CarolD

how many NA meetings have you attended
since your relapse?

...better find a men only so you can
focus on your recovery.

Ananda

I admire your honesty .... Don't worry I think it gets easier...It helps if everytime I feel that urge toward someone I look around for a fairly new person of MY sex to talk with and share recovery. The other feelings pass just as the urge to drink does.

And Yes...I hope you have found someone in your NA group (male) to talk with and have been going to meetings.

Thanks for posting.

Anna

Hi Evan,

I hope you find a way to change your patterns of living. There is a better life waiting for you but you need to deal with your recovery first.

CarolD

I strongly suggest my AA sponsees finish their
formal AA Steps before starting a new love.

And Yes...that includes 1 night stands...

Those that do....seem to be more in balance
and find it easier to deal with it emotionally.

Good to know you are working on moving forward...

Hevyn

Hi evanrude - it's hard to be honest about such things, but as you said - necessary. It sounds like you need to uncomplicate your life a bit - with all the entanglements, as you said - it's impossible to focus on the job of getting sober and staying there. I see from your profile you're a bartender. Isn't that making your attempts at sobriety that much more difficult? I myself still go to places that serve, & I haven't had a problem yet - but if I worked there 8+ hrs. a day I might cave. Hope you will find some solutions.

four812

sometimes it seems that the only time that alone-ness or lonliness goes completely away is under the sheets, for me.

but at the same time, that can also bring loads or more and more lonliness via rejection or jealousy.

I have so much opportunity to change here, and i've been trying very hard. trying to stand on my own, within the relationship that i am in, and not be a needy creepy boyfriend