shelly009

For me, my hubby and I drank together at BBQs, out for dinner, casino etc. We have been doing this since our early 20s. When I decided to quit, I had to have him quit with me (even though his drinking isnt as bad as mine was) I tried too many times without his support and couldnt do it. Its soooo much easier with us both on the same sober train. In the future he plans to have the odd drink with clients or whatever but says he wont drink around me or have it in the house. Its a load off, let me tell you (we were pretty big partiers)

For those of you who are married or have SO's, did they quit with you? If not, how does that work for you?

flutter

My hubby drinks, he's not an alcoholic. He has supported me by not drinking around me, and there hasn't been alcohol in my house since I got sober. Since he isn't an alocholic, and has no problems with alcohol, he really couldn't care less if he drinks or has liquor in the house. He will sometimes have a beer or 2 a week, out watching a game or something, or grabbing a bite to eat. He has recently (after 6 months now) had 2 beers in front of me at dinner and it didn't bother me in the least, but for the first 6 months I never ever saw him drink. You're right, it is very helpful!!

coffeenut

My husband and I were drinking buddies for 30 years. I finally quit a year ago.

About January, he quit, too!

He got a solid 3 months. But, he thinks he can moderate.

Slowly, but surely, he is drinking again. It's not everyday yet, but it will get there again.

scaredykat

My husband stopped drinking when when I did to support me. We don't have any in the house anymore, not even for guests. He's not an alcoholic and doesn't miss it anyway he told me. He now goes to Al-anon and has for the past year. I'm in AA and have been sober for over a year. I was very shocked when he went to Al-anon.

I'm glad your hubby is supporting you. In my opinion you should find some more support yourself too. The more support the better. Glad your here on SR with us. Lots of support here.

dave47

My wife drinks less since I stopped. She might have the occasional beer or glass of wine, and she goes out once every few weeks with her friends.
I wouldn't expect her to stop, but the small amount she has in my presence has been a big help.

smynthia

My husbands drinks, but is supportive of my recovery. He's a musician, so the garage is his studio. He keeps his beer in the fridge out there.

He does sometimes have a beer with dinner, but it doesn't bother me.

igottobesober

your life sounds like mine. drinking has always been a big part of our relationship. I want to stop and discussed it with him. I have been trying to get sober for the last month. I stop for a few days and he buys it I I start again. I know I am the only one that can say no. I think part of me is afraid that our relationship will crumble if we take the alchohol away. Thats why I start again. Today is a new day. I am going to do it one day at atime.