Question regarding oversensitivity -
Here is something else HL...
I have a laptop..and sometimes I don't thank posts the entire thread...
I have long nails..it is hard enough to type..let alone try to maneuver that
little cursor...sheeesh
So if I come on...sometimes I just thank whoever has specifically responded
to something I threw out earlier..
See how things can be taken amiss?
Hugs
I have a laptop..and sometimes I don't thank posts the entire thread...
I have long nails..it is hard enough to type..let alone try to maneuver that
little cursor...sheeesh
So if I come on...sometimes I just thank whoever has specifically responded
to something I threw out earlier..
See how things can be taken amiss?
Hugs
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I am so laughing at the thank-you thing! And like IO just said-it can so easily be misread but it's amazing how we can assume the worst some days.
Your post reminded me of a few weeks ago.The boards were fairly quiet and I decided to spend quite a bit of time responding to some newcomers with what I thought were really thoughtful, meaningful posts. Well, I checked a few hours later and not one single person had thanked me or said anything at all about what I'd said to them!How dare they?After all that time and energy I'd invested in them and everything?
I mentioned it to a friend of mine here who promply replied 'Oh-yeah.Happens to me sometimes too.I call it 'tumbleweed posting'. (what a great expression-LOL) I just post these days and don't expect people to always reply but if they do it's great!'
I thought that was a great attitude to have and one I should adopt!
You're not alone in this HL.I think it's something we all experience.Glad you posted!
Jules-not expecting a reply now
Your post reminded me of a few weeks ago.The boards were fairly quiet and I decided to spend quite a bit of time responding to some newcomers with what I thought were really thoughtful, meaningful posts. Well, I checked a few hours later and not one single person had thanked me or said anything at all about what I'd said to them!How dare they?After all that time and energy I'd invested in them and everything?
I mentioned it to a friend of mine here who promply replied 'Oh-yeah.Happens to me sometimes too.I call it 'tumbleweed posting'. (what a great expression-LOL) I just post these days and don't expect people to always reply but if they do it's great!'
I thought that was a great attitude to have and one I should adopt!
You're not alone in this HL.I think it's something we all experience.Glad you posted!
Jules-not expecting a reply now
Because I know you love them Jules and I can't disappoint. I know the thank you thing is a bit over the top, but I didn't know as many people thought the same as me. Pretty cool hanging with like minded individuals. Thanks Jules for taking the time to respond to this thread and I hope I made your day! Still oversensitive and so be the kind individual I know you are.
And on the flip side..sometimes I post and it is not well, favorably received.
Bu that is OK too. When I came into AA, a wise person told me to grow
some Teflon. I wish I had listened better..way back then...*Lol*
Bu that is OK too. When I came into AA, a wise person told me to grow
some Teflon. I wish I had listened better..way back then...*Lol*
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LOL sorry-I was off tumbleweed posting in another thread!
Too funny about the cheerleaders though (they didn't scare me away-I'm tougher than you know )
Seriously though, you're definitley not alone in this and I'm really glad you posted about it.It's interesting to read how many of us respond in a similar way.
Julesxox
Too funny about the cheerleaders though (they didn't scare me away-I'm tougher than you know )
Seriously though, you're definitley not alone in this and I'm really glad you posted about it.It's interesting to read how many of us respond in a similar way.
Julesxox
Um - that would hurt dg. I can't see why anyone would say that to you. Your posts are inflammatory or anything. I would say it had to be the other's problem. I got a lot of very good advice on this thread. I don't know if you have read it all, but do when you have time. I may print this thread. These are good peeps here on SR and I intend to stay even if I do get my feelings hurt. I hope you'll do the same.
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Came back to read the later posts, and noticed a few people had actually taken the time to thank me! What would I have done if no one had? Get over it, rae!
But, I think I'm going to be more mindful of thanking others from now on.
A great big THANK YOU to all previous posters! There...I've said it!
But, I think I'm going to be more mindful of thanking others from now on.
A great big THANK YOU to all previous posters! There...I've said it!
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I have no answers as to the correlation Horselover.... I can say that I too, like ananda have been described as wearing my heart on my sleeve. I don't have a problem with that nor do I have a problem with being called a sarcastic b*itch. Either way, it's who I am depending on the moment . What does this have to do with a drinking problem? Not sure. That didn't help at all I'll bet.
Well I think sensitivity isn't a bad thing, but I can be on SR and I can look at my thread and notice well so and so didn't put their name under my post and so they must not agree or most likely they think I'm a jerk. I mean I am probably not just over sensitive but a little on the mental side. I can get so put off if I don't hear what I WANT to hear. I am sounding very self centered and I knew I was, but I didn't think it was as bad as I now realize it is. I am quite a bit off center.
Wow...count me in, too.
I feel like such a heel. I have a strong desire to be accepted by people (even though I spend most of my time pushing them away)...and I have really low self-esteem. I know I'm being ridiculous at times, but I can't help it. Sometimes I feel badly when I don't thank people too, so I'll just go down a thread, read all the posts, and pretty much thank them all. I wish the ability to thank wasn't included... Oh, well...
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