beegee

Hi, My adult daughter is an addict and I am looking for support for myself as odd as that may sound.
I just was in the hospital for a month and thinking she was doing great because she was in a new program that she wanted to do. Which was a first, she has been in denial with me for a long time.
She has beautiful jobs and then drops them. Bills up the wall and spend my money too. I am sick, heartbroken stupid because I keep believing her but they are all lies.
This is just a really bad time because I needed her help so much now. I guess drugs don't care what anyone needs.
Am I in the right place or wrong? Thanks
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Thinkingabit

This is a great place for others who have been just where you are and some who are in there right with ya now. I can tell you without a doubt that she will quit when she is ready. You can choose to support the fixing of the messes or you can step back. This is up to you. I know that while I was being given money and had bottomless help, I just kept on going. It was when the help faded that I had to face that I had to change. I did. It is different for everyone.

Read the research. Know that treatment does not work statistically. Most mature out and 80% quit with no help at all. They simply decide to change. That is what I did. Harvard University did some research that is very interesting as to what is working and what is not. Please educate yourself.

Thinkingabit

beegee

Thank you Thinkingabit. I know your right.
I did find a forum for parents of.... after I wrote this.
beegee

ThisIsTheDay

Hi Beegee...Welcome to Sober Recovery....

You are at the right sight, I think the forum you are looking for is called Friends and Family of Substance Abusers. This is off the main page.
Sorry to here how your daughter is treating you ata time when you need her...
Below is a link to the forum if you cannot find it, I think this is what your looking for.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tance-abusers/

Rella927

Welcome beegee! Glad that you found us! You have posted in the right place although checking out the other forums could give you more support-There are stickies at the top of the forums with a wealth of information!

Sorry you are going through this and know that you have come to a great site
with lots of support!

Anna

Welcome!

I'm glad you're seeking help for yourself!

beegee

I know tht this is what I need, help for myself because it appears that I am the one being destroyed inside. I thank you for your words.

Anna

Yes, addiction is a family disease and I am glad you're looking for support.

Rella927

Forgot to mention that the "Friends and Family" forum is probably a good place to start....

grateful2b

Hi Beegee, welcome to SR, glad you found us..
There are many wonderful people here...many parents of addicted children here who know your pain..
I am a mom of a 24 yr old AD..drugs and alcohol and I usually hang out on Friends and Family of Alcoholics/Substance Abuse..great stickies at the top of both pages..
This place has been a godsend to me and a big part of my recovery....I have gone from been part of my daughter's madness and an emotional hostage, to stepping outside of her world and getting a life, all the while discovering a way to be part of the solution in her life. oh , I have a codie slip now and then, but I just get right back up on the horse....
Yes, you have definitely come to the right place...
hugs, grateful

beegee

Hello again,
Thank you for all your help and kind words. I definitley have found a good place here. I keep wanting to explore and read everything but something stops me halfway through. So here I am in the am trying to get thru. ((hugs)) back to you.