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Join Date: May 2008
Location: Wisconsin
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Speaking for myself only..
When I finally surrendered .. Not drinking and being sober had to come first.. before anything else. I wasn't faced with the difficult things your dealing with FD. But in the end, If I'm not sober, I'm as good as dead.
Praying for you.
When I finally surrendered .. Not drinking and being sober had to come first.. before anything else. I wasn't faced with the difficult things your dealing with FD. But in the end, If I'm not sober, I'm as good as dead.
Praying for you.
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Hi Falling Down,
I read all the posts and one of your posts caught my eye in particular the one about God taking away your desire to drink. I don't think God works that away. It goes against free will. And also, why would He take away your desire and not mine or someone elses? It's going to take some effort on your part. A lot of effort. Sobriety isn't some magical thing that just happens to you. BTW I couldn't handle alcohol in the house right now either. I don't know what you can do about that.
Thinking of you. I hope you'll keep posting. You'll figure this out.
I read all the posts and one of your posts caught my eye in particular the one about God taking away your desire to drink. I don't think God works that away. It goes against free will. And also, why would He take away your desire and not mine or someone elses? It's going to take some effort on your part. A lot of effort. Sobriety isn't some magical thing that just happens to you. BTW I couldn't handle alcohol in the house right now either. I don't know what you can do about that.
Thinking of you. I hope you'll keep posting. You'll figure this out.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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"I don't think God works that away. It goes against free will. And also, why would He take away your desire and not mine or someone elses?"
Hi Bostonluv. I have to politely disagree with that portion only of your post. I think everything else you said is dead on and I very much appreciate your thoughts...if only I knew why God works the way He does I'd be the smartest person on the planet I guess. I don't know why some prayers are answered and others are not. I can only speak from my own personal experience on this one. I know at my very lowest several months back I prayed that God would remove the desire to drink and I had quite a span of time there where I have very little if any urge at all (even with booze in the house). But then I stopped praying so much, allowed myself to disconnect spiritually and as you alluded to, I did not do the work I needed to do. But I do think that God answers prayers, and I know a couple of addicts who were literally brought to their knees by addiction, and prayed about it and God helped them. He just doesn't do all the work for us but I do believe, for me personally anyway, that prayer can help.
Hi Bostonluv. I have to politely disagree with that portion only of your post. I think everything else you said is dead on and I very much appreciate your thoughts...if only I knew why God works the way He does I'd be the smartest person on the planet I guess. I don't know why some prayers are answered and others are not. I can only speak from my own personal experience on this one. I know at my very lowest several months back I prayed that God would remove the desire to drink and I had quite a span of time there where I have very little if any urge at all (even with booze in the house). But then I stopped praying so much, allowed myself to disconnect spiritually and as you alluded to, I did not do the work I needed to do. But I do think that God answers prayers, and I know a couple of addicts who were literally brought to their knees by addiction, and prayed about it and God helped them. He just doesn't do all the work for us but I do believe, for me personally anyway, that prayer can help.
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FD....Yes God did remove my obcession to drink.
I absolutely know it can happen.
It's been over 15 years now and it's never returned.
I was AA sober for 3 years when my miracle occurred.
I still use God and AA to continue my rewarding life.
I started AA for deep despairing depression.
Fortunately...mine was situational depression
and fled after about 2 months.
I have no experience to share with you on drinking husbands.
I did leave my still drinking lover of 5 years to protect
my early sobriety. I also switched jobs .gave up my circle
of drinking friends. Started a different career..went back
to college All these changes began when I was 52.
Not suggesting you need to be as drastic as I was
but if your dying from drinking...big time changes are possible.
Try AA....connect to a church...use SMART ...counseling
or any mixture. Just never quit looking for your answer
It makes me sad to see your pain....
Blessings to you and your husband...
I absolutely know it can happen.
It's been over 15 years now and it's never returned.
I was AA sober for 3 years when my miracle occurred.
I still use God and AA to continue my rewarding life.
I started AA for deep despairing depression.
Fortunately...mine was situational depression
and fled after about 2 months.
I have no experience to share with you on drinking husbands.
I did leave my still drinking lover of 5 years to protect
my early sobriety. I also switched jobs .gave up my circle
of drinking friends. Started a different career..went back
to college All these changes began when I was 52.
Not suggesting you need to be as drastic as I was
but if your dying from drinking...big time changes are possible.
Try AA....connect to a church...use SMART ...counseling
or any mixture. Just never quit looking for your answer
It makes me sad to see your pain....
Blessings to you and your husband...
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