5 days - can I make 6?
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Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: New York
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hey new...keep trying..i know it's hard but hang in there and keep at it!! and please come back anytime...there is alot of great info on here....keep reaching out!
i know you are having a rough time....i'm sorry!!
wishing you strength....sending big hugs!
Lisa
i know you are having a rough time....i'm sorry!!
wishing you strength....sending big hugs!
Lisa
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Sparta, TN
Posts: 24
Well had a bottle of wine last night and now again hate myself! I don't remember much after 9pm and again I SWEAR this HAS to be it. I'll have to find time to hang around here more and get everyone's support.
Not that alcohol will solve my problems and I do use it as an excuse but am depressed that I left family, friends, my job of 18 years and now in the middle of nowhere and don't really know anyone! But I HAVE to stop. I'm tired of disappointing myself.
Thanks everyone for your replies.
Not that alcohol will solve my problems and I do use it as an excuse but am depressed that I left family, friends, my job of 18 years and now in the middle of nowhere and don't really know anyone! But I HAVE to stop. I'm tired of disappointing myself.
Thanks everyone for your replies.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 83
25 days sober
Hey New,
Don't beat yourself up about the wine. It happened. You were honest about it to yourself and everyone here. Today is a new day. Take it an hour (or minutes)at a time. Stay strong. We're all in this together.
Its tough to move, and reach out for new friends, new job etc.. but you still have those other friends--reach out to them too. Is there someone who was particularly close? Call them up and let them know you miss them, are feeling lonely, insecure, whatever...You choose whether to tell them right now about the struggle with sobriety. Or maybe they were part of the problem?? In any event, you can keep those you loved close to you still as you begin to add new friends. I'm glad you came here. SR has been a huge help to me. Some days I join in or sometimes I don't feel like sharing but just reading other posts helps me make it one more hour, one more day. Take care.
Don't beat yourself up about the wine. It happened. You were honest about it to yourself and everyone here. Today is a new day. Take it an hour (or minutes)at a time. Stay strong. We're all in this together.
Its tough to move, and reach out for new friends, new job etc.. but you still have those other friends--reach out to them too. Is there someone who was particularly close? Call them up and let them know you miss them, are feeling lonely, insecure, whatever...You choose whether to tell them right now about the struggle with sobriety. Or maybe they were part of the problem?? In any event, you can keep those you loved close to you still as you begin to add new friends. I'm glad you came here. SR has been a huge help to me. Some days I join in or sometimes I don't feel like sharing but just reading other posts helps me make it one more hour, one more day. Take care.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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Hmm...
Do you think if you continue to drink...your marriage won't last
and you can move back to ???. on your own?
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and please don't feel you need to reply.
Best wishes as you work thru this situation
Do you think if you continue to drink...your marriage won't last
and you can move back to ???. on your own?
I
and please don't feel you need to reply.Best wishes as you work thru this situation
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Sparta, TN
Posts: 24
Thanks guys! I'm going to definitely start over (again!). The reason we moved to VA is my husband retired and wanted to get out of Illinois and this is where he always wanted to go to. It was his dream so I followed him here and now want to go back home. He doesn't ever want to see Illinois. I have zero friends here and being in the "boonies" only a handful of neighbors who are super nice but about 30 years my senior. I just keep finding excuses to drink but I know better. I'll keep coming back here for your support!
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I lived in southern Illinois until high school. Born in Urbana.
Your situation sounds tough, it's hard to get enthusiastic about your new neighborhood if you really don't want to be there. Resentment is a big trigger for recovering alcoholics. You stand a better chance of working through this sober, but you know that. Keep on posting.
Maybe some AA meetings?
Mark
Your situation sounds tough, it's hard to get enthusiastic about your new neighborhood if you really don't want to be there. Resentment is a big trigger for recovering alcoholics. You stand a better chance of working through this sober, but you know that. Keep on posting.
Maybe some AA meetings?
Mark
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Location: San Francisco, CA
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Thanks for your post - it is great that you are thinking ahead to problem situations. I have a visit coming up from family that I know will be a problem for me (end of Feb but I am already worrying). I think it helps to have a plan for how to get through it.
Maybe start by trying something really different - can you go out to a movie or just do something really different? If you are stuck at home alone then get into a different room than the one you might drink in, or hang out on line the entire time. Looks like you got lots of ideas from your post from people with experience.
Good luck! getting your husband involved with the solution does sound like a good idea too!
Maybe start by trying something really different - can you go out to a movie or just do something really different? If you are stuck at home alone then get into a different room than the one you might drink in, or hang out on line the entire time. Looks like you got lots of ideas from your post from people with experience.
Good luck! getting your husband involved with the solution does sound like a good idea too!
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