newyear2dance

My husband who is probably an alcoholic as well wants to meet for dinner (we eat out a lot) and bring the kids. Unfortunately almost every place we go knows what I drink. I guess all I'm asking is, I'm REALLY trying to be strong and I"m going to have my Blackberry with me, any posts of support or threats or warnings of what I will feel like tomorrow are greatly appreciated!

Anna

Hi,

I wish you well.

For me, I couldn't be around alcohol at all, for a quite awhile when I began recovery.

Fubarcdn

If you don't drink tomorrow you will probably feel confident and empowered and if you do drink you will probably feel depressed and mad at yourself and a whole bunch of other negative emotions.
Read through some of the posts of others that have recently slipped and emphasize with their emotions. Then ask yourself is the going up worth the coming down.

Astro

For me a simple "no" is all it should take, if someone's being pushy I can always say "no thank you, I don't drink anymore".

If necessary, get there ahead of time and order something that looks like a cocktail, I always drink a club soda with lime. Whatever you feel comfortable with as long as it's not alcohol!

SummerSkye

Would it be possible to go to a place that doesn't serve alcohol? Maybe more of a place aimed at kids?

deezaldog

For me, this would be a difficult thing to do. Keep it up and I would been unable to resist the urge. There are so many other places to go and eat, could you consider changing restaurants? I would. LOL

shaun00

I have something for your blackberry..
DONT DRINK...YOU ARE AN ALCOHOLIC IN RECOVERY...YOU CANNOT DRINK SAFELY ANYMORE...ONE DRINK AND YOU WILL FEED THE MONSTER AGAIN AND WHO KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN...
ALCOHOLISM IS A PROGRESS ILLNESS....IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE..
REMEMBER ALL THIS.....WHAT EVER YOUR HEAD TELLs YOU...DONT PICK UP THAT DRINK......ITS JUST NOT WORTH IT.
plus we all care about you here and want the best for you......
So plan is......nice food...........enjoy the children......fizzy pop....and home safely.......job done.......................trucker

TryingSoHard

Just because they know what you USED to drink doesn't mean you have to order it! If they approach you and ask if you want your usual, just say a polite, "No thanks, not tonight! I'll have a Diet Coke instead." It's easy and I PROMISE they won't think anything of it!!

You will be SO HAPPY with yourself tomorrow if you make it through this dinner. Plus, if you're not drinking you will know that one of you will be able to safely and soberly drive your children home!!

Let us know how it goes.

weekendbinger

Don't do it!!! You have a great excuse....it's a school night. Make it one more day......you can do it!!!!!!! Make those kids proud of their mommy!!!!

rebelTex

You're probably at dinner now. I hope you don't drink. Look at the faces of your kids, see that innocence in their eyes. Show 'em your strength and set an example. Good luck. I want to hear back.

flutter

Ditto to what Tex said.. the kids.. they deserve a sober family

TTOSBT

I hope that you have a nice, uneventful, sober time with your family. One drink is not worth it and you KNOW that you would never have just one. I always remember that. Why would I have one? I wouldn't. So, the question then is: do I want to go back to being a miserable, lonely closet drinker? No thanks. I LOVE being a sober wife and mother today!!!!!!!

ToABetterMe

Well.... How did you do? You know we all care, And want you to do what is best for your recovery!
Hope you felt our strength & were able to stay strong!

newyear2dance

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!

I MADE IT!

The waiter brought out my glass of wine and... my mouth was watering.... and I just (don't know how) said I'll just have a Diet Coke.

Your support helped SOOO MUCH! I can't thank everyone enough!! Today is Day 6. Thank you!!

Fubarcdn

Good job new year we were rooting for you and you did it.

weekendbinger

Whew......great job!!! Can't believe he brought the wine without you ordering it. Maybe after a few more visits he'll bring you a diet coke!!!!! WAY TO GO!!!!!! YOU DID IT!!!!!!

shaun00

There you go...........job done............well done you...........trucker.

SoberforME

That is the flippin coolest ever!!!

YAY YOU!

shaun00

Did you get my original post on yer blackberry?......did it fit??....lol..lol

Im sorry if it looked abrupt.......but im passionate about newcomers.

I have been in that situation before and i know how the denial can creep in..

Its a bit like a film i once rented.......the trailer was good..the cast was fantastic.......the cover look good.

But when you watched the film it always has a crap ending.........lol

Im soooooo glad yours had a happy ending..........your a star in my book...trucker...

masseyman

Great job! Your a very strong person and you should be proud of the choice you made...you got IT in you.

***** eh?