I feel like I keep venting...I'm sorry :( I just had to come online and post...I had wrote that I had gotten into an arguement last night with the person I'm living with..today I had told this person that I've been trying really hard to get my mind off drinking, so maybe we could play a video game together...I'm trying to do ANYTHING to get my mind off drinking and all these other personal problems I'm having that constantly run through my mind...I'm not familiar of how to work the controls on the game yet, so I thought it would be fun if we would do it together so I could learn...Instead of it being something fun, I got an attitude from this person for not knowing what to do, (I'm even the one who got this person the game system as a gift)...I was laughing about it, trying to work the controls, I thought it was kind of fun...but instead of making it fun, I'm getting looks and just made to feel like I'm being an annoyance...This was supposed to be a fun thing...something to help me get through this freakin night...I finally found something that I might be interested in doing, I don't have many hobbies...I really don't want to sound like a whiner, but it really makes me feel like crying, that when I try to do something constructive (with a socalled person who cares about me.).. to get my mind off drinking, I get belittled over something so stupid, that's just supposed to be fun..I hope this doesn't sound immature, because it's more than just playing a video game...it's something I needed to do tonight to help me not drink, and I get treated badly for it...I really need to move as soon as I can...and I know if I keep drinking that will never happen, I will just keep being in a state of numbness and depression..it's just hard working on sobriety and doing job hunting at the same time..God, I want a drink...Thanks for listening. |
It's very hard for others to understand how difficult it is to stay sober. That's the reason that many of us, including me, come here. We do understand! Just focus on yourself and your sobriety and you'll get through this. |
You're allowed to come here and vent. In fact - I recommend it! Keep coming back. :) |
Originally Posted by tommyk
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You're allowed to come here and vent. In fact - I recommend it! Keep coming back. :) |
Listen to some music and relate whe words to recovery topics. You'll find that your mind can only handle one thought train at a time, focus on the music. Works for me! :) |
Originally Posted by tommyk
(Post 2214247)
Listen to some music and relate whe words to recovery topics. You'll find that your mind can only handle one thought train at a time, focus on the music. Works for me! :) |
you can jump into chat, and talk live to lots of us.. :) it's really helpful sometimes. |
Hey, Sweets. I'm glad you're here and I'm glad you're posting. :) |
:hug: I'm getting ready for a bowl of super dooper ice cream that's my recommendation for everyone tonight....:yup: |
Originally Posted by coffeenut
(Post 2214315)
Hey, Sweets. I'm glad you're here and I'm glad you're posting. :) |
Originally Posted by CarolD
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:hug: I'm getting ready for a bowl of super dooper ice cream that's my recommendation for everyone tonight....:yup: |
Hey sweets, I'll swing by with ice cream, and you can either have some or stick with the cheese doodles, hang in there. |
Originally Posted by firestorm090
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Hey sweets, I'll swing by with ice cream, and you can either have some or stick with the cheese doodles, hang in there. |
Yep, I'm with you, the pounds from beer really add up to, so I'm trying to watch my weight also, working out a couple times a wekk, but it's a slow go. The sugar in the ice cram helps curb my urges, and tastes good too, yummy stuff, rofl. You look great to me=), so here, have a couple scoops, lol. |
Sweets, My 2c on dieting. Having cravings for both food and alcohol might be too much to handle now. Give it some time. Also, for a diet to work in the long run, you can't think of it as something temporary, "for the next 3 months," "until I lose those 10lbs," etc. Healthy eating is what will help to shed the pounds and keep them off. And exercise. I don't know what your level of fitness is now but you can run your ideas by a doctor or a trainer if you need to. And you'll feel better about yourself after the workout, endorphins really work! I've been there, lost a lot of weight and kept it off by re-learning how to eat healthy and exercising. Having said that, my appetite has really increased after I stopped drinking. I was probably missing all the calories I got from booze. It's becoming to get normal again now I think. Good luck! :exercise1 OB |
Originally Posted by OceanBound
(Post 2214734)
Sweets, My 2c on dieting. Having cravings for both food and alcohol might be too much to handle now. Give it some time. Also, for a diet to work in the long run, you can't think of it as something temporary, "for the next 3 months," "until I lose those 10lbs," etc. Healthy eating is what will help to shed the pounds and keep them off. And exercise. I don't know what your level of fitness is now but you can run your ideas by a doctor or a trainer if you need to. And you'll feel better about yourself after the workout, endorphins really work! I've been there, lost a lot of weight and kept it off by re-learning how to eat healthy and exercising. Having said that, my appetite has really increased after I stopped drinking. I was probably missing all the calories I got from booze. It's becoming to get normal again now I think. Good luck! :exercise1 OB Hey Ocean...I know it is alot to take on at once..trying to stay sober AND lose weight...I packed on alot of weight from all the drinking and eating (because it would give me an even bigger appetite than I'd normally have). I've lost 60lbs before...At that time in my life, I had a very clear head, hardly touched alcohol, and was very focused...I wasn't irritable or cranky,I was just so focused on losing weight and raising my self-esteem. The state of mind I am in now isn't the best, so it's very hard to focus on one thing (staying sober), let alone two things (staying sober, and diet)...I just really feel so much better when the weight is off....makes me want to actually go out and do more things..I'm starting to walk here and there, I'm so bad with excercise...I loathe it lol..I'm trying as hard as I can...I've been craving a drink so bad... I don't mind eating healthy, but I do enjoy alot of fattening stuff too...but today is 1 week sober...trying to hang in there. |
Originally Posted by Sweets79
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Haha thanks...but I think all of that will kill my diet, (I only had a few cheese doodles, and they were 40% less fat than regular) I have been doing pretty good with it so far...Can you believe that?...quitting alcohol AND dieting..I'm taking on two difficult things at one time, but that alcohol really packed on the lbs...I would drink alot of whiskey and vodka...Once I looked up how many calories in a jigger of vodka and whiskey...I almost keeled over...The amount I was drinking , I could've had a whole cheesecake everyday... Hang in there! :ghug3 |
Sweets, You need to get the hell out of that relationship. It's dangerous to your sobriety. Until then, however, vent away! I've always found that venting, like music, is good for the soul. |
Originally Posted by CrackQuack
(Post 2214996)
I really recommend, due to you being in such early recovery, to NOT worry about dieting. That in of itself, is extremely stressful. If you want to be focused on losing weight, instead of making it a diet, which can be such a DOWNER (I can't have sweets, can't have fat, can't have alcohol, feel like I can't have a life thing), try a gym or swimming, biking, hiking, or simple walking. It's something you CAN do and is good for you at the same time. Try a couple sports like volleyball or softball or something like too. Anything is better than trying to quit drinking AND going on a diet at the same time. You'll feel like a million bucks too, after a good work out, walk, or game. :) Hang in there! :ghug3 |
Originally Posted by joedris
(Post 2214997)
Sweets, You need to get the hell out of that relationship. It's dangerous to your sobriety. Until then, however, vent away! I've always found that venting, like music, is good for the soul. |
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