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Pretty stupid....
Hey everyone, how you doing?
Not been on here in a while, maybe 5/6 weeks i'm guessing.
Basically I knew best and even though i'd stop drinking for about 20 days or something I decided I wasn't actually an alcoholic...and should just try and control my drinking (don't laugh....) anyway the short version of this story is that on and off i've been battered for 5/6 weeks. This weekend was just the final straw.
So anyway, I start over again @ day 1.
Maybe this time i've learned the lesson that I can't control it and the only thing i can do is stop.
Makes me a little sad that some of the familiar names from a few weeks ago are missing, I can only imagine that they decided to "control" it as well.
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Not been on here in a while, maybe 5/6 weeks i'm guessing.
Basically I knew best and even though i'd stop drinking for about 20 days or something I decided I wasn't actually an alcoholic...and should just try and control my drinking (don't laugh....) anyway the short version of this story is that on and off i've been battered for 5/6 weeks. This weekend was just the final straw.
So anyway, I start over again @ day 1.
Maybe this time i've learned the lesson that I can't control it and the only thing i can do is stop.
Makes me a little sad that some of the familiar names from a few weeks ago are missing, I can only imagine that they decided to "control" it as well.
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The only way I can 'control' my drinking is if I don't do it at all. I too relapsed, too many times, but when I finally wanted to be sober more than I wanted to drink, I was able to stay sober. YOu can too!
Take it one day at a time and you can get there!
Take it one day at a time and you can get there!
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Wibble,
I hope that you have learned from this experience and know that you cannot drink. I wasted so much time, so many months, trying and trying to control my drinking. It was such a relief to finally actually just stop!
I hope that you have learned from this experience and know that you cannot drink. I wasted so much time, so many months, trying and trying to control my drinking. It was such a relief to finally actually just stop!
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My plans pretty simple Carol, I can't drink.
I can't allow myself to even consider having a single drink.
I've lied to myself so many times i've lost count but I think i'm now at a point where i'm clear in my mind that i'm a alcoholic and an alcoholic cannot control their drinking.
Also I'm so desperate to move on with my life. I'm fed up of having this beast on my back holding me back dragging me down. I'm sick of it.
I can't allow myself to even consider having a single drink.
I've lied to myself so many times i've lost count but I think i'm now at a point where i'm clear in my mind that i'm a alcoholic and an alcoholic cannot control their drinking.
Also I'm so desperate to move on with my life. I'm fed up of having this beast on my back holding me back dragging me down. I'm sick of it.
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Are timzupp & coolmummy still on here?
Honestly it feels great to be even on here posting. I've missed this.
I clicked on the page in my bookmark bar a couple of weeks ago and almost had a fit to not look at the site.... I was just so ashamed that i've gone back to booze
Honestly it feels great to be even on here posting. I've missed this.
I clicked on the page in my bookmark bar a couple of weeks ago and almost had a fit to not look at the site.... I was just so ashamed that i've gone back to booze
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Welcome back wibble, as already said I too have found that the best way for me to control my drinking and love life is to simply not drink at all.
I am an alcoholic, controled drinking is a form of torture for me, if I have a single drink the first thought in my head while I am drinking that drink is the next one!
I am an alcoholic, controled drinking is a form of torture for me, if I have a single drink the first thought in my head while I am drinking that drink is the next one!
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You and I are in the same exact place. Today is a new day 1 for me and I am really looking forward to it. Hang in there Wibble! We did this before, we can do it again and I guess (hope/pray) that I have finally figured it out...those two glasses of wine a few weeks ago, messed with me badly and I am just so very tired of it and now know that I CANNOT DRINK-EVER!
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Yeah it always just starts with a couple of drinks doesn't it... and then you sit there planning exactly how many you could have without people saying anything... and why does everyone drink so slowly?
Feels good just to repeat it to myself, I AM AN ALCOHOLIC I CANNOT DRINK....
Feels good just to repeat it to myself, I AM AN ALCOHOLIC I CANNOT DRINK....
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Welcome back Wibble and congratulations on returning here. I did the "I can drink" thing too and ended up drinking for years more. I am glad you aren't that thick! You seemed to have gained some empowerment from this and that's a good thing Wibble.
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Originally Posted by Horselover 
Welcome back Wibble and congratulations on returning here. I did the "I can drink" thing too and ended up drinking for years more. I am glad you aren't that thick! You seemed to have gained some empowerment from this and that's a good thing Wibble.
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Well, I don't relapse for a few days or a few weeks and that's what has me scared straight. The next time would take my life and I am fairly certain of that. I still think you learned from it this time and as far as the insanity, it is and alcoholism is insanity in a way - a big way!
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Originally Posted by wibble
Are timzupp & coolmummy still on here?
Timzup has been about. We talk to him mainly on the thread "just a trivial question but..." We have all been going slowly insane on there - sobriety can be tough! Not sure if he isn't currently conducting his own controlled drinking experiment though!
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Originally Posted by lostbutterfly
Coolmummy not been around a while, but she got to over 45 days. She was really down about not getting a job.
Timzup has been about. We talk to him mainly on the thread "just a trivial question but..." We have all been going slowly insane on there - sobriety can be tough! Not sure if he isn't currently conducting his own controlled drinking experiment though!
Timzup has been about. We talk to him mainly on the thread "just a trivial question but..." We have all been going slowly insane on there - sobriety can be tough! Not sure if he isn't currently conducting his own controlled drinking experiment though!
"controlled drinking experiments"
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Wibble 
Welcome back! Hoping that you stick with your plan and keep posting here with us! There is always a lot of support here! Glad you are back!
Welcome back! Hoping that you stick with your plan and keep posting here with us! There is always a lot of support here! Glad you are back!
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