I need some word's of wisdom!!!!
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I need some word's of wisdom!!!!
I am now 56 days clean BUT I am having some twisted thinking.......I am trying to convince myself that using is the best solution and I no it's not a good idea I wish I did'nt have these thoughts but I know that they will occur in early sobriety I just need a better way to deal with them..........I am hitting about 6 meetings a week plus 9 hrs a week of outpatient therapy but when I am home with the kids and my husband I get easily frustrated and think about using........it is really scary but that is what my disease want's to do to me and it sucks but I really need to fight the gremlin and so far I have done so but he is doing a good job of beating me up.............Is anyone else experiencing this right now or when u did how did u deal with it??????
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Desiree, using is NEVER a solution only more problems! One thing that has helped me this time is to stay more active- boredom has always been a major problem for me ie. 'if I’m not doing anything I might as well drink". The other thing is remembering the importance of what that first drink leads to. In my case it has ALWAYS meant total loss of control. Don’t forget why you quit to start with.
These aren’t words of wisdom-just common sense. I'm sure before the day is out many will have wisdom for you. This is A great place for that
Hang in there! You can do it!
These aren’t words of wisdom-just common sense. I'm sure before the day is out many will have wisdom for you. This is A great place for that
Hang in there! You can do it!
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Hey ((((Desiree827))))
I am very glad you are reaching out here that is just plain smart!!!
The way I dealt with it was on my knees giving prayers of thanks for one more day clean. Making conscious contact with my HP and also saying the serenity prayer all day long if necessary. You can do this one minute at a time if necessary.
I am saying a prayer for you right now.
I am very glad you are reaching out here that is just plain smart!!!
The way I dealt with it was on my knees giving prayers of thanks for one more day clean. Making conscious contact with my HP and also saying the serenity prayer all day long if necessary. You can do this one minute at a time if necessary.
I am saying a prayer for you right now.
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Anguish emerges from craving for life to be other than it is. In the face of a changing world, such craving seeks consolation in something permanent and reliable, in a self that is in control of things, in a God who is in charge of destiny. The irony of this strategy is that it turns out to be the cause of what it seeks to dispel. In yearning for anguish to assuage in such ways, we reinforce what creates anguish in the first place: the craving for life to be other than it is. We find ourselves spinning in a vicious circle. The more acute the anguish, the more we want to get rid of it, but the more we want to get rid of it, the more acute it gets.
Such behavior is not a silly mistake we can shrug off. It is an ingrained habit, an addiction. It persists even when we are aware of its self-destructive nature. To counter it requires resolve of equivalent force to live in another way. This is unlikely though, to lead to an immediate change in the way we feel. A smoker may fervently resolve to give up cigarettes, but that does not prevent the tug of longing each time he enters a smoke-filled room. What changes is resolve
If you truely want it, it is yours. We are all already sober and sane, its just that sometimes drinking gets in the way and we forget. Remember the serenity prayer, it is even more important in your everyday life then it is in the rooms. Drinking won't change your reality but sobriety might, moment by moment. All by best to you--Mycool
Namaste
Such behavior is not a silly mistake we can shrug off. It is an ingrained habit, an addiction. It persists even when we are aware of its self-destructive nature. To counter it requires resolve of equivalent force to live in another way. This is unlikely though, to lead to an immediate change in the way we feel. A smoker may fervently resolve to give up cigarettes, but that does not prevent the tug of longing each time he enters a smoke-filled room. What changes is resolve
If you truely want it, it is yours. We are all already sober and sane, its just that sometimes drinking gets in the way and we forget. Remember the serenity prayer, it is even more important in your everyday life then it is in the rooms. Drinking won't change your reality but sobriety might, moment by moment. All by best to you--Mycool
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I can't control my thoughts. I can only control my actions.
When I start having 'bad' thoughts, the first thing I need to do is break the train of thought.
Music breaks the train of thought for me, reading, physical fitness, and calling someone on the phone are other ways for me to break the train of thought.
When I start having 'bad' thoughts, the first thing I need to do is break the train of thought.
Music breaks the train of thought for me, reading, physical fitness, and calling someone on the phone are other ways for me to break the train of thought.
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Welcome and congratulations on 56 days.
I would say to break it down into the just for today mentality or even hour by hour if you have to. At least you recognize it is the addiction talking and the more you resist the weaker that voice will become.
Reaching out here is great and keep hitting those meetings. If there not working you might take it a step further and get a sponsor or someone that you can confide in about what you're feeling and hopefully, someone that's traveled that road before. SR will definitely help too.
Praying for peace for you today.
I would say to break it down into the just for today mentality or even hour by hour if you have to. At least you recognize it is the addiction talking and the more you resist the weaker that voice will become.
Reaching out here is great and keep hitting those meetings. If there not working you might take it a step further and get a sponsor or someone that you can confide in about what you're feeling and hopefully, someone that's traveled that road before. SR will definitely help too.
Praying for peace for you today.
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