jamdls

I want to try having a romantic relationship sober, never done that and I've been married twice and dated tons! I've rarely if ever been intimate with a man sober. Of course now I'm 52 and meeting someone who doesn't drink or rarely drinks seems far fetched and I'm not sure I'm ready yet anyhow.

TheChangingMan

I hope to re-establish my love of life- all forms of life.

I am pretty much vegan as it is, but I want to embrace veganism fully without exception.

I want to focus simply on being a better person; a person that I'm proud to be.

spen71

Good idea for a thread. The first thing I have to do is make things right with my partner and kids. Then get myself fit again like I was 20 years. One of the reasons why I think I have always drank is because I get bored so I will def have to get my thinking cap on about filling my waking hours.

Also want to quit smoking finally but that will have to wait for a bit, as I have decided one thing at a time.

Sweets79

I think of having a romantic relationship without drinking and it scares me. Before I started drinking I don't even remember how I felt when I went out on a date. When I met my Ex boyfriend I never used to drink and I was happy. That feels weird to say, but I remember being happy without drinking while we were dating. I am trying to find that again. After I started drinking, I remember always having some drinks before going out on a date to relieve anxiety and not be so damn uptight. Now it will be different without the drinks, but, it's something that I will have to learn to get used too. Easier said than done, though I'm sure.

Sweets79

That's great you're Vegan! More power to you

dabears34

- eating better
- losing weight
- start a web design business
- learn french
- not avoid social situations with friends just because it's at a bar and/or a situation where people are drinking.
- be myself and not worry about offending people by being myself and speaking my mind.
- get up the courage to get back out on the dating scene. I still feel like I have all this residual shame from when I was locked in a shame box of boozaholing. My self-esteem is still low, higher than it was when I was drinking 6 nights a week, but still not near it's fullest potential.
- Increase my knowledge of world cinema. I am watching as many foreign films as possibel and reading/writing about them as often as possible,
- Increase my knowledge of history/politics. I have always stayed away from politics and deliberately paid no attention to any of it, but am tired of having to sit silent when people talk about it.
- Exercise 3 times per week.

Wednesday

That is great. I'm vegan too.

keithj

Sweets,

Good to hear from you. I was thinking about you and wondering if you were doing all right.

My life not drinking is equally as boring and unsatisfying as my life drinking. My life in true recovery is full of purpose and activity. I haven't had to go looking for hobbies; they've found me. I've stumbed into many varied things that I enjoy doing, most importantly, whatever I happen to be doing.

With recovery, as distinct from not drinking, I have a full life beyond my expectations. The hobbies take care of themselves.