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Old 09-11-2008, 03:15 PM
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advice on how to keep the wolves at bay???

well, seeing as i quite clearly have trouble containing my gremlins! i am hoping that people will assist me & others with

"keeping the wolves at bay"

for all who are super struggling, (alone) in watever sense that may be, in my case i have no immediate family to speak of besides the children, suffer mental health issues, from agrophobia to anxiety etc, are struggling with poverty an housing issues etc, an all the issues that come hand in hand with newly clean timers.......basic general advice on

KEEPING IT SIMPLE

will be greatly appreciated.
seeing as i refuse to give in or up or be pushed away from recovery by my actions i may as well put sumthing usefull out there.

wish i could start it with some good advice but i beleive i am best to simply hang here an read a while til i myself can "keep my own wolves at bay"

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Old 09-11-2008, 03:57 PM
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Hi brainfried,

for me keeping the wolves and bay in the context of recovery is having a program and getting in the middle of it, that is going to regular meetings I currently am going to about 5 a week, doing NA Service, I go into prisons and detox's as well as sit on the Area committe as Asst Sec. and look after the NA Website.

Read our literature and talk to spend time with members and work the 12 steps and develop a deeper relationship with my HP, by constant dialogue and listening.

This keeps me in the middle of the fellowship and less likely to be picked off by the wolves, but I am an addict and struggle anyway at times and if I ease up on this can instantly return to the insanity and unmanagibilty and eventually to using.

So I surround myself with recovery and the fellowship and one day at a time I get well physically, mentally, emaotionally and spiritually.

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Old 09-11-2008, 03:59 PM
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Whatever you do, just don't feed 'em!
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Old 09-11-2008, 04:06 PM
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Originally Posted by doorknob View Post
Whatever you do, just don't feed 'em!
Well put........when you don't feed them long enough they go away.

Keep up the good work everyone. Don't let the wolves get to you. They are only howls in the night nothing more.
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Old 09-11-2008, 04:17 PM
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Originally Posted by doorknob View Post
Whatever you do, just don't feed 'em!
A Grandfather from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his grandson.

"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves."

"One wolf is evil and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, self-pity, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, selfishness and arrogance."

"The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, justice, fairness, empathy, generosity, true, compassion, gratitude, and deep VISION."

"This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other human as well."

The grandson paused in deep reflection because of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out; "Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win?"

The elder Cherokee replied, "The wolf that you feed."
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Old 09-11-2008, 05:49 PM
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Hi Brainfried,

I think it takes work every day and being patient with yourself.
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Old 09-11-2008, 05:57 PM
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Everything everyone else said Nikki. Just don't give up. You are worth it .
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Old 09-11-2008, 06:02 PM
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I think the story about the two wolves inside us says it all. The one you nourish will be stronger, so feed the good one.

Find what is good inside you and nourish it, treat yourself kindly and gently, take joy in something every day, be good to others, and, as always, take it one day at a time.


Actually, wolves are very smart and democratic creatures. Can't we substitute "politicians" for "wolves"?
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Old 09-11-2008, 06:20 PM
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KEEPING IT SIMPLE
pray for um to go bother someone else!

weather you believe in prayer or not!

i didn't

i tried it, and it worked for me toots!

my wolves were Rats!

ta ta BF
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Old 09-11-2008, 08:26 PM
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From my own experience. It doesnt hurt to stop and think before you act or react.
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Old 09-11-2008, 09:15 PM
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Keeping it simple means ...for me

Relying on God and living my AA program.
Everything else falls into place that way.


Blessings to you and your children
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Old 09-11-2008, 11:12 PM
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having and keeping faith is vital for me
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Old 09-12-2008, 12:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Astro View Post
A Grandfather from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his grandson.

"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves."

"One wolf is evil and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, self-pity, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, selfishness and arrogance."

"The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, justice, fairness, empathy, generosity, true, compassion, gratitude, and deep VISION."

"This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other human as well."

The grandson paused in deep reflection because of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out; "Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win?"

The elder Cherokee replied, "The wolf that you feed."
how powerfull this is
one day i know that they will grow wings & fly away

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Old 09-12-2008, 01:25 AM
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eat right, sleep well and exercise. staying healthy helps keep the wolves away.
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Old 09-12-2008, 02:39 AM
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Nik..

I've been in early recovery many many times. I have a collection of old 30

day chips..a lot them. I know it's hard, with your mind going a thousand miles

a minute..and you feel desperate. The wolves seem so real and right there!

You are in NA..you have phone numbers. This is when you need to call

someone. They've been through it before. A temp sponsor will help you

through this. They (want to) help you fight off the wolves. And when

you feel you can't call anyone..sure..talk to someone here.

Give, and take...develop relationships...remembering everyone here is

one drink away from a drunk, pill, line...whatever the DOC is.

We're all in it together, and here for you too!

Oh, and tell those wolfies to take a hike...

Hugs
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Old 09-13-2008, 04:37 PM
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is its cos im physically ill i feel so weak an odd in the head today?

god i feel like eewwwwwwwww today
my minds going a hundred k's an hour, every single noise the kids make is like driving a screw driver through my brain.....
i am not well , have come back down with chest/sinus infection
am feeling manic nervousness as it draws nearer by the day for my departure to r/hab
i want to yell an scream an kick stuff,
but from past exp i know that after i do iwill jsut feel guilty anyways so i wont,
i cry at the drop of a hat
feel like a loser
and am trying extra hard to not misinterperet a thing that is said to me today as im in super sensitive mode
i want to sleep the day away but that kinda doesnt work when kids are awake
i've been going great guns for a few days now
yet still im just sitting here in my bed, cuddling my stuffed toys an bawling giving myself sh** for giving myself sh**

mannnnnnnnnn
y doea this gotta be such a mental head of a journey
will i ever be "me" fully again
or am i going to be forever damaged by all that ive sen an done an survived this last 5 years

i miss my man today so much (found him victim of suicide in 2005)
i miss my mum an my family that was all together once a pon a time,
jasmine, my best friends 12year old that died in a home fire last year, i just cant sit right with anything today


life hurts
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Old 09-13-2008, 04:58 PM
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"In this life pain is mandatory but suffering is optional"

Sounds like something only a monk or a guru can achieve with 20 years of isolated meditation. Read these 9th step promises and you will see some of it is close to fulfilling the above statement;

"We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves".
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