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downtown3 12-08-2008 11:54 AM

hi all day 1 and counting need ur help
 
Hi guys

I ve been down this path before trying to quit. Iam 28 yrs old and alcohol has begun messing with my mind, causing depression, isolation from friends and loved ones and a general feeling of hopelessness. I am a chef and are having difficulty keeping a job and always seem to make some excuse as to why this last job sucked. In the back of my head i know the real reason, my drinking. It seems everything i did was done with a drink, reading, cooking, tv, porn haha etc. My drinking was always the heaviest when i was feeling the best and in 6 hrs i would feel like total sh*t. Why do we do this to ourselves? Cant i just enjoy life and my accomplishments with out destroying them with alcohol? Well today i joined S.R. and are going to make a serious attempt at sober living with your help. I am excited and scared i've gone at the most 7 days sober in the past 4 yrs with a few single days mixed in their on really bad hangover days. One day at a time seems to be the name of the game. Wish me luck!! Off to my new job!

Best

Matt

Jakey 12-08-2008 12:06 PM

Welcome and good luck Matt! You have come to the right place. One day at a time is all you need to worry about. Stay strong!

least 12-08-2008 12:23 PM

Welcome to a wonderful site Matt! We are all in the same boat here. We're either trying to kick an addiction to alcohol or other drugs, and/or are trying to figure out how to live with an alcoholic/addict. Read the forums and post as you feel the need. One day at a time you can improve your life - I did and am still going strong, one day at a time!

Welcome!:a194:

nickishine 12-08-2008 12:25 PM

Hi Downtown and welcome!!!

You wrote my story in a nutshell! Always when I felt "good" and was "deserving" of that drink would I fall the hardest! (Although it wasn't limited to only feeling good when I'd drink)... Anyways, the whole job thing... I understand 100% and know that drinking is what screws things up and my jumping the gun all the time with work.

I can offer you some hope today.... You're at the beginning of a brand new life should you choose sobriety versus what you have been doing. Give yourself a 30 day commitment and see if you're life isn't truly changing for the better??!!!! Just a thought. There's mucho support here on this site as well as AA near and around where you live with no pressure to speak in their mtgs.

I wish you all the best and hope to see you on this site again, posting, reading and reaching!

Hugs,
Nicki
:ghug3

Pelican 12-08-2008 02:16 PM

Welcome to SR, DT!

I found the excerpts from "Under the Influence" (2nd sticky post under alcoholism section) to be very helpful when I was trying (again) to get sober. I'm on day 105 now.

Good luck with your new job and your sobriety!

CarolD 12-08-2008 02:33 PM

Depression is why I decided to quit and join AA.
:)
Recovery has made me a tremendously joy filled woman.

Welcome to SR!

nickishine 12-08-2008 02:43 PM

Congrats, Pelican on Day 105! That's a huge success! Thanks for the inspiration!

17 days today and still counting!

Nicki:a194:

Tryingto 12-08-2008 03:18 PM

HI Matt

Welcome to the group. I like the positive tone at the end of your post.
You can do this. I am one week sober. It's hard, but so so worth it. Just take it one moment at a time, then you turn back and are proud of the way you have come so far. This is how I am feeling today, instead of hungover.

All the best.

Anna 12-08-2008 04:37 PM

Hi Matt,

Welcome!

I sabotaged my life too, for such a long time. I didn't even really realize what I was doing. And, when I did realize what I was doing, it was hard to stop. I needed to believe that I was worth it, that I was worth a good life. For me, drinking was the symptom of my lack of self-worth.

downtown3 12-08-2008 06:58 PM

thanks
 
hey guys just got off of work (it went well) and on the way home my evil drinking brain said lets have a drink the booze store is still open, its a trick i really dont want to drink and went right home hopped on the computer logged in and was welcomed with all your kind words of support and praise. What a great feeling. I am going to go cook myself dinner and enjoy it for once, not shove it down my throat in some drunken stupper and pass out. Good luck all of you:wave:

best matt

psuge47 12-08-2008 08:10 PM

Welcome DT3. Your story sounds a lot like mine. I hit 30 days today. You can do this. Stay busy,stay active, try working out if you can. Instead of hitting the bar hit the gym. You will find a ton of support from everyone here. They really helped me to get to my first 30 day goal.


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