Forgiveness
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Forgiveness
When I was getting sober this time I was extremely willing when it came to the steps. I was so sick and tired of the disease and I was truly dying.
I jumped into the steps immediately and did a thorough 4th and 5th step. I got through 6 and 7 without any trouble and got onto making amends.
I did all of my major amends except for my step-father. He was the first person on my resentment list. When it came time for amends I just COULD NOT do amends with him. I was worried that at 17 months sober that I had not done the amends with him. His part was so big that it was hard to see my part. But I DID have a part and I knew that. I just kept praying for willingness. I read the big book where it said that if we do not finish our amends that we would drink again. That scared me!
Oh Father's day weekend I went and spent the night with my step-dad and Mom. I went to church with them of Father's day. The topic/sermon was on forgiving your earthly father. I was shocked. I felt like I was being talked to individually.
The preacher went on to say that the best Father's day present would be to tell your earthly father that you forgive him.
Actually I had forgiven my stepdad a while back. BUT I had NEVER told him. THAT was my part. In a way I held him in bondage by not telling him that he was forgiven.
When I left that day I hugged him and told him that I forgave him.
I don't know how he felt about it but I felt WONDERFUL. I still feel great.
I have such a bigger appreciation for the amends process not.
I feel like I just got sober and am riding the pink cloud again.
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I jumped into the steps immediately and did a thorough 4th and 5th step. I got through 6 and 7 without any trouble and got onto making amends.
I did all of my major amends except for my step-father. He was the first person on my resentment list. When it came time for amends I just COULD NOT do amends with him. I was worried that at 17 months sober that I had not done the amends with him. His part was so big that it was hard to see my part. But I DID have a part and I knew that. I just kept praying for willingness. I read the big book where it said that if we do not finish our amends that we would drink again. That scared me!
Oh Father's day weekend I went and spent the night with my step-dad and Mom. I went to church with them of Father's day. The topic/sermon was on forgiving your earthly father. I was shocked. I felt like I was being talked to individually.
The preacher went on to say that the best Father's day present would be to tell your earthly father that you forgive him.
Actually I had forgiven my stepdad a while back. BUT I had NEVER told him. THAT was my part. In a way I held him in bondage by not telling him that he was forgiven.
When I left that day I hugged him and told him that I forgave him.
I don't know how he felt about it but I felt WONDERFUL. I still feel great.
I have such a bigger appreciation for the amends process not.
I feel like I just got sober and am riding the pink cloud again.
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Thank you Tanya...I havent made it past step 4. Been stuck there for months.
But I do need to make amends to my own father.
I wonder should I wait for step 9 or do it ASAP.
I have written letters and sent cards.
But there is forfivness on both parts here.
I am too ashamed to look at my dad.
It has been almost a year.
I admire yopur courage and hope I will some day be that courageous.
Well done sweety.
But I do need to make amends to my own father.
I wonder should I wait for step 9 or do it ASAP.
I have written letters and sent cards.
But there is forfivness on both parts here.
I am too ashamed to look at my dad.
It has been almost a year.
I admire yopur courage and hope I will some day be that courageous.
Well done sweety.
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