Dee74

They are retired yeah Fizzy - there may be something in what you say....I like my washing machine tho...it goes *ping* and everything LOL....I just would have preferred to have bought it myself...c'est la vie

I feel a lot better bout the parents thanks mostly to you guys...now working on the frustrations and stupid feelings of inadequacy with the mobility stuff.

I've been feeling neurotic as hell, but I helped a few people today and I feel as if I regained some perspective, and some gratitude, tonight

thanks again guys - words fail me, really
D

least

I love ya Dee! You're a treasured friend!:ghug3

Jomey

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Ummm.....hon.....you are neurotic, but we love you anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!


LOL!!!!!!!!!

love you,
JJ

IO Storm

Prayers for strength for your journey today, Dee.

nogard

Hope your doing better Dee, I agree with what gyps said and just look at the support here!

A friend of mine writes for a living, one of his favourite quotes is; "we get more of what we focus on"

I try to focus on how things are now and to change those bio-chemical negative thoughts

Oh and congrats on the 21 months

Bamboozle

Ah, geez....I'm late to a thread AGAIN......too busy looking up fart jokes and other non-important silly stuff....


Hello, Dee. Everyone's said it all and way better than I ever could.

Rusty Zipper

aunt dee, tillie and me is send'n ya a year supply!

All About Love

DEE
i with you
dont forget it...xo
nix

coffeenut

Your parents are wrong.

I wish they could see how well respected you are here. I have no doubt that any of us, if we needed the voice of reason, would choose your voice, Dee.

You know what they say.....you can choose your friends....not your family.....damn!

I do agree with another poster who commented that now they know how not to treat their adult kids. So, even though your post was painful, we are still learning from you. Thank you, Dee.

Lenina

Dee,

I'm having a day that if it were possible, I'd dig my parents both up and hit them with the shovel. LOL

This week, my sis told me how my parents "bragged" about me to anyone who'd listen. This is a shock to me as I never had any evidence they thought I was worth bragging about. I have to wonder if maybe your parents do the same? You're a remarkable man and it's hard to see how they haven't noticed.

Much love,

Lenina

Dee74

well my parents PC was a corruption of some kind - so I couldn't have fixed it anyway.
They rang me today - no apology - on the contrary I have a bad temper too. LOL.

But I've learned in the last few days that some ppl just might never get my wavelength -especially when they have no idea of who I am, and show no interest in finding out....as long as I keep myself true to what I believe in, I'm doing my best

thanks again
D

Room1

I think everybody has said everything better than I ever could, so i'll just send a to let you know I am thinking of you.

Sax

cmc

I know that when I reach the stage where I can truly accept things as they are; I don't need to ride that emotional roller coaster hoping things will be different. I can stop setting myself up for another helping of disappointments and pain.

These days when someone I have 'accepted as is' does their thing I can let it go and if they surprise me and do something unusually nice I can take it for what it is and leave it at that.

Excluding you of course, bro most of my real family (of origin) haven't a clue about who I am and I still feel that loss at times. These days most of my recovery work (Al-Anon) is all about issues such as yours.
I love the three A's: Awareness, Acceptance, & Action.

It's wonderful to 'watch' you work through this and jmho is what recovery is all about...changing how I respond to people, places and things.

:ghug3

Aysha

Couldnt have said it better.

Hope your feeling better.

:ghug3

Dee74

Lenina!

thanks for that

Thanks to you all - I hoping this was one of those turning the corner moments - I'm feeling a lot better about it, and myself, anyway.



D

Emily2002

Gotta luv Mrs. Dee for keeping at you for all of us here who love you, too.

Hang in there and ditto to what mtnmagic said!

Dee74

Yeah she's pretty good, NL....
LOL OK, make that very good.

and thank you too - good to see you here
D

Rella927

Jomey yay we do!

Dee as always Rells is late....

Congrats on 21 Months!

Ditto what Hevyn said!

Dee you are truly an amazing man (not giving you kudos remember that! ) and you have inspired this codie in so many ways over the years! The strength and compassion that you show on these boards and not holding back on how you feel is something that I admire!

Last summer...I finally stood up to my mother (Parents as stated are doing the best they can-I believe that they are with the hand they were dealt but, it does not excuse them totally from the treatment they gave to you) She said something that I just did not like and I went off on her-and told her flat out that I would not allow her to speak to me this way anymore that I have had about enough of it....she went upstairs (we were staying at the shore for vacation-) for 2 hours! We were celebrating my birthday which she was never around for when I was growing up-she was always away on vacation! So that did not surprise me that she would have started something then not join in the celebration! I cried, my sister made me laugh and we all had a grand time!

The pain that our parents can still manage to do even though we are in recovery can etch into us pretty hard. I'm so sorry that you are going through this, know that you were right! Owning their behavior is no longer healthy...it takes time but it is possible! Standing up to my mother gave me a sense of accomplishment in my recovery and boy it felt good!

Ok I have babbled enough!

You are loved here Dee Dee (Ummm look at how many posts!)

Sending you lots of love, prayers and strength to Aussie Land!

Keep sharing with us! Letting it out is the best thing we can do and here
at SR you are among family and safe! Oh and Psssssssst Mrs. Dee ROCKS!

Love you!
Rells

IO Storm

What Rells said...