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Join Date: Nov 2008
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Hello
This is my first post on a forum.
My problem is I drink too much wine. I usually start at 5:00pm and drink 1.5 to 2.0 liters before I go to bed. I do this every evening.
I never go to bars. I only drink at my home or the home of friends. A therapist once described my "problem" as follows: "Most people have a signal that goes off in their head when they know that they should quit drinking, you [I] have no such signal".
Once I take a drink, it is just a matter of time before I have had too much.
I do not get angry or violent when I get drunk. I do get loquacious. What's next?
My problem is I drink too much wine. I usually start at 5:00pm and drink 1.5 to 2.0 liters before I go to bed. I do this every evening.
I never go to bars. I only drink at my home or the home of friends. A therapist once described my "problem" as follows: "Most people have a signal that goes off in their head when they know that they should quit drinking, you [I] have no such signal".
Once I take a drink, it is just a matter of time before I have had too much.
I do not get angry or violent when I get drunk. I do get loquacious. What's next?
Karma Amputee
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Among The Living
Posts: 769
What next?
Pick a day and try not to drink on THAT day.
Make THAT day the goal.
See what happens.
Then try to keep it going one day at a time.
In the meantime, read posts here and keep us updated on you. You will find support here that you need and stories similar to yours, something you can relate to and take strength from.
Pick a day and try not to drink on THAT day.
Make THAT day the goal.
See what happens.
Then try to keep it going one day at a time.
In the meantime, read posts here and keep us updated on you. You will find support here that you need and stories similar to yours, something you can relate to and take strength from.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 26,425
I have no idea what loquacious means 
but you sound like me...no off switch....
Glad you found this site and please keep reading and posting. I think most of us are like you in the lack of a stop switch....the trick is not to ever start...
but you sound like me...no off switch....
Glad you found this site and please keep reading and posting. I think most of us are like you in the lack of a stop switch....the trick is not to ever start...
Member
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: USA
Posts: 413
Glad you're here. Like you, I also never drank in bars. I only drank alone at home.
My big problem was stopping after I started. If I had one drink, I couldn't stop. I would drink until I passed out. I also drank, even when I didn't want to. That was another sign of a problem for me.
And like getr345 said, if you can't quit altogether, that's another sign of a problem.
But we can't tell you whether you're an alcoholic -- that's something that you need to feel out and explore for yourself.
If you don't want to drink all that wine, you don't have to do that anymore.
But I'm glad you're here and I hope that you feel better soon.
My big problem was stopping after I started. If I had one drink, I couldn't stop. I would drink until I passed out. I also drank, even when I didn't want to. That was another sign of a problem for me.
And like getr345 said, if you can't quit altogether, that's another sign of a problem.
But we can't tell you whether you're an alcoholic -- that's something that you need to feel out and explore for yourself.
If you don't want to drink all that wine, you don't have to do that anymore.
But I'm glad you're here and I hope that you feel better soon.
Member
Join Date: May 2008
Location: NY
Posts: 6,608
Welcome to SR and thanks for posting. You sound exactly like me 6 months ago and I drank like that many, many, many years. Did I say many years? Could not imagine going an evening without it and would start drinking between 4 and 5 pm every day and not stop until I went to bed. I definitely didn't have the off switch. Wait I did - when I passed out. If I can quit so can you. Good luck and keep reading and posting. Hand in hand we go soberly down the road.
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,444
Hi,
Alcoholism is a progressive disease. If you don't stop drinking, it will get worse.
I drank at home, alone. I tried my best to hide my drinking, but I realize that other people knew what was going on.
Have you talked to your dr? Stopping drinking can be very dangerous.
I hope you decide to join us and live a sober life.
Alcoholism is a progressive disease. If you don't stop drinking, it will get worse.
I drank at home, alone. I tried my best to hide my drinking, but I realize that other people knew what was going on.
Have you talked to your dr? Stopping drinking can be very dangerous.
I hope you decide to join us and live a sober life.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
I too talked a lot when I was a drinker...
mostly nonsense after I was smashed.
I have noticed I make more sense now
that I am a nondrinker.
Welcome to our recovery community
mostly nonsense after I was smashed.
I have noticed I make more sense now
that I am a nondrinker.
Welcome to our recovery community
Member
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: England
Posts: 1,981
I cant really add anymore than what everyone has already said. Each and everyone of them have a point. Like you I drink wine every night from when I get from work and untill I pass out on the sofa.
I keep relapsing though, I actually enjoy being sober so much more than drinking but thats the problem with this disease.
Welcome :ghug
I keep relapsing though, I actually enjoy being sober so much more than drinking but thats the problem with this disease.
Welcome :ghug
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,745
I too loved my wine. I also drank at home alone. I'm sober nearly five months now and have gained back my kids' respect and my self respect. I tried to control my drinking but was never able to stop after one or two glasses. I'm better off without it altogether.
Welcome!
Welcome!
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 2
Thank you all, I really appreciate the notes of encourgement.
Now I need some advice on how to best use this site.
Where should I start reading?
How can I better participate?
How do I get the most out of your concern and help?
How can I help others?
I am looking forward to the responses.
Now I need some advice on how to best use this site.
Where should I start reading?
How can I better participate?
How do I get the most out of your concern and help?
How can I help others?
I am looking forward to the responses.
IO Storm
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
Posts: 18,436
Welcome to SR!!!!
Read everywhere...that is what I did.
and find something that you can relate to, or with. Then, jump in. You will find
you are welcomed wherever you go. This is the beauty and integral strength of
these forums.
Pick a thread that interests you, maybe you know something about..or can relate
to..and jump in. Share your own experience. Listen to others.
I believe you will get a lot out of the "give and take" relationships we have here.
Good luck!
Read everywhere...that is what I did.
and find something that you can relate to, or with. Then, jump in. You will find
you are welcomed wherever you go. This is the beauty and integral strength of
these forums.
Pick a thread that interests you, maybe you know something about..or can relate
to..and jump in. Share your own experience. Listen to others.
I believe you will get a lot out of the "give and take" relationships we have here.
Good luck!
peaceful seabird
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: floating
Posts: 4,822
Welcome to the SR family.
I am also a wine lover. I am also an alcoholic and am now a sobriety lover!
I lurked here for a while and did a lot of reading before I joined. The information that grabbed my attention was under the Alcoholism Section, the second sticky that contains excerpts from the book "Under the Influence".
That information resonated with me. Helped me understand why I could not control my drinking. It explained my addiction to alcohol. I purchased the book and read it cover to cover.
After I joined SR, I made a few posts but mostly continued to read. Use the site as you need and your needs may change. You may need support more in the beginning, then you may need to share more of your experience, then you may need to see others beginning in their recovery to remind you of where you started. It's all here and it's all good!
:ghug2
I am also a wine lover. I am also an alcoholic and am now a sobriety lover!
I lurked here for a while and did a lot of reading before I joined. The information that grabbed my attention was under the Alcoholism Section, the second sticky that contains excerpts from the book "Under the Influence".
That information resonated with me. Helped me understand why I could not control my drinking. It explained my addiction to alcohol. I purchased the book and read it cover to cover.
After I joined SR, I made a few posts but mostly continued to read. Use the site as you need and your needs may change. You may need support more in the beginning, then you may need to share more of your experience, then you may need to see others beginning in their recovery to remind you of where you started. It's all here and it's all good!
:ghug2
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