Toomutch

Wow! I certainly did get a lot of feedback; thank you. I'm glad everyone has been speaking the truth and not trying to sugar coat their words.

I am going to keep on my husband about this and see what happens.

Up until now I have felt respected here - after this post I know I have lost a lot of respect. I will however keep posting with honesty; to come here and not be truthful to me would be of no use.

suki44883

What makes you think you have lost any respect? I don't see it that way at all.

KindBird

No respect lost! In fact - respect is huge! You are so honest and caring.. I am inspired by your honesty. :ghug3

Toomutch

Respect is lost when others find me to be weak...

Aysha

Why in the world would you think you lost respect?
I have nothing but respect and love for you. And thats why I posted.
You are honest and you are taking all this in.
IMO..this has nothing to do with respect. It is a safety issue. And your concern is a great thing.
We care about you and thats why you got the raw responses you have.
That is a very serious matter. That you brought here with alot of concern. That says alot on your behalf.
Do what you need to do. We can only give our opinions here. And thats what you were looking for wasnt it?
I would hate to see something happen out of carelessness.
You are always dealing with so much and I only wish some relief for you.
You deserve to be safe, and to have a peace of mind. As does your whole family.
Never think that way Suzette!!! We care about you!

suki44883

Quit looking at things in the negative, Suzette. If you weren't respected, you wouldn't have received all these responses from people who care about you.

CAPTAINZING2000

and what did Jesus carry?

Toomutch

I was not... am not... looking at things in the negative. I am very greatful for the honest posts. I asked for feedback... I did not ask for BS to make me feel beter about this situation. I would rather hear the truth.

Thinking that I have lost some respect over this thread is the way I feel. It is not a negative feeling, it is simply the truth, as I see it.

123bubblegum123

my father used to do the same thing, and it was also around a time of paranoia/mania. My mother insisted he lock the guns in a safe place outside of the house. I'd suggest you do the same, especially if you have a young daughter.

Aysha

Well no respect lost here sweety.
In fact because you have this concern makes me respect you alot.
And also that you are honest and taking all this for what it is too.
I am sorry you feel that way.

But your a very strong person as I see it. I dont know if I could handle even a fraction of the things you deal with and not have gone off the deep end.

(((Suzette)))

Samsonsworld

Nothing, but then again you could argue he had an armed bodyguard.

Ecclesiastes 3
1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

Toomutch

I actually have 4 kids 15, 16, 16, 18. The youngest is my only girl. All the boys have guns too. It is all just a big mess. I need to do what I can... I'm just not sure what that is yet.

Aysha

I dont think this is a bible study thread..Can we respect Suzette and stay on topic here?
Dont hurt me!!!

Samsonsworld

You're right. Sorry.

aasharon90

Ask and you shall recieve. Seek and you
shall find. Someone will have to help me
on the rest of the words to that prayer.

U R respected by me.

Thanks for sharing.

mle-sober

I have read the whole post and can understand why you might feel somewhat anxious about your post and what others have said. You are living with a situation that many people find terrifying and bizarre. I think that would make me feel a little sideways - like why do so many people have such a strong reaction to this and I am concerned but not like that.

?????

Is that what you mean?

I don't think anyone here would characterize you as weak. Or think that their opinions of you went from feeling respect to feeling any kind of disrespect.

But I think you maybe are kind of in the same shape as the proverbial frog who is in a pan of water and the water is slowly heated?

You know I live nearby you - so it's not a geographical issue. Like folks in Colorado need to be ready to run for hills or be ready to shoot someone at any second.

I know there are some people who want to carry or own guns for protection. And in this country, that's their right. But I've always learned that responsible gun ownership includes locking your bullets up away from your guns. The statistics of children who get killed by guns are frightening. They are mostly killed accidentally - either by their own curiosity or a siblings.

What it sounds like to me is that you've had a ton of stuff on your plate and you've been dealing with a lot. You've handled a lot of stuff with a lot of grace. And now, this things that seems, well, horrifying to me - it's not as horrifying to you because you're used to it. Your used to the level of crisis being high.

I wonder though, about your feelings that you can't afford therapy. We usually can afford what we really want and what seems important to us.

I don't think you're weak. I don't think any less of you because of this post. I feel compassion and empathy for you. And I think it's hard to muster up feelings that are as strong as the reactions you received here because you've been in non-stop crisis-control mode for a long time.

I don't know if I'm right about that - I'm just guessing.

Hope none of this adds burden. I'm just concerned for you and your family. The gun situation is very dangerous, from my perspective.

Mariposa18

Suzette~ If anything my respect for you grows daily. I respect those who are able to ask for help when needed, who are honest but caring, and who help and respect others. *YOU* are that kind of person. :ghug3

Toomutch

I am leaving to go to Pilates now; perhaps it will clear my mind and allow me to think more clearly. I am feeling a bit overwhelmed.

CAPTAINZING2000

I've just lightly scanned the htread.

has there been a series of break ins in your area?


Trying to apply logic here. The few petty break ins ever done to my residence were most likely done by someone that knew my kids.

Criminals have one intent, wait until, you're not at home, steal you things and leave.

That's why you posted the topic to get feedback right.

What ever we write down, you and your husband have to reach an understanding between yourselves.

I dont lock my car doors unless, I have bags from the store in them. Not sure if, I lock the doors to my house half the time.

The things we fear in life for the most part never materialize anyway.

Toomutch

We actualy live in a very safe area, a few robberies when garage doors are left open is all. My husband grew up as a milatary brat, and his dad always had a loaded gun. My dad had guns too. He kept the majority of them in a gun case displayed in our basement. It was locked; however my brother found the hidden key and took the guns out all the time.

I think my husband has been scared every since Columbine. We both lived very close to the school and still do. Dave Sanders, the teacher who died in that school was very close to my husband. Maybe that shock of that has never left him, I know everytime I drive by I think of that awful day.

Anyway, I am getting a bit off track here. All I know is he is not willing to resolve the gun issue at this time. I could always pack the kids up and move out, but where would I go? I can't work because of my illnesses, I have no money whatsoever. The kids would hate me because they love the area and there stepdad. I could send them to their fathers house to live, he lives nearby and is a huge part of their lives.

I think I will try reasoning with my husband again... chances are I won't get to far.