Am I not important enough?
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Originally Posted by CAPTAINZING2000 
You have to try and convince your husband, God's in charge. I understand some people thinking, they need a gun to protect the family but, to arm one's self for an imposing armageddon, that's not normal behavior.
There is some paranoid thinking/mental health issues going on with the husband, in addition to controlling by taking away things that she needs.
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Originally Posted by Toomutch
I know I am making him seem like an awful man... He does have alot of good qualities too. He gives freely to our church with his time. He is supportive of my alcoholism, he kind sometimes be the kindest person in the world.
Honey, I was married to an abuser, and it doesn't always have to be physical, though mine was emotionally and physically abusive.
That's the hook! They are absolutely giving to a fault in some areas while stripping us of critical things in other areas, isolating us.
There is something very very wrong!
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Suzette,
I think that saying you feel like a child, speaks volumes.
I was like you. I was up and down depending on my husband's moods or my kids moods.
It was really awful.
I needed to look within myself and find the peace and friendship that I longed for. It was there. It's there for you too. Praise yourself, don't wait for your husband to do it.
I think that saying you feel like a child, speaks volumes.
I was like you. I was up and down depending on my husband's moods or my kids moods.
It was really awful.
I needed to look within myself and find the peace and friendship that I longed for. It was there. It's there for you too. Praise yourself, don't wait for your husband to do it.
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If you have been diagnosed with bipolar then you have got to have your medicine.Is their any kind of services in your area that might help with your medicine.Maybe ask your pharmacist if he knows of any.Walmart also has over 300 different medicines that they sale for 4.00.You can check the list online.GOOD LUCK!!
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Hi maybe you and your husband can sit down and discuss what could happen to you if you dont get your meds and the liklihood that it probably will, and weigh this up with the consequences of not having his ammo and the liklihood of armageddon. You really do need to fight for this one, its so important for you and your kids...Good luck x
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Originally Posted by dhunt
If you have been diagnosed with bipolar then you have got to have your medicine.Is their any kind of services in your area that might help with your medicine.Maybe ask your pharmacist if he knows of any.Walmart also has over 300 different medicines that they sale for 4.00.You can check the list online.GOOD LUCK!!
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I don't think you can expect rational ideas or acts
from a man who.....
just purchased 100's of dollars of ammo (he is fearing Armageddon).
Last time I read Revelations...no one will be
shooting their way out of Armageddon.
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I am sorry Suzette. I am goin to just say it.
You need to take some action with your husband.
Since day one you have been here. You have come here with these horrific things he has done to you.
When is it enough?
I am not trying to judge you or him. But you are a person with needs too.
You do not deserve to be treated like that.
Not by anyone for any reason.
I could make a list here of the things you have told us.
When are you going to see that your needs are important and your health is a priority?
And as far as armegeddon..No amount of ammo is going to do any good with that.
He sounds like he has some serious mental issues.
Just because he goes to church and gives back to the church doesnt make him a saint.
Could all be because of his delusional ideas of the end of the world.
When is he goin to give back to you?
The end of days is not set in stone. You are there. You are real. Your illness is real and needs attention now.
I hope you can find it in yourself to set those bounderies. Stand up for yourself.
And dont be bullied anymore.
Thats exactly what it seems like to me. You are worth every bit of everything.
Why do you have to play second to a prophecy?
You have kids that need you and that need you to be well.
I am sorry if I sound judgemental.
I am not trying to be.
I am very worried for you.
Please dont take what I am saying wrong.
And I havent lost respect for you in any way. I am truly concerned for you
You need to take some action with your husband.
Since day one you have been here. You have come here with these horrific things he has done to you.
When is it enough?
I am not trying to judge you or him. But you are a person with needs too.
You do not deserve to be treated like that.
Not by anyone for any reason.
I could make a list here of the things you have told us.
When are you going to see that your needs are important and your health is a priority?
And as far as armegeddon..No amount of ammo is going to do any good with that.
He sounds like he has some serious mental issues.
Just because he goes to church and gives back to the church doesnt make him a saint.
Could all be because of his delusional ideas of the end of the world.
When is he goin to give back to you?
The end of days is not set in stone. You are there. You are real. Your illness is real and needs attention now.
I hope you can find it in yourself to set those bounderies. Stand up for yourself.
And dont be bullied anymore.
Thats exactly what it seems like to me. You are worth every bit of everything.
Why do you have to play second to a prophecy?
You have kids that need you and that need you to be well.
I am sorry if I sound judgemental.
I am not trying to be.
I am very worried for you.
Please dont take what I am saying wrong.
And I havent lost respect for you in any way. I am truly concerned for you
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I agree with Tommy. You need to work together with him, not separately. That includes setting priorities, and mutual support. Of course you're important; in fact, just like everyone else, you're indispensable. I really hope you can work this out
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Everyone has said so many good things and I agree that these are things you should not being giving up.
But with generic drugs, the pharmacy they are actually cheaper at is Costco. I called Walgreens once because that is only a block away and I was feeling lazy and asked for the price of Naltrexone, generic, for the month. They told me $130. At Costco it is $45. My Zoloft is $10. You can price out your drugs on their website to see if you will save:
Costco drug pricing
Also, you can advocate for generic drugs in doctor appointments, and sometimes they work better. I know for migraines that was the case for me, although most doctors preferred prescribing the medicine that cost $25/pill vs. $7/month and because migraine medicine is such a big business a lot of the generics have basically disappeared (ugh, so frustrating because now I cannot buy what works for me).
Also, at Costco pharmacy you do not have to be a Costco member. Ooh, and we just had an earthquake
But with generic drugs, the pharmacy they are actually cheaper at is Costco. I called Walgreens once because that is only a block away and I was feeling lazy and asked for the price of Naltrexone, generic, for the month. They told me $130. At Costco it is $45. My Zoloft is $10. You can price out your drugs on their website to see if you will save:
Costco drug pricing
Also, you can advocate for generic drugs in doctor appointments, and sometimes they work better. I know for migraines that was the case for me, although most doctors preferred prescribing the medicine that cost $25/pill vs. $7/month and because migraine medicine is such a big business a lot of the generics have basically disappeared (ugh, so frustrating because now I cannot buy what works for me).
Also, at Costco pharmacy you do not have to be a Costco member. Ooh, and we just had an earthquake
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Trish I appreciate you calling a spade a spade. It all sound so simple... but it's not. I am the peacemaker within our home. If I call Michael on something he does his best to argue loud, name call, add so much tension to the air that you can slice it with a knife. He is I agree a bully...
I try to hash things out when the kids are gone for the weekends that they are with their other parent. Sometimes I get somewhere with him and sometimes I dont. At this moment in time I feel worn out, lacking the energy it takes to have a rational conversation with him. I am not being weak... I simply know my limits.
I will however make sure I get my meds. The rest of it will just have to wait... I don't want to disrupt the lives of my children, they are all doing so well. If I upset the applecart I'm not quite so sure how they will cope with that.
I try to hash things out when the kids are gone for the weekends that they are with their other parent. Sometimes I get somewhere with him and sometimes I dont. At this moment in time I feel worn out, lacking the energy it takes to have a rational conversation with him. I am not being weak... I simply know my limits.
I will however make sure I get my meds. The rest of it will just have to wait... I don't want to disrupt the lives of my children, they are all doing so well. If I upset the applecart I'm not quite so sure how they will cope with that.
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Originally Posted by Toomutch
Trish I appreciate you calling a spade a spade. It all sound so simple... but it's not. I am the peacemaker within our home. If I call Michael on something he does his best to argue loud, name call, add so much tension to the air that you can slice it with a knife. He is I agree a bully...
I try to hash things out when the kids are gone for the weekends that they are with their other parent. Sometimes I get somewhere with him and sometimes I dont. At this moment in time I feel worn out, lacking the energy it takes to have a rational conversation with him. I am not being weak... I simply know my limits.
I will however make sure I get my meds. The rest of it will just have to wait... I don't want to disrupt the lives of my children, they are all doing so well. If I upset the applecart I'm not quite so sure how they will cope with that.
I try to hash things out when the kids are gone for the weekends that they are with their other parent. Sometimes I get somewhere with him and sometimes I dont. At this moment in time I feel worn out, lacking the energy it takes to have a rational conversation with him. I am not being weak... I simply know my limits.
I will however make sure I get my meds. The rest of it will just have to wait... I don't want to disrupt the lives of my children, they are all doing so well. If I upset the applecart I'm not quite so sure how they will cope with that.
I'm not trying to be mean. My heart is breaking for you because I see you devaluing yourself at the risk of keeping peace. That is no way to live.
There are no medals for martyrs.
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(((Suzette))) I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm just going to through this out there.. are you on disability or have you thought of applying for it? With your medical conditions and bipolar, you have a pretty good chance of getting it. I know most people don't want to go that route, but I'm trying to think of a way that you can get your OWN money and medical coverage.
My stepsister has severe heart disease and was denied disability 3 times, finally approved the 4th time. Her friend, on the other hand, was approved the first time because she is bipolar and received a hefty back-payment check.
You are most definitely "worth it", and I'm just trying to think of a way you can get a little control back in your life. Like (((Freedom))), I'm really worried about ya.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
My stepsister has severe heart disease and was denied disability 3 times, finally approved the 4th time. Her friend, on the other hand, was approved the first time because she is bipolar and received a hefty back-payment check.
You are most definitely "worth it", and I'm just trying to think of a way you can get a little control back in your life. Like (((Freedom))), I'm really worried about ya.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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Originally Posted by Impurrfect
(((Suzette))) I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm just going to through this out there.. are you on disability or have you thought of applying for it? With your medical conditions and bipolar, you have a pretty good chance of getting it. I know most people don't want to go that route, but I'm trying to think of a way that you can get your OWN money and medical coverage.
My stepsister has severe heart disease and was denied disability 3 times, finally approved the 4th time. Her friend, on the other hand, was approved the first time because she is bipolar and received a hefty back-payment check.
You are most definitely "worth it", and I'm just trying to think of a way you can get a little control back in your life. Like (((Freedom))), I'm really worried about ya. Amy
My stepsister has severe heart disease and was denied disability 3 times, finally approved the 4th time. Her friend, on the other hand, was approved the first time because she is bipolar and received a hefty back-payment check.
You are most definitely "worth it", and I'm just trying to think of a way you can get a little control back in your life. Like (((Freedom))), I'm really worried about ya. Amy
Hugs and prayers!
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I know it is far from easy. But it doesnt seem to be getting anything but worse.
You are not weak IMO. And I am not even saying anything like that.
If nothing changes ..nothing changes. I hate one liners. But that fits.
I dont want to stress you out more or upset you by pushing my opinion here.
All I care about is your well being.
I really hope you get your meds. Your health is all that matters right now. Thats the topic really here.
You are very important Suzette. Stop taking the back seat to other less important things.
You are not weak IMO. And I am not even saying anything like that.
If nothing changes ..nothing changes. I hate one liners. But that fits.
I dont want to stress you out more or upset you by pushing my opinion here.
All I care about is your well being.
I really hope you get your meds. Your health is all that matters right now. Thats the topic really here.
You are very important Suzette. Stop taking the back seat to other less important things.
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