disappointing update...
I don't see how going to sit in a meeting to get some support or contacting a life line agency for counselling has anything to do with your parents, you keep coming back to that.
Good luck with it.
Good luck with it.
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i just would have to lie about where i'm going and i dont like that. i do that enough right now... and most of my family is in some aa meeting and i would probably run into them.... i'm not trying to make excuses...
you are making excuses and thats up to you. For me I would rather stay alive and be clean rather tahn worry about who thinks what. Denial is a large part of our problem.
No one can fix you and no one can help you until you ask for help and then take the help offered. If you want to use thats your business, if you want to get clean then we can support you.
Yep the feeling of 'I don't deserve it" is part of the addiction dialogue and kept me and many others from recovery for years and took others to their graves.
I listen to that stuff today and then tell it to %&*( off and don't act on it anymore. I talk to another addict or get to a meeting.
I listen to that stuff today and then tell it to %&*( off and don't act on it anymore. I talk to another addict or get to a meeting.
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I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, actually, no I'm not:
1) stop looking for attention on an Internet forum board. Keep reading, posting and looking for help, but stop repeating the same useless and lame excuses for not taking positive actions.
2) get off your A$$ and open up the yellow/blue pages and look for financial counselors, AA meetings, abuse counselors, NA meetings, and help for any other area you feel your life is out of control.
3) stop feeling sorry for yourself, which will not help you in any way, and start taking responsibility for yourself. You may be only 17, but it's your life and you have a responsibility to get it under control. Asking for help is not weakness, but rather it's taking an intelligent path of having those who have the information and expertise to help you to do so.
4) get ready for a rough road, but one you can feel honest about and have a clean conscience about if you get clean, stop dealing, get financial help, and be honest with yourself and those in your life. After you straighten yourself out, you can give back by helping others, but don't worry about that yet.
5) be ready to make mistakes. Don't be ready to not learn from them, to repeat them, nor to not take responsibility for them.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, making excuses and start working hard and earning your own self-respect.
BMUS
1) stop looking for attention on an Internet forum board. Keep reading, posting and looking for help, but stop repeating the same useless and lame excuses for not taking positive actions.
2) get off your A$$ and open up the yellow/blue pages and look for financial counselors, AA meetings, abuse counselors, NA meetings, and help for any other area you feel your life is out of control.
3) stop feeling sorry for yourself, which will not help you in any way, and start taking responsibility for yourself. You may be only 17, but it's your life and you have a responsibility to get it under control. Asking for help is not weakness, but rather it's taking an intelligent path of having those who have the information and expertise to help you to do so.
4) get ready for a rough road, but one you can feel honest about and have a clean conscience about if you get clean, stop dealing, get financial help, and be honest with yourself and those in your life. After you straighten yourself out, you can give back by helping others, but don't worry about that yet.
5) be ready to make mistakes. Don't be ready to not learn from them, to repeat them, nor to not take responsibility for them.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, making excuses and start working hard and earning your own self-respect.
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i appreciate your honesty and i'm sorry if i come off that way. i'm not doing this for attention i'm doing this because i need help and i need to get better. not for attention and not to make excuses.
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Then why are you doing it? People have given you the information you need to start with. Take it and use it. Only you can start.
I appreciate you're reaching out for help/acknowledgment here, but you have to act beyond an Internet forum.
BMUS
I appreciate you're reaching out for help/acknowledgment here, but you have to act beyond an Internet forum.
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i understand and i appreciate you being honest. i was just hoping someone knew an option that i thought was best. i know i have to make the first step and i will when i'm ready. i don't feel sorry for myself either...
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