TheLadyb

Tomorrow my son gets married
Big wedding day, lots and lots of people
While i Have been doing really good under the pressure.
What my pattern has been that when everything is done
I hit the bottle, hard.
I am so scared.
My alcoholic husband will be drinking, I am sure.
Please give me any tips you have for me to avoid drinking all
together as not too many know I am now sober.

:praying

least

I can't speak for anyone else, nor can I determine the right thing for anyone else to do, but for myself, I remind myself strongly of how bad I felt the last time I drank and how much I DON'T want to feel like that ever again. It's working for me so far.:ghug3

Horselover

Reasons not to drink -

Its a wedding and need not be a drink fest. You'll remember the day much better if you don't drink. Your son will appreciate it if you don't get drunk. You won't be sick the next day. There will be no embarrassing times in remembering what you said or did while intoxicated. You'll feel so much better the next day.

Hope that helps a little.

SHawk25

Exactly.. I just don't want to be the person I used to be.. The "it's a big occassion I HAVE to drink guy"..

I'm excited to do special functions sober..

Anna

I didn't drink at my son's or my daughter's weddings.

I was SO grateful to be sober and to be there, that it wasn't a problem at all.

Also, I was SO busy at both of the weddings, that there really wasn't time to think about it.

TheLadyb

Need more support please

Latte

I carried around a full glass of water or Diet Coke at my sisters wedding. I also helped with the little kids, visited with friends, talked to my family, hung out with my Grandpa (he passed away soon after the wedding so I was so glad I did this). I was so happy to be sober that day and I remember every second of it. My kids remember every second of the awesome time they had and all the pictures I have of me there were awesome. I was not embaressed about any of them. My cousin and my Dad both had too much to drink (both alcoholics) and it reminded me why I was sober.

I still remember that day and love to look at the pictures.

Amy08

LadyB-

My daughter was married 2 years ago; even though I wasn't 'intoxicated' I was hung over and needed a drink badly (I did not want to drink to embarrass her). I was miserble and did not enjoy one minute of my only daughters wedding. I looked horrible in all the pictures and left early.

It's one of my biggest regrets; I will never get that day back.

So just play that tape through to the end.... See yourself drinking and the
consequences that follow. Don't do what I did.

And Congrats! Have a blast!!

ToABetterMe

1st all the best for the big day!

I would say just think of the fact that this is the biggest day of your son & daughter inlaws life. They will never get to redo it. Be proud of yourself for celebrating sober & remembering every minute of it!