Lastnight I desroyed what self worth I had left
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I thought this was a good reading.........
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Being Honest with Ourselves
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.
When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.
Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Being Honest with Ourselves
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.
When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.
Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
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On the subject of dependency, this was pretty good too......
You are reading from the book Today's Gift
Dependency (on another human being) is the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another.
--M. Scott Peck
No matter what we may think, overdependence on another can be very unloving because it drains others of any chance for personal growth. Those of us who have been dependent on other people are so busy acquiring love that we ourselves have no energy left to truly give love. It's as if we're starving and scrambling for every little bit of love we can find, with no thought to offering it to others. No wonder they often quickly get tired of us.
We can't force or expect others to do things with us, talk to us, or love us. The way to be surely loved is to be worthy of it. We can work at being worthy by exercising our freedom to feel and do things without others' permission, and to allow them the same opportunity.
What can I do on my own today?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
You are reading from the book Today's Gift
Dependency (on another human being) is the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another.
--M. Scott Peck
No matter what we may think, overdependence on another can be very unloving because it drains others of any chance for personal growth. Those of us who have been dependent on other people are so busy acquiring love that we ourselves have no energy left to truly give love. It's as if we're starving and scrambling for every little bit of love we can find, with no thought to offering it to others. No wonder they often quickly get tired of us.
We can't force or expect others to do things with us, talk to us, or love us. The way to be surely loved is to be worthy of it. We can work at being worthy by exercising our freedom to feel and do things without others' permission, and to allow them the same opportunity.
What can I do on my own today?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
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How's it going today felly? Any new thoughts? I'm sure you've got plenty of friends on SR who are thinking about you. Please let us know how you're doing.
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Thanks Scott and everyone. I guess I am feeling a little better today. I read over the comments here a dozen times and I realize that it is true that while I thought I was making progress I really wasnt. I still havent committed fully yet and I havent even admitted step 1.
I have trust issues, including with myself and cant remember when I didnt.
I know I need to let others love me and to love myself, these are things that I am also incapable of. I even wince when Mom or Dad touches me on the shoulder. A lot of people find comfort with the love they feel at AA meetings but it is that love that partly repulses me.
Anyway, I'm not feeling sorry for myself it just occured to me that I am doing the right things in recovery and I need to switch it it around, or give up.
I have trust issues, including with myself and cant remember when I didnt.
I know I need to let others love me and to love myself, these are things that I am also incapable of. I even wince when Mom or Dad touches me on the shoulder. A lot of people find comfort with the love they feel at AA meetings but it is that love that partly repulses me.
Anyway, I'm not feeling sorry for myself it just occured to me that I am doing the right things in recovery and I need to switch it it around, or give up.
Psalm 118:24
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Not sure what kind of upbringing you had growing up.
Everyone needs human touch. I've read babies would die without it.
Nothing I enjoy more then to hug especially the grand kids.
Ever think of hugging your mom and dad and saying I love you??
I know I'm somebody today cause, God doesn't make junk
Everyone needs human touch. I've read babies would die without it.
Nothing I enjoy more then to hug especially the grand kids.
Ever think of hugging your mom and dad and saying I love you??
I know I'm somebody today cause, God doesn't make junk
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Hi, Felly. I know what it's like to not be able to function and have to depend on people for help. I'm on disability for the time being and my gf is keeping the rent paid. I'm seeing a social worker which I think is helping a lot, and I'm hoping to be back on my feet soon. Don't give up. You can get back on your feet too. 
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Well dont give up.
We all hit rough times. ANd yes..It is alot overwhelming when we cant drown ourselves in a substance anymore. But as time goes on..You will learn to cope better.
Just take it easy. Be gentle with yourself. I dont think anyone expects you to be perfect and get it at the drop of a hat. Experience come from trial and error.
Just learn and remember as you go.
Your an awesome person my friend. I am glad your feeling a little better.
Keep trying fel. Your a fighter. You will get it. Just give yourself some time.
We all hit rough times. ANd yes..It is alot overwhelming when we cant drown ourselves in a substance anymore. But as time goes on..You will learn to cope better.
Just take it easy. Be gentle with yourself. I dont think anyone expects you to be perfect and get it at the drop of a hat. Experience come from trial and error.
Just learn and remember as you go.
Your an awesome person my friend. I am glad your feeling a little better.
Keep trying fel. Your a fighter. You will get it. Just give yourself some time.
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