gypsytears

Don't give up yet Beth. Don't start drinking or drugging. Give yourself chance this time. You've been through worse. You can get through this .

MEETINGS!!!!

GET TO SOME!!!

Negative Man

Change, I can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed. Get to a meeting if you can and share about this. Then, do the next right thing...

Don't drink. Think about three people who can help you. Be humble. Call them up and ask for help.

We always need to ask for help. We can't do this alone.

Negative Man

Change, I can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed. Get to a meeting if you can and share about this. Then, do the next right thing...

Don't drink. Think about three people who can help you. Be humble. Call them up and ask for help.

We always need to ask for help. We can't do this alone.

Boleo

If you think you might be ready for long-term rehab try:

Denver Rescue Mission

Change4life

Im not going to lie, I started drinking as soon as I woke up. With enough to feel like I could cope, I made a call to Hud and another agency. One I left a message , but the hud took all my info and I have a phone conference next thurs. I planned on continuing to drink, but got a call from work they were desperate for help so after much whining I went in instead of getting fd up. Everything is pissing me off im on edge, im disgusted.

I appreciate everyones support, im trying to take the advice and chill the f out. I get so friggin crazy. it always comes back to the fact that I have ZERO coping skills. My brain is just like a fuse. Too much of an overload and I blow. Im gonna try to stay calm. as far as craigs list thats where I found this place so im leary about trying that again, but i will look. for tonight Im okay cause im actually too emotionally wiped out to drink anymore. I had only a few beers, but they were too many I suppose.

Luckyv2

You could come and live in the Barn that I am living in, Chance and I can make room somewhere

I know what you mean though it really is hard to even make it anymore

But

Drinking won't solve the problem and if your luck is anything like mine we probably wouldn't die...we might end up locked up though and I would just assume live in the Barn where I am than that. Well this isn't a normal barn it has a fully contained one bedroom apartment in the bottom part and the loft is a dance floor with oak wood flooring, a stage where a band used to play and of course a bar, but there isn't any liquior LOL

Hang in there I will keep ya in my thoughts and prayers.

Aysha

Beth..I happen to know for a fact that you are entitled to 30 days minimum no matter what the situation. Even if you havent paid your rent you are given that right. Also even with people living together as a family. A head of household can not just tell someone to get out. Legally they need to file for an eviction. Trut me..I went through it with my gramps alot.
The only way someone can get put out is if they are found by the law engaging in illegal activity. And a few other things. But your situation is not one of them. Go to the courts and see what theyre policies are. CAll them. But dont just throw it in because that is too easy to do. You have come too far to just give up now.
Dont let this B**** tell you **** that is not true. Stand up for yourself. You are worth it Beth.
Dont go gettin lost in a bottle. Fight for your rights and your life.

bostonluv

Trish - you are absolutely right. On the money. Good advice.

Missymae737

Beth,

I am so sorry I missed this thread...

My heart goes out to YOU...I and all your friends here at SR. really care what happens to you...

Please, never give up the fight to get sober...You have so much to offer the universe...You are a good person..

Things have a way of working out Beth...Believe this...Don't kill yourself drinking...

Keep reaching out...Keep trying...

I know you can live sober with happiness...:ghug

getr345

Read your own signature line, then read it again. And again if necessary.

dancinggirl

Sweetie, just wanted you to know that I'm so sorry for the situation you're in and I hope everything works out for you quickly so your mind can rest.

Pinkcuda

With no lease there is only one person that can remove you from the house. That is a Judge. It will take 2 months minimum to get a court date and then the Judge will grant you an acceptable amount of time to move out.
If sometime between now and then if you feel like giving up Drugs and Alcohol, don't let any of us stop you.

Change4life

As it turns out in new jersey, Bergen county anyway. Without a written agrrement I have basically no right to anymore than 1 month notice.
Im looking for a place,but not having luck yet. I told myself I would go to a meeting tommarrow. Whatever............

BeachAngel

Hi Beth,

I am in the real estate business and landlord/tenant laws weigh heavily for the tenant in NJ. It may uncomfortable for you to stay there but it is within the laws boundries. I would stay as long as possible until you save some $.

Research landlord tenant laws on google. In the meantime....have you ever heard of Anthony Robbins? His tapes have changed my life. YOU CAN HAVE WHATEVER YOU WANT...seriously. I am working on myself all the time.

Plan your work and work your plan. Do it, I have faith and so can you.

Best of luck.

Beach Angel

least

I hope it all works out well for you. I also hope you can get sober, as drinking will only make your problems worse.

:ghug3

Change4life

I called Hud and another free state legal service. So far HUD told me without a written agreement I dont have a leg to stand on. They gave me the # for homeless prevention. I have a phone consultation this Thursday with the other agency. Hopefully I can get more info on how much time I can get. I dont know that I have any rights. The person I was renting from is not the actual landlord, im in a shared apt situation. Anyway Im down, been sick for weeks. Working extra hours to save what I can,miserable doing it. Miserable when I drink, unbearable if I dont. I had a fairly good day yesterday. Spent the day outdoors. Today my heads floating in s*** again. I just cant stop drinking. I cut back but thats as far as I get. Theres an NA and AA meeting tonight. Im thinking of trying to get to one of them

Dee74

I dunno what to tell you that you haven't heard from me before Beth.

I'm sorry life's so crappy right now, but you drinking won't make it better.

Meetings aren't magic either - even if you do get to one eventually, it's still gonna be up to you to dig yourself out. It's hard work. Way harder than drinking.

I just thought you could use the support with that, as well as doing something positive, but if you're not into the idea, you're not.

If you want things to get better, you have to decide you're worth the hard work and the struggle you'll have to face. I hope you decide that, soon

best of luck in finding a new place
D

mxchaos

sorry things look ****** drinking just makes it seem worse