Why are addicts unhappy???
 

Why are we unhappy? We get to use and abuse those things we love!!!

I think a lot of the time, we are addicted to conflict and overcoming. We like it so much that we do it over and over and over.

At first, we are not unhappy. We have our cake and eat it too.

We get unhappy when we can't eat our cake anymore. We get selfish. It is all about what we want. We make promises, we sweet talk, we will do anything to have the best of both worlds just how we want them.

Like a baby throwing a fit and pushing the limits as far as can be done, until you see your love walking away.

good topic

we have a lot of "faking it until you make it" in the area of happiness in recovery. and this often breeds denial. denial of the rumbling feelings withing us of boredom and fear.

may this be a moment to stay with these feelings, giving us the opportunity to practice moving through them a little bit more

You got that one right. I think addicts blame a lot too. They want others to take responsibility for them and do things they ought to be doing for themselves.

hey, dont forget "Entitlement"

They're unhappy because addiction is hell and the merry go 'round never seems to end. It does end though, one way or another, it does end.

Im selfish but hate to admit it. Sure I want
it all and I want it now. And if i dont get my
way or what I want i can cop a huge re-
sentment, pout, crawl in a shell, and put
up walls between me and you.

In recovery we learn lots of neat
things to help us get better at not
being selfish and miserable.

Unhappiness and mood swings
have been linked to my chemical
imbalance in my body.

When i stopped drinking and wasnt
dependant on a chemical substance,
which controlled my every emotion,
thoughts, actions...then i was all
over the place with my mood swings.

I was unhappy, sad, lonely, tired....the
whole shoot and match....

Never satisfied my entire life whether
i drank or not....so into self, selfishness,
self -centeredness.

Later i got my chemical imbalance under
control and my mood swings subsided...

I learned to be happy by suggestions
passed on to me by my sponsor and
others sharing their own ESH with me.

In order to be happy with me I had to
learn how to get out of myself....to
take the focus off of me and place it
on someone else.....and that is where
helping others in recovery came into
play.

I learned to do my own type of service
work yrs ago by bringing things to eat
at each of the many meetings i would
attend. Doing this gave me a purpose
to stay sober and make meetings which
is very important in recovery.

Today i do more of my service work
here in SR....share with u here in SR
allows me to get out of my own
thinking an share my own ESH with the
new comer.

Im pretty sure its working because
im not as selfish or unhappy as i used to
be. and the reward is confirmation from
others when ive said something that is
helpful to them in their own recovery.

Thanks for letting me share.

I believe that the drinking or drugs is a symptom of the underlying problems. Those problems often involve depression and low self-esteem. So, those things have to be dealt with, along with stopping drinking.

I've been unhappy most of my adult life, and drinking only served to 'dull' my sensation of unhappiness. I agree with Anna that drinking and using are often only symptoms of underlying problems. Now that I'm sober I'm still unhappy, and am unhappy that I can no longer drink away my feelings. I have to learn how to deal with my feelings sober, and that's hard to do.

I suppose not much for me to say. Anna and Least took the words right out of my mouth. Couldn't have said it any better myself.
Wes

We run to escape...because we cannot face the truth about ourselves..

It might involve "change"..

Absolutely....Change it needed and when achieved....:fireworks2:

an awesome gift. The new me:day4

Great topic...


I think some of us are unhappy because in childhood we never developed the skills to deal with stress for various reasons..So we do what we know best...Run away from the stress, do not feel emotion because this is what feels normal to us...Tack on an easy way to not feel, (addiction), and this sets the vicious cycle.

i dont fall into that catagorie, i am very happy with my life and family and work... im a happy addict and perfectly content exepting that living like that.