Oh embarrassment. I hate you.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Northeast US
Posts: 1,340
Oh embarrassment. I hate you.
I just had an experience that will probably repeat itself from time to time now that I'm back in my old stomping grounds. I bumped into a friend of a friend and he immediately remembered my name. This surprised me until I dimly recalled that one night when I was very very drunk, I got into a long conversation with this person in which I must have came across as an @sshole/idiot. I just have flashes of being stupid in front of this person. I don't know how to handle these run-ins. Do I say something about how I was pretty intoxicated last time we spoke? Or pretend like it never happened?
On the bright side, if I keep this sobriety thing up (as is my plan), if I say something stupid to someone, I will remember what it was I said!
On the bright side, if I keep this sobriety thing up (as is my plan), if I say something stupid to someone, I will remember what it was I said!
We Do Recover
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Texas
Posts: 2,619
Personally, I would just let the past go...for the time being. Unless they bring it up and ask..I wouldn't worry about it>especially if you can't remember what actually happened>I've got plenty of those stories myself. Later on --should you think you owe this person an amend--I would discuss it with your sponsor first at the appropriate time.
not a greeter
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: padmasana
Posts: 13,927
The past is past. I know embarrassment sucks but it won't kill you. I'd try and put it behind me if I were you. Chances are the other person/ people know you were intoxicated already anyway. If you end up having a friendship with the person, perhaps then address it but I don't really see why it matters at this point. JMO
Sober since 9th May 2008
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 2,973
Been there a few times.
Think you have to put it in perspective.
You say you spoke to them one night, I presume that they were probably drinking as well and possibly don't remember you being as drunk as you think you were.
I worried all the time about what people thought of me ( still do ) but as you've been sober the 2nd time you've met them I would have thought they'll think that night was a one off if they thought anything at all.
They may even think that you just don't normally drink and that you seemed worse that night as your'e not used to it.
Think you have to put it in perspective.
You say you spoke to them one night, I presume that they were probably drinking as well and possibly don't remember you being as drunk as you think you were.
I worried all the time about what people thought of me ( still do ) but as you've been sober the 2nd time you've met them I would have thought they'll think that night was a one off if they thought anything at all.
They may even think that you just don't normally drink and that you seemed worse that night as your'e not used to it.
Belgian Sheepdog Adictee
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: In Today
Posts: 6,101
SS, I was 3 years sober and had to go to the Van Nuys police station for a friend.
The desk Sgt looked at me and said "I know you." OMG, well it turned out that he was one of the 6 metro cops that it took 3 1/2 years prior to get me arrested and into the Hollywood police station. Needless to say, this many was very very happy to find out I was 3 years sober and congratulated me. Also suggested I stay that way, lol
I have to explain that back then Los Angeles had a division called the Metro Division, they drove brown cars and an officer had to be a minimum of 6'2" tall as one of the qualifications. That particular incident I did damage to 4 of them. Yes I was a violent, nasty drunk.
In early sobriety, I found that instead of being embarassed, it was easier to be grateful that I was no longer 'that way.'
J M H O
Love and hugs,
The desk Sgt looked at me and said "I know you." OMG, well it turned out that he was one of the 6 metro cops that it took 3 1/2 years prior to get me arrested and into the Hollywood police station. Needless to say, this many was very very happy to find out I was 3 years sober and congratulated me. Also suggested I stay that way, lol
I have to explain that back then Los Angeles had a division called the Metro Division, they drove brown cars and an officer had to be a minimum of 6'2" tall as one of the qualifications. That particular incident I did damage to 4 of them. Yes I was a violent, nasty drunk.
In early sobriety, I found that instead of being embarassed, it was easier to be grateful that I was no longer 'that way.'
J M H O
Love and hugs,
Sober since 9th May 2008
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 2,973
Sorry, had another thought along similar lines.
I've been sober nearly 4 months now, prior to that I'd pretty much drink as soon as I got home from work and at weekends straight through.
Now I used to worry all the time that neighbours would notice when I was chatting to them that I was 3 sheets to the wind at 2.00 on a saturday afternoon, at no point has anybody said anything to me that I'm any different now I'm sober.
This has led me to think that either folk are to polite to say anything or as I think is more likely that I was very good at hiding my drink problem.
Think we worry about what people think about us too much, how much to we judge other people, I know I hardly do at all
I've been sober nearly 4 months now, prior to that I'd pretty much drink as soon as I got home from work and at weekends straight through.
Now I used to worry all the time that neighbours would notice when I was chatting to them that I was 3 sheets to the wind at 2.00 on a saturday afternoon, at no point has anybody said anything to me that I'm any different now I'm sober.
This has led me to think that either folk are to polite to say anything or as I think is more likely that I was very good at hiding my drink problem.
Think we worry about what people think about us too much, how much to we judge other people, I know I hardly do at all
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Hmm..
I pretended it never happened because
!. the other guy was probably blitzed too..my friends tended to be.
2. they probably remembered me fondly ..why not?
3. only a social clod would bring it up...and that's not my style.
He most likely remembered your name because you are
attractive...charming and a strong woman.
I pretended it never happened because
!. the other guy was probably blitzed too..my friends tended to be.
2. they probably remembered me fondly ..why not?
3. only a social clod would bring it up...and that's not my style.
He most likely remembered your name because you are
attractive...charming and a strong woman.
I'll just take the embarrassment and use it as a motivator.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
