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Originally Posted by robc 
losteverything, from my perspective it sounds like you are doing pretty good. I realize why drinking in moderation can be bad, but at this point in time you are not letting it be bad. If it progresses and you start binge drinking, then you will be in a bad spot. If you can continue drinking in moderation, then that seems pretty good to me.
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Littleton, Co.
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I am another non chat user. I have never felt welcomed there. I sometimes do the structured meetings in the chatroom, but that's it. I stick to posting on the boards where I feel that what I say matters.
Im sorry that happend and I hope it wasn't directed towards you.
Im sorry that happend and I hope it wasn't directed towards you.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Posts: 352
Thanks for all the kind replies....
I admit I am an alcoholic..and yes, I may be moderating, but it isn't working for me, even that...I go a few days, have a few, feel very guilty and not clear headed in the morning, and i dont like it, so obviously a problem exists...I think I cannot manage to quit entirely is because i dont have any plan in place for when the cravings hit me....my mind sort of takes over, saying its alright to go have some...I dont know how to steer my mind away from this stinking thinking..I will keep working on it, I would love to see all that money in my bank account instead of in empty bottles in the morning...thanks again, all
I admit I am an alcoholic..and yes, I may be moderating, but it isn't working for me, even that...I go a few days, have a few, feel very guilty and not clear headed in the morning, and i dont like it, so obviously a problem exists...I think I cannot manage to quit entirely is because i dont have any plan in place for when the cravings hit me....my mind sort of takes over, saying its alright to go have some...I dont know how to steer my mind away from this stinking thinking..I will keep working on it, I would love to see all that money in my bank account instead of in empty bottles in the morning...thanks again, all
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Where the heart is
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I cant say I have ever experienced anything like that in chat. Or seen it done. But I have heard things along those lines.
I use to go to chat all the time. I stay away now. Not for any reason really. Just because I really dont know anyone who is in there now.
I would say that I wouldnt let anyone here or anywhere make you feel bad. I know its hard sometimes. But maybe it wasnt meant the way you took it. And maybe like said..It wasnt even directed at you. But I know what you mean.
If you dont think chat is for you. MAybe try the meetings they have in there. And I agree with matty. Maybe PM that person and see what it was all about. You dont know if you dont ask.
I am sorry you had a bad experience. Dont let one time spoil more in the future.
And I want to add that being honest is the best way to be. So what if you arent stopped all the way. You have the desire right? You at leasst try right? We arent perfect. Some people work differently.
I relapse all the time. But I keep trying. And you do the same.
I use to go to chat all the time. I stay away now. Not for any reason really. Just because I really dont know anyone who is in there now.
I would say that I wouldnt let anyone here or anywhere make you feel bad. I know its hard sometimes. But maybe it wasnt meant the way you took it. And maybe like said..It wasnt even directed at you. But I know what you mean.
If you dont think chat is for you. MAybe try the meetings they have in there. And I agree with matty. Maybe PM that person and see what it was all about. You dont know if you dont ask.
I am sorry you had a bad experience. Dont let one time spoil more in the future.
And I want to add that being honest is the best way to be. So what if you arent stopped all the way. You have the desire right? You at leasst try right? We arent perfect. Some people work differently.
I relapse all the time. But I keep trying. And you do the same.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
I had to have the WILLINGNESS
to try whatever the others tried
that have kepted them clean and
sober for a many one days at a
time.
Their SUGGESTION I heard and
applied to my daily life.
If they suggested to clean out
my house of ALL alcohol....
mouthwash, rubbing alcohol,
anything with even the smallest
amount of alcohol that would
tempt me to drink, I did.
If they suggested 90 meetings
in 90 days....they werent just
suggesting that for my health.
Well they were.....
They knew i would have to hear
something during that time that
would stick with me and be helpful
towards me not drinking.
They suggested before u want to
drink, here's my number call me....
They want u to call them, day or
night or they wouldnt have given
u their number.
They r willing to carry u all the way
till u feel strong enough to stand
on ur own.
In early recovery I hated to disturb
others and didnt do it.....i was willing
to go to meeting after meeting and
take the cotton out of my ears and
listen and absorb what others were
talking about with recovery.
I didnt get it right away..but the
more time i went and heard the same
thing over and over again....then it
began to make sense.
Dont try to figure out how recovery
works works, it will work with u while
following simple suggestions day after
day.
Grab a hold of someone at a meeting
and stick with them who are paving the
way for you to live a happy joyous and free
life without drugs and alcohol.
If the worst person in a meeting who was
institutionalized and thought to be a goner
and has been clean and sober for many
years, must be doing something right.
Dont u think?
to try whatever the others tried
that have kepted them clean and
sober for a many one days at a
time.
Their SUGGESTION I heard and
applied to my daily life.
If they suggested to clean out
my house of ALL alcohol....
mouthwash, rubbing alcohol,
anything with even the smallest
amount of alcohol that would
tempt me to drink, I did.
If they suggested 90 meetings
in 90 days....they werent just
suggesting that for my health.
Well they were.....
They knew i would have to hear
something during that time that
would stick with me and be helpful
towards me not drinking.
They suggested before u want to
drink, here's my number call me....
They want u to call them, day or
night or they wouldnt have given
u their number.
They r willing to carry u all the way
till u feel strong enough to stand
on ur own.
In early recovery I hated to disturb
others and didnt do it.....i was willing
to go to meeting after meeting and
take the cotton out of my ears and
listen and absorb what others were
talking about with recovery.
I didnt get it right away..but the
more time i went and heard the same
thing over and over again....then it
began to make sense.
Dont try to figure out how recovery
works works, it will work with u while
following simple suggestions day after
day.
Grab a hold of someone at a meeting
and stick with them who are paving the
way for you to live a happy joyous and free
life without drugs and alcohol.
If the worst person in a meeting who was
institutionalized and thought to be a goner
and has been clean and sober for many
years, must be doing something right.
Dont u think?
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