yankees24

Hello fellow SR members..If you recall i posted a thread about a week ago about weather i should attend a beach party or not when i only had 16 days clean and well, i attented and i failed. The hot summer air and the akwardness was killed off the best way i knew how, hitting the open bar. I drank 4 of the strongest drink they would make me as fast as I could and got pretty smashed after a while. I ended up leaving earlier than planned and was forced out of there against my own will. I did make some scenes, one including jumping off the ferri before it neared the dock...Anyway i guess im just writing this to say I am obviously not ready, im still going to work at it but im not gonna come in here and post negativity everyother week its not fair to you guys. Sorry if i disspointed anyone, i def. did myself. Maybe someone can learn from my situation as well, WHEN YOU ARE EARLY IN SOBRIETY NO PARTIES WHAT SO OVER. I played with fire and I got burnt...will miss you all and wish you the best of luck.

Horselover

Okay, okay. You fell down. Read on and learn you are not the first one here that has happened to. Quitting while you are down will not help you. SR doesn't shoot their wounded and I hope you will reconsider. You CAN get sober and stay sober. Many, many have fallen, but you cannot give up. There is my 2 cents. LOL! Hope you'll stay.

least

If everyone left SR who had relapsed, there wouldn't be many people here. Please don't leave. Stay for the support and advice.

LibertyorDeath

Let falling down be the best thing that happened to you in that it leads you to newfound lasting sobriety~

Why leave when the wisdom here can help you? One of the things that helped keep me sober during the very early days was the shame I would feel if I had to share here that I'd gone back to drink. That can work for you too!

Anna

Hi Yankees,

I failed too, countless times.

I went to a neighborhood party, early on in recovery. I didn't drink that evening, but I was miserable. And, the next day I went out and bought wine and drank it. I learned too and I learned to say 'No' in order to take care of myself.

I hope you will continue to post. We do understand!

Taking5

Don't go, stay with us. We do not shoot our wounded, we help them up and get them going again. I have relapsed 4 times since I have been here.

Nothing you posted was negative, it was all normal stuff that newly sober people go through. I learned the exact same thing you did by going into a couple of casinos with zero intention of drinking. But I got smashed. Now, you couldn't drag me into a casino.

If you really want to get and stay sober, SR can be a huge part of your arsenal.

jmart

Hey, we all have fallen.. u will get back up!! remember your tag line..

"Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. To hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength."

I hope u don't give up..Jay

shelly009

Hey!! NOT SO FAST Bucko! Get back here. You obviously need to be here and you CAN do this. Thats what SR is for, for helping each other up and beyond.

So what, you fell off the boat (sorry for the pun) Dust yourself off and try again. 16 days clean is great and you learnt a good lesson. You dont need to go, give it another try.

lauraandersen4

Good job on making it over 16 days before that episode You can do this! Take your time.

Bamboozle

Hello, yankees.

When you are struggling the most is when you need to be here the most.

I've relapsed several times while at SR.

You pick yourself up and keep moving forward.

I hope you stay.

hopeful999

I hope you stick around, Yankees. We're all in this together.

Gypsy Feet

Leaving SR may make it easier to continue drinking.
Staying around SR may make it easier to quit.

Good luck which ever path you take.

jmart

well said Gypsy Feet.......

Dee74

Hey Yankees

SR is for people struggling - we get it. You should stay - don't let one screw up throw you off track.

D

CarolD

A lot of us returned to drinking after decideing to quit.
Learning from mistakes is the key to success....

eddie73

Hi yankees,

Definitely dont quit this board just because u took one step back. Im only sober for 25 days and have learned a hell of a lot by reading posts here and going into chat.

One evening of weakness at a beach party isnt going to determain the rest of your life. Just dont go anymore, or leave after an hour if u do. keep the flag up man.

nogard

as least said if all of us who relasped left what would be the point in SR or in recovery.

for many of us relaspe is part of our journey. For me the the deciding, the important factor, is that I wanted to stop, I was desperate to stop.

I wish you well.

smynthia

Your sobriety is for you, not for other people, so don't worry about letting other people down.

Don't let one slip turn into a landslide. You can do it. Other people have, you can to. Good luck and keep coming back.

joedris

Gee, I looked all over this forum and must have missed the part where it said that this was an easy process. Stop feeling so damn sorry for yourself. You're not the first (nor the last) the go back out again. If you want to quit drinking, pick yourself up and start again. And when you fall again, repeat the process. And like you said "WHEN YOU ARE EARLY IN SOBRIETY NO PARTIES WHAT SO EVER."

You're using your slip to rationalize. "oh well, I tried and failed. Might as well give up." I don't want to bust your bubble here, but 16 days isn't really trying. You've just begun. If you haven't been to AA, start going. And please don't tell me that it doesn't work for you. You have to give it time to make that decision. You need some serious support - a program to help you. You'll never make it here getting little smily faces and warm hugs. Those are important, but only when you're doing something serious to help yourself. Sorry to sound so harsh here, but this is serious stuff that will kill you, and sometimes serious measures are called for.

And you don't have to come here and post negative things. Try posting positive things like I went to a meeting. I got a sponsor. I got a lot of phone numbers. I met a bunch of people and guess what? They're just like me. And they want to help me. I'm actively doing stuff to get sober! Sobriety isn't going to come to you. You've got to go out and get it. And I honestly wish you the best of luck.

Hevyn

This is exactly when you need to stay, Yankees. We will always support you - I myself kept on drinking for 5 months after joining SR, but all the time I kept reading and gathering strength for when I was ready to quit all together. It worked - I'm almost a yr. & a half sober (and this after 25 yrs.) Please stay.