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Hello,
I just wanted to say hello. I have just quit drinking for good after a fight between myself and a good friend. I have had problems with binge drinking now for 2 years and enough is enough. I do not need to drink every day or weekly for that matter, but every so often while drinking, i cannot control how far i take it. I have upset my friends and the person i love most several times now. I need to quit drinking completely in order to keep the ones i love.
My problem is not so much the "no drinking", but its a feeling of isolation i guess. I wanted to see if this is something anyone else has felt, or if its just myself. I feel that i am no longer normal because i have a problem. I guess i just cant understand why everyone else that I know can go out, have fun, and control themselves every time. I dont understand why I cant. My binge drinking doesnt happen every time, or every other time, but maybe only a couple of times a year. Previously, i thought that i could consciously control my drinking, and not take it too far and what a mistake that was. I cant tell when it was going to happen and when i did, it was always too late.
So again, i just wanted to see if any others have experienced these things. I want to quit, I am going to quit, but i just want to feel "normal" again i guess.
I just wanted to say hello. I have just quit drinking for good after a fight between myself and a good friend. I have had problems with binge drinking now for 2 years and enough is enough. I do not need to drink every day or weekly for that matter, but every so often while drinking, i cannot control how far i take it. I have upset my friends and the person i love most several times now. I need to quit drinking completely in order to keep the ones i love.
My problem is not so much the "no drinking", but its a feeling of isolation i guess. I wanted to see if this is something anyone else has felt, or if its just myself. I feel that i am no longer normal because i have a problem. I guess i just cant understand why everyone else that I know can go out, have fun, and control themselves every time. I dont understand why I cant. My binge drinking doesnt happen every time, or every other time, but maybe only a couple of times a year. Previously, i thought that i could consciously control my drinking, and not take it too far and what a mistake that was. I cant tell when it was going to happen and when i did, it was always too late.
So again, i just wanted to see if any others have experienced these things. I want to quit, I am going to quit, but i just want to feel "normal" again i guess.
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Others will be along with great support! I did not drink however the feeling of
being isolated took over most of my childhood and early adult years-I can relate
to the feeling and I did something other things in my life beside drinking that
I have forgiven myself for....Recovery is great! Welcome again
Keep posting and know you are not alone!
is wonderful and please know that we are here for you-Please check out
the other forums as well as the "Alcoholism" forum and the stickies
at the top of the forum!
Others will be along with great support! I did not drink however the feeling of
being isolated took over most of my childhood and early adult years-I can relate
to the feeling and I did something other things in my life beside drinking that
I have forgiven myself for....Recovery is great! Welcome again
Keep posting and know you are not alone!
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Hi mtst08 "My problem is not so much the "no drinking", but its a feeling of isolation i guess. I wanted to see if this is something anyone else has felt, or if its just myself. I feel that i am no longer normal because i have a problem. I guess i just cant understand why everyone else that I know can go out, have fun, and control themselves every time. I dont understand why I cant."
I am not a binge drinker, I am a "hider" who falls into daily drinking. Isolation? Oh yeah. At first, it really sucks that you can't be "normal". I can assure you that after a little while sober, you will encounter people getting/ being drunk and shake your head at how absurd it all is.
There are plenty of fantastic people in the world who do not use/ drink. I feel your pain regarding the isolation, but I assure you, there is no better way to become isolated than to continue drinking.
I am not a binge drinker, I am a "hider" who falls into daily drinking. Isolation? Oh yeah. At first, it really sucks that you can't be "normal". I can assure you that after a little while sober, you will encounter people getting/ being drunk and shake your head at how absurd it all is.
There are plenty of fantastic people in the world who do not use/ drink. I feel your pain regarding the isolation, but I assure you, there is no better way to become isolated than to continue drinking.
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Welcome to our recovery community.
I began drinking at an early age in order to feel more comfortable around people. Eventually I found that I 'needed' a drink in social situations in order to relax and to feel like I fit in. Soon I was drinking at home alone. Not every night. But several. I was ruining relationships, and I wasn't a very attentive mother. Consequences became more severe, and I sought help several years ago.
I am an alcoholic, and that means that I cannot control my drinking. When I have one, I want more. Immediately. To try to control my drinking is and was fruitless.
The sense of lonelines and isolation has, to a great degree, been lifted. I have many sober friends and life is good today.
Stick around, and please continue to share with us.
I began drinking at an early age in order to feel more comfortable around people. Eventually I found that I 'needed' a drink in social situations in order to relax and to feel like I fit in. Soon I was drinking at home alone. Not every night. But several. I was ruining relationships, and I wasn't a very attentive mother. Consequences became more severe, and I sought help several years ago.
I am an alcoholic, and that means that I cannot control my drinking. When I have one, I want more. Immediately. To try to control my drinking is and was fruitless.
The sense of lonelines and isolation has, to a great degree, been lifted. I have many sober friends and life is good today.
Stick around, and please continue to share with us.
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"I guess i just cant understand why everyone else that I know can go out, have fun, and control themselves every time. I dont understand why I cant."
I too was a weekend 'binge' drinker alcoholic. It took me a long time to realize I have a 'disease.
But everytime I start feeling sorry for myself because others can drink while I can't, I am reminded that my disease is very much managed by ME, and that I can live a GREAT life in spite of my disease. People with other diseases do not have this luxury.
No amount of willpower can manage cancer.
I am thankful I can manage the disease I have and live a good life.
I too was a weekend 'binge' drinker alcoholic. It took me a long time to realize I have a 'disease.
But everytime I start feeling sorry for myself because others can drink while I can't, I am reminded that my disease is very much managed by ME, and that I can live a GREAT life in spite of my disease. People with other diseases do not have this luxury.
No amount of willpower can manage cancer.
I am thankful I can manage the disease I have and live a good life.
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Welcome!
I'm glad you found us!
I found that drinking ended up completely isolating me from friends, families and acivities. Recovery has opened up my life to do things I want to do. I still feel uncomfortable in social situations where I don't really know people, but dealing with that is far easier than dealing with alcoholism.
I'm glad you found us!
I found that drinking ended up completely isolating me from friends, families and acivities. Recovery has opened up my life to do things I want to do. I still feel uncomfortable in social situations where I don't really know people, but dealing with that is far easier than dealing with alcoholism.
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