New Here- Just saying Hi!
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New Here- Just saying Hi!
Hello!
I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Cynthia, and I've been sober for 20 days.
I have attended a couple AA meetings. I only feel comfortable attending women-only meetings, and there's only a few to choose from in my town. This week has been busy, so I haven't been able to get to any, so I've been coming here. Reading posts is like listening to people share, and reading the recovery stories are like listening to speaker meetings.
I did have two women give me their numbers at the last meeting I attended, but I felt weird giving them a call. I am a little scared about getting too immersed in AA. I don't want to get all AA-culty. I do want a sponsor, but someone that I really connect with.
So far, not drinking has been OK. No cravings. I tried for so long to moderate my drinking, I think finally surrendering and not playing the mind games with myself is a welcome relief.
Thanks to all for being here and your courage and honesty. It has helped me every day!
I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Cynthia, and I've been sober for 20 days.
I have attended a couple AA meetings. I only feel comfortable attending women-only meetings, and there's only a few to choose from in my town. This week has been busy, so I haven't been able to get to any, so I've been coming here. Reading posts is like listening to people share, and reading the recovery stories are like listening to speaker meetings.
I did have two women give me their numbers at the last meeting I attended, but I felt weird giving them a call. I am a little scared about getting too immersed in AA. I don't want to get all AA-culty. I do want a sponsor, but someone that I really connect with.
So far, not drinking has been OK. No cravings. I tried for so long to moderate my drinking, I think finally surrendering and not playing the mind games with myself is a welcome relief.
Thanks to all for being here and your courage and honesty. It has helped me every day!
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Canada
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Great to meet you! I am new here too! I also tried to moderate my drinking... in fact, I can bet everyone here can say the same thing.
Congratulations on your healthy choice, its all uphill from here... well it cant get any worse... well, Im not sure.. like I said I am new here too!
Congratulations on your healthy choice, its all uphill from here... well it cant get any worse... well, Im not sure.. like I said I am new here too!
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Join Date: Jun 2009
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You have my support as well! The cult-like mentality of AA scares the sh*t of me (I am an independent spirit, have not solidified my views on God, etc.) so the fact that there ARE other alternatives is good for all of us.
I'm actually very new here, too. I think we all need to support each other.
I'm actually very new here, too. I think we all need to support each other.
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Dallas, Tx
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Hi Cynthia, welcome to SR! congrats on your sober time. I can't recall how many times I tried to moderate my drinking, pretty much every time I woke up with hangover which was at least a couple times a week some of us are just not capable of moderation and accepting that is key. The people on SR offer lots of great advice and there's always the chance that something you say just may connect with another and be helpful so keep on posting.
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Join Date: May 2009
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Welcome Cynthia! Congrats on 3 weeks!
I can relate to the feeling of relief from playing all the mind games with myself. It takes a whole lot of energy! For me, it truly is easier to just say, "that's it, no more!"
Glad you're here!
I can relate to the feeling of relief from playing all the mind games with myself. It takes a whole lot of energy! For me, it truly is easier to just say, "that's it, no more!"
Glad you're here!
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Welcome to SR.
Give them a call, even if it is just to talk, my first sponsor suggested that I call at least 3 people every day that were in the fellowship. I thought that was the dumbest thing I had ever heard.... how in the world was calling people going to help me to stay sober?
Well I wanted to stay sober more then anything so even though I hated talking to anyone on the phone I followed the suggestion. The first thing I discovered was the guys I was calling wanted to talk, they thanked me for calling them, I was slowly figuring out that they needed me just as much as I needed them. Slowly I becam comfortable with calling them and actually have made some darn good friends. Do not get me wrong, people are people, some of them we just did not seem to click and I never called them again, but others I have.
Well I had about 2 months sober when I finally discovered why calling people every day was suggested. I had a VERY bad day and came as close to having a drink as possible without haveing one. What I did was I called some one when that need for a drink seemed to be over whelming....... what did the guy say? I honestly have no idea, but he understood what I was going through, he had been there himself and he did not drink because he called someone. Calling people I have learned helps me stay sober and the person I am calling as well.
I had to laugh when I read the bit about AA being a cult! I guess it could be viewed as a cult which is a group of like minded people with a common goal!
There are good and bad cults, if one alcoholic helping another alcoholic stay sober and learn how to live life on lifes terms sober and happy is cult like I enjoy being in the cult of AA.
Some of the things about AA that are not like the bad cults are things like:
If one decides to quit going no one chases them down to come back.
There are no dues or fees.
There are no rules!!! I never ever heard of a cult without rules.
Any one who has a desire to stop drinking can be a member.
There is no AA recruiting, it is simply attraction!
If AA is a cult it sure is an odd one.
did have two women give me their numbers at the last meeting I attended, but I felt weird giving them a call.
Well I wanted to stay sober more then anything so even though I hated talking to anyone on the phone I followed the suggestion. The first thing I discovered was the guys I was calling wanted to talk, they thanked me for calling them, I was slowly figuring out that they needed me just as much as I needed them. Slowly I becam comfortable with calling them and actually have made some darn good friends. Do not get me wrong, people are people, some of them we just did not seem to click and I never called them again, but others I have.
Well I had about 2 months sober when I finally discovered why calling people every day was suggested. I had a VERY bad day and came as close to having a drink as possible without haveing one. What I did was I called some one when that need for a drink seemed to be over whelming....... what did the guy say? I honestly have no idea, but he understood what I was going through, he had been there himself and he did not drink because he called someone. Calling people I have learned helps me stay sober and the person I am calling as well.
I had to laugh when I read the bit about AA being a cult! I guess it could be viewed as a cult which is a group of like minded people with a common goal!
There are good and bad cults, if one alcoholic helping another alcoholic stay sober and learn how to live life on lifes terms sober and happy is cult like I enjoy being in the cult of AA.
Some of the things about AA that are not like the bad cults are things like:
If one decides to quit going no one chases them down to come back.
There are no dues or fees.
There are no rules!!! I never ever heard of a cult without rules.
Any one who has a desire to stop drinking can be a member.
There is no AA recruiting, it is simply attraction!
If AA is a cult it sure is an odd one.
Tazman
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