dave

Why does the past keep comming to kick me in the butt.I keep comming here when i'm thinking of a drink and tonite is it i have been sober for 4 and half yrs.Anyway i finally met a lady i thought i would really like to get to know and we were hitting it off good and then one of her friends said she new the old me and she said she couldnt see me because i was a bad guy then,So anyway playing music and my old drinking tunes dam..

adore79

Aww that is just heartbreaking

Dont worry, it will be fine, this too shall pass.

gerryP

Sorry to here that Dave

Ever hear the saying..."You may be finished with your past, but your past may not be finished with you...."

Anna

She knew you from more than 4 1/2 years ago, and she's rejecting you because of that.

Wow!

We know that people can and do change.

Aysha

Then she isnt worth it IMO.
If someone is goin to condem you for what happened 4 and a half yrs ago. And sees and knows you are not the same person. I would have to question that persons character.
You better off. I am sorry people have to be so friggin judgemental.
Hang in there. Not everyone is like that.

Rusty Zipper

aint noth'n to drink over dave!

and look at the money your saving! lol

tommyk

You're better off without her.

No offense but she sounds kind of stupid, and very judgemental, you wouldn't like her very long.

Maybe she thinks she is the exact same (saint) person she was 4 years ago.

joedris

Rejection over hearsay about behavior 41/2 years ago? This is a good example of your higher power looking after you. To jump on the bandwagon here, she's not worth it.

golightly1963

I'm not quite ready to commit to sobriety but I think that sucks! My friend who referred me to this site is not ready to spend time with me yet, but we spent many drunken days and nights together. I respect the fact that he is sober and am extremely happy for him. This is one reason why I want to be sober - so I can actually spend time with him and really enjoy each other's company instead of just getting trashed and the next day feeling sick and not able to enjoy that day. So I say - her LOSS!!!

CrackQuack

How the heck does she know the "old" you and even bother to care??? You're not the same... Ahhh, heck.. We cannot control others, and there are, indeed, plenty of other women out there, willing to accept you for you, past and all. And they won't let the past bother them. That is why it's called the past. Because it has long since passed.
*HUGS*
Sorry, hun. Don't take that drink. This too shall pass! Go take a walk (if it's safe for you to do so, dunno if it's night time for you or not), watch some funny tv. That usually perks me right up. Nothing like something stupid spewing from Family Guy, The Simpsons, Scrubs, or even Spongebob Squarepants to make a day better. Oh, or Jacka$$ or some kids doing stupid things to hurt themselves for our entertainment... Always a good pick me up.
And keep coming here. Sometimes, I go to the joke section.. I forget what it's called, but a LOT of good jokes are in that one.

CarolD

Dave.....
Turn off the pour me drinking music
Have some food....a walk...take a shower.

People do change their minds....let this go for now.

December15

You are better off. She either doesn't have a mind of her own, or she is using this as a lame excuse to get away from you because of her own issues.

Tazman53

I agree with the others, if the lady is dumping you upon the simple word of some one who knew you 4 1/2 years ago then she would dump you over anything, it is her lose and in the long run your gain. What purpose will a drink serve but to take you back to 4 1/2 years ago.

four812

i can relate to your pain....and I definitely echo the sentiments of those who responded to your post.....

if it was me....at first I'd have to deal with the rejection because I would already have fallen in love. if i'm single i want to be in love. why? because then I don'[t have to feel my pain, and it feels good to be loved and to be flying around on the cloud of love. hopefully with some time you will move through these painful moments without drinking and be all the stronger and more confident for it.

thanks for sharing and keep up the good work

dave

Thanks everybody for your comments they really mean alot to me and yes i stayed sober and you are all right on what you have said.Thats why i love this site so much i have so many friends here.Thanks again from Canada..