Appontments and avoidance
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
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Appontments and avoidance
I have been cancelling Appointments and avoiding issues both external and internal recently. So I have started this thread to list the things I need to do today and the things I did yesterday. Feel free to join me in any way whatsoever.
Get up at 7am as part of giving myself a structure again (did this)
Read Just for Today (did this)
Talk to HP (did this)
Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
Create a list of Jobs applied for and send them to Workways (Job agency I have to report to - did this)
Walk dogs
Update Victorian NA Meetings List
Spend at least 2 hours doing work for Joanna
Go for a Run
Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
Check opening Times for the tip
Write in Journal (started this yesterday)
3pm Dr Appt to have a wart removed
Make Dentist Appt
Phone Sponsor and go to Meeting at 7:30pm
Meditate
Kevin
Get up at 7am as part of giving myself a structure again (did this)
Read Just for Today (did this)
Talk to HP (did this)
Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
Create a list of Jobs applied for and send them to Workways (Job agency I have to report to - did this)
Walk dogs
Update Victorian NA Meetings List
Spend at least 2 hours doing work for Joanna
Go for a Run
Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
Check opening Times for the tip
Write in Journal (started this yesterday)
3pm Dr Appt to have a wart removed
Make Dentist Appt
Phone Sponsor and go to Meeting at 7:30pm
Meditate
Kevin
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Great idea Nogard I am terrible at doing things I know I need to!
I'm not as ambitious as you so I will give myself three goals for tomorrow.
Tidy my house (its a mess)
Get away from the computer and out of the house for a while.
And finally eat properly instead of stuffing my face.
Wish me luck.
I'm not as ambitious as you so I will give myself three goals for tomorrow.
Tidy my house (its a mess)
Get away from the computer and out of the house for a while.
And finally eat properly instead of stuffing my face.
Wish me luck.
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Hi Kevin, nice thread!
I have always been a procrastinator and also have trouble making decisions. I am always fearful of what "might" happen and, despite knowing that the event rarely is as bad as my fears, usually put stuff off. Oddly enough, once I make a decision (which can take way too long), I have to do the "thing" RIGHT AWAY. I have no clue if this is "typical" of alcoholics. What I do know is that, if I postpone something, it sits in the back of my brain, causing me more anguish than if I just went ahead and did it!!! Yet I repeat the same type of procrastination again and again. Slow learner, I guess.
It seems to me that "discipline" is something talked about as necessary for recovery and I do find that exercising discipline makes me feel good about myself.
So, on that note, I have had a broken molar for at least a month and then broke another one just the other night. The day after the second one broke, I said...NO MORE PUTTING THIS OFF and made an appointment to get them fixed. Now I have to say I am away from home and my regular dentist (a perfect excuse to wait...) and I HATE going to the dentist...
But I went and got them fixed and *surprise, surprise*, it wasn't as bad as I had envisioned. AND I feel proud of myself!
I have always been a procrastinator and also have trouble making decisions. I am always fearful of what "might" happen and, despite knowing that the event rarely is as bad as my fears, usually put stuff off. Oddly enough, once I make a decision (which can take way too long), I have to do the "thing" RIGHT AWAY. I have no clue if this is "typical" of alcoholics. What I do know is that, if I postpone something, it sits in the back of my brain, causing me more anguish than if I just went ahead and did it!!! Yet I repeat the same type of procrastination again and again. Slow learner, I guess.
It seems to me that "discipline" is something talked about as necessary for recovery and I do find that exercising discipline makes me feel good about myself.
So, on that note, I have had a broken molar for at least a month and then broke another one just the other night. The day after the second one broke, I said...NO MORE PUTTING THIS OFF and made an appointment to get them fixed. Now I have to say I am away from home and my regular dentist (a perfect excuse to wait...) and I HATE going to the dentist...
But I went and got them fixed and *surprise, surprise*, it wasn't as bad as I had envisioned. AND I feel proud of myself!
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Walk dogs (did this)
Make Dentist Appt (did this. Made two Appts for next Thursday morning one to have teeth cleaned and impression taken of loose front tooth. Afternoon one to have tooth extracted and plate put in until I can get an implant done) EEEEEK!
Make Dentist Appt (did this. Made two Appts for next Thursday morning one to have teeth cleaned and impression taken of loose front tooth. Afternoon one to have tooth extracted and plate put in until I can get an implant done) EEEEEK!
that is one task I am willing to put off for a while.
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Sorry...I seemed to have pricked a few consciences with the dentist story...or was this something already on your lists? If so...that's just freaky...another one of those coincidences that isn't??? Hmmmmm
Just a rhetorical question here (non-topic and not meant as offensive to anyone who chose this profession), but I've always wondered why someone would WANT to be a dentist???!!! Your clients are never happy about being in "the chair" at least no one I know ever wakes up and says...oh goody, I get to go to the DENTIST today!
Just a rhetorical question here (non-topic and not meant as offensive to anyone who chose this profession), but I've always wondered why someone would WANT to be a dentist???!!! Your clients are never happy about being in "the chair" at least no one I know ever wakes up and says...oh goody, I get to go to the DENTIST today!
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Yep Dentist is one of those things that was way up there, no apology needed here 
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Anna I could have sworn I put this in Newcomers Support, not that it Matters
(Anna I could have sworn I put this in Newcomers Support, not that it Matters
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I need a list of things I need to not be doing. I'm too busy! I understand the point of the thread though so I am sending you out support Kev.
Actually I have to make a dental appointment too so there. That's on the list. But I won't be able to do it until next week.
Actually I have to make a dental appointment too so there. That's on the list. But I won't be able to do it until next week
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I think maybe dentist's appts are always lurking in the background
Tomorrow, aerobics for me followed by Yoga. I have to find something healthy to substitute for alcohol, without the fallout. Yoga seems to fit the bill by stretching me physically and spiritually.
Tomorrow, aerobics for me followed by Yoga. I have to find something healthy to substitute for alcohol, without the fallout. Yoga seems to fit the bill by stretching me physically and spiritually.
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Today
• Get up at 7am as part of giving myself a structure again (did this)
• Read Just for Today (did this)
• Talk to HP (did this)
• Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
• Spend at least 4 hours doing work for Joanna
• Go for a Run
• Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
• Write in Journal
• Meditate
• Walk dogs (done)
• Study TAA
• Ask Consutants and employers for feedback (doing this)
• Accept Training Work (did this)
• Call about part time support role (did this)
• Do meetings lists (did this)
• Get up at 7am as part of giving myself a structure again (did this)
• Read Just for Today (did this)
• Talk to HP (did this)
• Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
• Spend at least 4 hours doing work for Joanna
• Go for a Run
• Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
• Write in Journal
• Meditate
• Walk dogs (done)
• Study TAA
• Ask Consutants and employers for feedback (doing this)
• Accept Training Work (did this)
• Call about part time support role (did this)
• Do meetings lists (did this)
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Kevin, I had a kind of strange epiphany I'd like to breeze by you...as I said, I am trying to discipline myself as well. The dentist is someone I avoid, if possible. But the 2nd molar was just too much and I had NO CHOICE but to attend to my teeth at this point.
Well, I was just thinking...in many ways, I applied the same procrastinating mind set to stopping drinking...I'll do it tomorrow...it's not THAT bad....and so on.
Finally, like my teeth, I realized that enough was enough and I had NO CHOICE BUT TO TAKE ACTION. Surrender, in other words, realizing I couldn't call the shots any longer.
I know this may sound like a bit of a stretch, but it was an AHA moment for me so thanks for this thread. You never know where the next insight will come from, hmmm?
Well, I was just thinking...in many ways, I applied the same procrastinating mind set to stopping drinking...I'll do it tomorrow...it's not THAT bad....and so on.
Finally, like my teeth, I realized that enough was enough and I had NO CHOICE BUT TO TAKE ACTION. Surrender, in other words, realizing I couldn't call the shots any longer.
I know this may sound like a bit of a stretch, but it was an AHA moment for me so thanks for this thread. You never know where the next insight will come from, hmmm?
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I think I'm the kind of person that will look for wiggle room. I know this is how I have been with my teeth. I just had never made the connection to my inability to commit to stopping drinking and that, perhaps, this is an across the board personality characteristic! Best to know your adversaries, huh?
everything is already ok
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
Posts: 19,793
Get up at 7am as part of giving myself a structure again (did this)
Read Just for Today (did this)
Talk to HP (did this)
Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
Spend at least 4 hours doing work for Joanna
Go for a Run
Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
Write in Journal
Meditate
Walk dogs
Study TAA
Talk to members
Dont listen to the raka raka today
Read Just for Today (did this)
Talk to HP (did this)
Look for Jobs on Seek (did this)
Spend at least 4 hours doing work for Joanna
Go for a Run
Tidy up one small part of the house, so that I can start living in a house not a pigsty
Write in Journal
Meditate
Walk dogs
Study TAA
Talk to members
Dont listen to the raka raka today
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