View Poll Results: Potential SO's Drinking and Effect on Possible Relationship
I am single and intend to stay that way
3
14.29%
I would not enter a relationship with anyone who drinks, period
2
9.52%
I would not enter a relationship with someone who drinks heavily
15
71.43%
I would not consider a person's drinking important in a potential relationship
0
0%
I would not enter a relationship with a recovering alcoholic
1
4.76%
I would only enter a relationship with a recovering alcoholic
0
0%
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Would and Individual's Drinking Effect Choice of a Potential SO
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Would and Individual's Drinking Effect Choice of a Potential SO
This one should be self-explanatory. For those of you who are single, how would a potential SO's drinking effect a decision to enter a long term relationship.... I put a zinger in there 
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If it was someone I already knew who drank responsibly I wouldn't mind. But if it were someone I didn't know I'd have no way of telling how bad their drinking might be and I'd avoid them like the plague.
I got some great advice a long time ago:
Never play cards with a man call Doc.
Never eat at a place called Mom's
Never sleep with a person whose troubles are worse than your own!
I got some great advice a long time ago:
Never play cards with a man call Doc.
Never eat at a place called Mom's
Never sleep with a person whose troubles are worse than your own!
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Well considering I am married quite happily to a light drinker I answered "I would not enter a relationship with someone who drinks heavily" for, as Shawk said OBVIOUS reasons! LOL
Now if I was single, I would consider a lady who had fairly long solid recovery or any lady that did not drink heavily or at all.
Now if I was single, I would consider a lady who had fairly long solid recovery or any lady that did not drink heavily or at all.
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I am so Blessed, I am married to a women who does not drink, smoke or do drugs!!
I used to do all those things. When I met my wife I was drunk and stayed drunk till exactly 60 days ago. She likes me much better now.
To answer the question I would not enter any relationship till I was solid in my sobriety then only to a non drinker.
Entering a relationship early in sobriety is like throwing miracle grow on your character defects.
I used to do all those things. When I met my wife I was drunk and stayed drunk till exactly 60 days ago. She likes me much better now.
To answer the question I would not enter any relationship till I was solid in my sobriety then only to a non drinker.
Entering a relationship early in sobriety is like throwing miracle grow on your character defects.
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I one time met a girl who claim to be a lite drinker. Of course lite to her was working M-F and getting hammered all weekend long. Of course at the time I didn't really care but now I would steer far away from someone like that.
But if I was to meet someone now who was a real lite drinker I would have no problems. My big requirement would be drug free, that's where I have zero tolerance at, not even a little pot.
But if I was to meet someone now who was a real lite drinker I would have no problems. My big requirement would be drug free, that's where I have zero tolerance at, not even a little pot.
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I started drinking because I liked a guy, and he drank a lot. And we were friends but it was awkward to not drink when he was drinking... you get the idea. I didn't know it at the time but he used drugs as well. Didn't find out about that until I had known him for well over a year. It was amazing how far he pulled me down, and how fast. I knew what I was getting into when I started doing drugs with him... or I don't have an excuse for not knowing. I just put on the blinders.
So, honestly I don't mind a light drinker, someone who has one or two once in a while. But if I were to date someone who started drinking every night, or looked like they were starting to edge toward that, I know I would have to leave him. I seem to lack the mental strength necessary to not get sucked into that world, and I'm not going there again.
So, honestly I don't mind a light drinker, someone who has one or two once in a while. But if I were to date someone who started drinking every night, or looked like they were starting to edge toward that, I know I would have to leave him. I seem to lack the mental strength necessary to not get sucked into that world, and I'm not going there again.
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