A Lesson Learned on SR
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Smithfield, VA
Posts: 521
Hey LaDita, I'm sorry and know how much it sucks that some people are such a***oles. I guess everywhere you go there will be a few. But, there are also a lot of great people around here that want to be friends with each other and help and encourage each other and share with each other the common goal that we all have...To get and stay sober. So keep on posting, f*ck what the pr**ks say and worry about the ones who truly do care, because the ones who do care will definitely always be there no matter what and won't do such wrong and hurtful things. And I myself like to believe for every a***ole there is there are 5 great people. Maybe I'm being a bit optimistic, but that's me. And once again I'm so very sorry you had to experience something like that. And I wish there was something I could do to help. I'll definitely be praying for you. Keep posting and do whatever it is that makes things easier for you and try to not let this crap bring you down.
Wes
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Wes
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I agree with this.. Being able to come here and vent, has been a life saver for me. That is one of the great things about this site, we are sharing all the Ups and Downs of being sober, together.
((LaDita))
I am sorry that one person's inability to be kind has caused you to question yourself.
You have shown courage and tenacity, and allowed yourself to be vunerable in your shares here, and there is no way that you can know how many people you have touched and helped as you have been trying to help yourself.
I hope you do not let this slow you down one bit, and you keep posting and find all the friends who are waiting here for you.
I am sorry that one person's inability to be kind has caused you to question yourself.
You have shown courage and tenacity, and allowed yourself to be vunerable in your shares here, and there is no way that you can know how many people you have touched and helped as you have been trying to help yourself.
I hope you do not let this slow you down one bit, and you keep posting and find all the friends who are waiting here for you.
I am still surprised at how much this actually hurt,
I'm not surprised by how much it hurt. I've been "hurt" a couple times by responses. I assure you that those directed to me were purely unintentional. All the same, I come to SR in complete honesty, all my typical guards that keep me safe in the "real" world are lowered when I log onto here. While on this site, I am naked and vulnerable. Therefore, even unintentionally hurtful comments can be crushing. I can't imagine being intentionally hurt by such a cruel comment as the one that you received.
I don't know you and, therefore, I familiarized myself with a few of your past posts before replying to this one (which I think is a good idea for anyone who wants to reply to a post with potentially hard-to-hear comments). Although I usually post in the Substance Abuse Forum, I would consider it an honor to return an affirmative response to a friendship request from you.
I understand your reaction to want to lie low. However, I hope that the positive replies that you have received on this thread will help to heal your wound and to help you to begin to feel safe on SR again.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 4,682
That is a real shame! Hope you get back on track:-)
I don't think you need to change anything in your posting etc IMO, I just think you need to be more aware that people won't share your views sometimes and might not even like you. Pesonally if someone did that to me i would be thinking **** them and their family but there is a more enlightenend way apparently where you just accept that everyone is different, all sharing this planet, blah blah....
I don't think you need to change anything in your posting etc IMO, I just think you need to be more aware that people won't share your views sometimes and might not even like you. Pesonally if someone did that to me i would be thinking **** them and their family but there is a more enlightenend way apparently where you just accept that everyone is different, all sharing this planet, blah blah....
Wow Ladita - that would have crushed me too. What an awful thing to have happen. I will go out on a limb and say that you wont run into these type people on SR often, if ever. Please stick around, we need you.
:ghug3 Don't go too far, STAY HERE! You are wanted and you belong. You have plenty friends here. I would be one too! I don't have many left, I lost a lot when I stopped drinking, but I guess they were not real friends anyway. I hope you feel better real soon!
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 26,425
well,
I have often felt attached or offended on SR myself...sometimes i am oversensitive and sometimes i am right and they are being insensitive.
Mainly it is a part of life I have to learn how to live with sober.
I also have to remember that other people don't always come across right....we can't tell emotions so well on here all the time, and each of us have our own issues that cause us to not behave in a way that is always comfortable for others.
I'm afraid for myself some male bashing comes out at times....fortunately the men have been able to not see that as my whole self, and I am learning to not be so bad about it.
I also have developed a since of humor.
So...am i the only other SR person who has had my friendship not accepted???? I was hurt and confused and talked with people. I didn't drink.
I have often felt attached or offended on SR myself...sometimes i am oversensitive and sometimes i am right and they are being insensitive.
Mainly it is a part of life I have to learn how to live with sober.
I also have to remember that other people don't always come across right....we can't tell emotions so well on here all the time, and each of us have our own issues that cause us to not behave in a way that is always comfortable for others.
I'm afraid for myself some male bashing comes out at times....fortunately the men have been able to not see that as my whole self, and I am learning to not be so bad about it.
I also have developed a since of humor.
So...am i the only other SR person who has had my friendship not accepted???? I was hurt and confused and talked with people. I didn't drink.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Hmm...
I don't accept request for "Friends" either.
I also do not answer the V messages
Check my Profile..
I find it more productive to use our boards
so others might benefit.
No sharing in secret for me...
I also think it's better to connect with the same sex
when dealing with personal problems.
Communication is easier.
I don't know if your accusations of actions
are true or not. I don't know about "hot chiks"
If you did...why ask him anyway?
You had lots of "Friends" listed.
Why did you drink again LD?
Because you decided to....you own that action.
I do hope you will find your sober time soon.
I don't accept request for "Friends" either.
I also do not answer the V messages
Check my Profile..
I find it more productive to use our boards
so others might benefit.
No sharing in secret for me...
I also think it's better to connect with the same sex
when dealing with personal problems.
Communication is easier.
I don't know if your accusations of actions
are true or not. I don't know about "hot chiks"
If you did...why ask him anyway?
You had lots of "Friends" listed.
Why did you drink again LD?
Because you decided to....you own that action.
I do hope you will find your sober time soon.
Last edited by CarolD; 02-09-2009 at 05:27 AM.
it actually wasn't a scumbag, if you'll find the thread
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-apology.html
They have made up, and he already feels like a heel so its time to move on.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-apology.html
They have made up, and he already feels like a heel so its time to move on.
it actually wasn't a scumbag, if you'll find the thread
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-apology.html
They have made up, and he already feels like a heel so its time to move on.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-apology.html
They have made up, and he already feels like a heel so its time to move on.
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