be helpful. You can find them here:
SMART RecoveryŽ - Tool Chest and Homework
and the lifering website has some interesting articles as well, I'm not sure about their toolbox but here is the link
Toolbox
And almost forgot here is a radio interview with the author of Sober for Good and an author of another book about women and drinking on Talk of the Nation (NPR)
Problem Drinking : NPR
Welcome to NIAAA
Brain Damage Caused by Alcohol Consumption
And I am sure you can use your library resources available (digital and otherwise) through dental school for doing hardcore research if you want. The thing that I do know is that cognitive functioning is affected by chronic alcohol abuse. I know this because I have seen it in myself. I didn't notice it in while I was drinking; I mean I graduated from an Ivy League school getting so loaded every night with a great GPA. So markers such as that aren't really accurate. But what I have noticed is this. I was in therapy while I was drinking. I am still in therapy at the same times with the same therapist. The quality of therapy and what I get out of it is improved about 500%. Something drastic has changed in my life. It is funny too because for the last few years of my life I would be dry for one month here and there but this never happened. Finally my brain is healing and recovery is taking hold. I can definitely notice the before and after. For that alone quitting drinking is worth it.
However, I think identifying with the science is hard because ultimately that is purely only an intellectual exercise. What made me so happy to a certain extent was when I started reading about the emotional side of alcoholism— hearing about the void people felt, the isolation, and the pattern of people's lives. I had so many markers. I had felt so off my entire life and for once I finally fit into a group. I had found a solution to my life, oh, I am an alcoholic that is why I feel like sh*t. And ultimately I was scarily cookie cutter as an alcoholic. I never hit a very external bottom with DUIs, losing jobs, etc. but I def hit what I might term a spiritual or emotional type bottom. In early recovery I really loved these books:
Drinking a Love Story by Caroline Knapp
Memoir by high-functioning alcoholic, really good, i might read this one first
Sober for Good by Anne Fletcher
about people getting sober in all different ways, aa and non-aa ways, based on studies and interviews
A Place Called Self: Women, Sobriety and Radical Transformation by Stephanie Brown
Another great resource for listening to stories is an AA meeting (I'm not in AA either). You don't have to participate. You can just go to listen. If you go to a speaker-discussion it can be really interesting and enlightening to hear peoples' experiences from their mouths. Their is no obligation to join or anything.
SMART recovery website has some tools that take a more rational approach in the beginning for examining your drinking. They might be helpful. You can find them here:
SMART RecoveryŽ - Tool Chest and Homework
and the lifering website has some interesting articles as well, I'm not sure about their toolbox but here is the link
Toolbox
And almost forgot here is a radio interview with the author of Sober for Good and an author of another book about women and drinking on Talk of the Nation (NPR)
Problem Drinking : NPR
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I was told by someone when I was new in aa that back when the big book was written that the definition of the word allergy is roughly= when you put a substance into your body you cannot guarantee what the reaction will be. I find that characterized my drinking a lot I didn't know if I would just be drunk and have a fun night or end up in the hospital. Hope that helps! Good luck to you laura.
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I'm not one of the disappointed ones, just one of the nervous ones. I think we're twins in the alcoholic family from what you described.
I went through the EXACT same thought processes you detailed in the OP of this thread. Over and over. I had so much fun drinking and had no serious consequences, but yet I came to a point I had to stop drinking because my intellect won over my happy-go-lucky-fun side when I realized:
This drinking business is getting worse and it's going to get a lot worse.
I'm hoping you keep hanging around here because this place isn't just for people who've crashed and burned; it's also for those on the fence trying to learn about their own habits and what might be around the corner.
My best wishes!
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I went through the EXACT same thought processes you detailed in the OP of this thread. Over and over. I had so much fun drinking and had no serious consequences, but yet I came to a point I had to stop drinking because my intellect won over my happy-go-lucky-fun side when I realized:
This drinking business is getting worse and it's going to get a lot worse.
I'm hoping you keep hanging around here because this place isn't just for people who've crashed and burned; it's also for those on the fence trying to learn about their own habits and what might be around the corner.
My best wishes!
Classical, DAY 211
When I start drinking I think I continue to drink because I want to. It 'seems' like somewhere along the line, I change my mind and just want to continue drinking. I don't see it that way now. I heard a great analogy that goes something like this:
We all have a craving right now. We just don't know it because it is being satisfied. We don't even notice it. It's called breathing. Try to stop and you will experience a craving real soon. That's the way it is for alcoholics. They think it is a choice; however, if they run short or they goto a party and only have one or two drinks. The craving is there. It's said that nonalcoholics don't experience this. They will be just as satisfied to switch over to water or something.
Not picking up the first drink, now that's another problem...
We all have a craving right now. We just don't know it because it is being satisfied. We don't even notice it. It's called breathing. Try to stop and you will experience a craving real soon. That's the way it is for alcoholics. They think it is a choice; however, if they run short or they goto a party and only have one or two drinks. The craving is there. It's said that nonalcoholics don't experience this. They will be just as satisfied to switch over to water or something.
Not picking up the first drink, now that's another problem...
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... I took care of a little over 1/2 a bottle of wine... not too bad. When the 4th rolled around, I CHOSE to drink. I didn't crave it... I didn't NEED it... I just simply said "What's the difference?"
Obviously, this isn't causing anything more than minor occasional problems, people laugh it off largely. I regret it after, but others don't seem to mind (aside from one friend and she is likely overreacting)... I'll be around anyway, but I'm wondering how strong my desire truly is to change this in my life...
Obviously, this isn't causing anything more than minor occasional problems, people laugh it off largely. I regret it after, but others don't seem to mind (aside from one friend and she is likely overreacting)... I'll be around anyway, but I'm wondering how strong my desire truly is to change this in my life...
I'm not going to get into a "you chose/didn't choose to drink" rant. You can decide that for yourself. It's a big part of your quest for sobriety/recovery, assuming you desire to be done with it for good and all.
But when you said you chose to drink, you didn't crave it? That last part is correct.
The 1st drink is not about craving. Whether you set yourself up or not is not important... at least not under the few simple rules that I use from the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. The 1st step in that program says that I will drink no matter what... if it was up to me.
If I'm going to embark on the spiritual path for recovery, I have to realize two things;
If I can look at that and go from there, decide for myself that I want sobriety and am willing to go to any lengths for it, aka do a couple of things , then I can get and stay sober for the rest of my life.
If my 1st drink was a choice, this would become my new sobriety program;
I choose to not drink.
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How can they choose to drink when they have the Great Obsession going on? What in the world is all of this garbage about choice?
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I see some more similarities in the last few posts. Here is my main problem with AA. Please correct my misconceptions. I think ... I KNOW I am missing the big picture here. I'm a scientist by training (Masters in biology... cancer research for 3 years) and a future dentist (2 yrs more of a 4 yr program). To me, an allergy of the body = histamine and leukotriene release. I'm trying to get around my background to see the big picture here, but if the very definition of what AA is set up to do, defines an allergy of the body as being...not a true allergy at all, I'm already kind of lost
I don't know what happened to pages 23 and 24, but \ some good stuff on page 25.
To my understanding, nothing's been touched on that separates the alky from the hard drinker yet... that unability of the alcoholic's body to break the acetone down which destroys the very organs responsible for further breaking down more alcohol AND creates what we call a craving for more of the same. That description is in here somewhere. Maybe I've missed it.
A little talk of alcohol's effect on alkies, namely malnutrition here on page 29.
I love this book's description of how alcoholism progresses from early stage to later stages in the alcoholic. An alcoholic in the very early stages shows practically no signs of having any reason or need to want to stop... when there may have still been time for some.
I think I was somehow busted way early on. I blacked out and became unconscience in my mom's and brother's arms at the age of 10. When I came too about 7 or 8 hours later, I felt a bit nervous about what I'd done, but was very proud and content about myself at what I'd just discovered. I felt for the first time in my life that I was plugged into the Universe.
So the spiritual thing is a real trip for me. No one's designed a meter to capture or test this one. The problem with doing that is the limitations of our minds. It's like trying to ask how many angels can dance on the head of a pin or something.
I disagree here. I think the word works just fine in the context that it's used. An allergy is a physical phenomena. When an alky drinks booze, something physical happens. This allergy and that craving only happens for most when booze is in the body, not prior to the first drink.
But it's all acedemic for the A.A. program as the recovery from it only involves the mental obsession, not the physical aspects of it.
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I don't know what happened to pages 23 and 24, but ...
To my understanding, nothing's been touched on that separates the alky from the hard drinker yet... that unability of the alcoholic's body to break the acetone down which destroys the very organs responsible for further breaking down more alcohol AND creates what we call a craving for more of the same. That description is in here somewhere. Maybe I've missed it...
To my understanding, nothing's been touched on that separates the alky from the hard drinker yet... that unability of the alcoholic's body to break the acetone down which destroys the very organs responsible for further breaking down more alcohol AND creates what we call a craving for more of the same. That description is in here somewhere. Maybe I've missed it...
{Page 35 & Others}
(I'm going to grab a few things here and there starting on page 35)
Acetaldehyde, the intermediate byproduct of alcohol metabolism, appears to be one of the major villians in the onset of alcoholic drinking. The trouble probably begins in the liver ...
... found that the same amount of alcohol produced very different blood acetaldehyde levels in alcoholics and nonalcoholics. Much higher levels were reached in alcoholics. Lieber theorized that this unusual buildup of acetaldehyde was caused in part by a malfunctioning of the liver's enzymes.
... took this acetaldehyde difference in alcoholics one step further. His studies confirmed that, in alcoholics, the breakdown of acetaldehyde into acetate -- the second step in alcohol metabolism -- is performed at about half the rate of "normal" i.e. nonalcoholic metabolism. It is this slowdown in metabolism which apparently causes acetaldehyde to accumulate.
... Heredity is clearly implicated in these studies ...
In summary, addiction to alcohol may, in part, be traced back to a liver enzyme malfunction which results in a buildup of acetaldehyde throughout the body. In the brain, these large amounts of acetaldehyde interact with the brain amines to create the isoquinolines. These mischievous substances may trigger the alcoholic's need to drink more and more alcohol to counter the painful effects of the progressive buildup of acetaldehyde.
... Accumulated evidence clearly indicates that alcoholism is hereditary ...
... The weight of evidence clearly links alcoholism to heredity ...
Goodwin's studies provide compelling evidence that alcoholics do not drink addictively because they are depressed, lonely, immature, or dissatisfied. They drink addictively because they have inherited a physical susceptibility to alcohol which results in addiction if they drink.
Furthermore, this evidence has profound implications for treatment. While it may be possible to teach the problem drinker how to drink in a more responsible way, the alcoholic's drinking is controlled by physiological factors which cannot be altered through psychological methods such as counseling, threats, punishment, or reward.
In other words, the alcoholic is powerless to control his reaction to alcohol.
...
(I'm going to grab a few things here and there starting on page 35)
Acetaldehyde, the intermediate byproduct of alcohol metabolism, appears to be one of the major villians in the onset of alcoholic drinking. The trouble probably begins in the liver ...
... found that the same amount of alcohol produced very different blood acetaldehyde levels in alcoholics and nonalcoholics. Much higher levels were reached in alcoholics. Lieber theorized that this unusual buildup of acetaldehyde was caused in part by a malfunctioning of the liver's enzymes.
... took this acetaldehyde difference in alcoholics one step further. His studies confirmed that, in alcoholics, the breakdown of acetaldehyde into acetate -- the second step in alcohol metabolism -- is performed at about half the rate of "normal" i.e. nonalcoholic metabolism. It is this slowdown in metabolism which apparently causes acetaldehyde to accumulate.
... Heredity is clearly implicated in these studies ...
In summary, addiction to alcohol may, in part, be traced back to a liver enzyme malfunction which results in a buildup of acetaldehyde throughout the body. In the brain, these large amounts of acetaldehyde interact with the brain amines to create the isoquinolines. These mischievous substances may trigger the alcoholic's need to drink more and more alcohol to counter the painful effects of the progressive buildup of acetaldehyde.
... Accumulated evidence clearly indicates that alcoholism is hereditary ...
... The weight of evidence clearly links alcoholism to heredity ...
Goodwin's studies provide compelling evidence that alcoholics do not drink addictively because they are depressed, lonely, immature, or dissatisfied. They drink addictively because they have inherited a physical susceptibility to alcohol which results in addiction if they drink.
Furthermore, this evidence has profound implications for treatment. While it may be possible to teach the problem drinker how to drink in a more responsible way, the alcoholic's drinking is controlled by physiological factors which cannot be altered through psychological methods such as counseling, threats, punishment, or reward.
In other words, the alcoholic is powerless to control his reaction to alcohol.
...
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By Wednesday of last week, I felt fine. No more headache, no more pins and needles (which scared the heck outta me while they persisted!)...these things were pretty mild anyway, so it could have probably been from anything, technically. So... driving up to my hometown 9 hours away for the 4th of July I already had a 'what's the big deal anyway' attitude. I had set myself up for drinking... and I figured I can handle this, everyone else will be drinking.
I got up there on Thursday and as I sat with my inlaws and my family, I took care of a little over 1/2 a bottle of wine... not too bad. When the 4th rolled around, I CHOSE to drink. I didn't crave it... I didn't NEED it... I just simply said "What's the difference?"
The day of the party, I didn't act like an a$$. I moved through 1 1/2 bottles of wine, some Crown and Jack, a couple of margaritas and vodka tonic. A bunch of my family members (including my inlaws) were making comments to me and others... most thought it was just funny that I had a drink in my hand every single minute and was laughing a lot and overly social. My buzz wore off despite continuous drinking and I just didn't care... I didn't grab a coke or some water, I just grabbed more vodka, never regaining that feeling.
Now I wonder how I looked... how I acted... how blatent it was... Point is that I didn't NEED it. I WANTED it and so I had it. Because of this, I don't even feel it was a 'failure' on my part, not alcoholic behavior... if only I could get a handle on when to stop... If only I cared enough once I started to say enough is enough. I COULD stop, I just don't think to... or care to.
Obviously, this isn't causing anything more than minor occasional problems, people laugh it off largely. I regret it after, but others don't seem to mind (aside from one friend and she is likely overreacting)... I'll be around anyway, but I'm wondering how strong my desire truly is to change this in my life.
Thanks for listening and I wish you all continued success.
I got up there on Thursday and as I sat with my inlaws and my family, I took care of a little over 1/2 a bottle of wine... not too bad. When the 4th rolled around, I CHOSE to drink. I didn't crave it... I didn't NEED it... I just simply said "What's the difference?"
The day of the party, I didn't act like an a$$. I moved through 1 1/2 bottles of wine, some Crown and Jack, a couple of margaritas and vodka tonic. A bunch of my family members (including my inlaws) were making comments to me and others... most thought it was just funny that I had a drink in my hand every single minute and was laughing a lot and overly social. My buzz wore off despite continuous drinking and I just didn't care... I didn't grab a coke or some water, I just grabbed more vodka, never regaining that feeling.
Now I wonder how I looked... how I acted... how blatent it was... Point is that I didn't NEED it. I WANTED it and so I had it. Because of this, I don't even feel it was a 'failure' on my part, not alcoholic behavior... if only I could get a handle on when to stop... If only I cared enough once I started to say enough is enough. I COULD stop, I just don't think to... or care to.
Obviously, this isn't causing anything more than minor occasional problems, people laugh it off largely. I regret it after, but others don't seem to mind (aside from one friend and she is likely overreacting)... I'll be around anyway, but I'm wondering how strong my desire truly is to change this in my life.
Thanks for listening and I wish you all continued success.
So what's your point?
It looks to me like you either want some sort of validation or that you would like us to convince you of the folly of your ways. Like Carol said, that is not what we do.
I'm not in the business of convincing anyone whether they are alcoholic or not or whether they have lost the power of choice. There is a much better teacher than I or anyone else on this board can ever be. It's called alcohol, the Great Persuader.
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Laura...what struck me most about your post was the following line..."but I'm wondering how strong my desire truly is to change this in my life"
It would seem to me that until you answer this question for yourself you will never be able to steer yourself clear of your addiction. The desire to change must out weigh the desire to stay the same. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
I like Tommy commend you for speaking the words of truth...the fact that you admitted you choose to drink is huge.
I hope you find your truth and choose to change your life. Wishing you all the best!
It would seem to me that until you answer this question for yourself you will never be able to steer yourself clear of your addiction. The desire to change must out weigh the desire to stay the same. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
I like Tommy commend you for speaking the words of truth...the fact that you admitted you choose to drink is huge.
I hope you find your truth and choose to change your life. Wishing you all the best!
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