Relapsed after bein sober since jan
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Relapsed after bein sober since jan
Hi everyone. I relapsed and drank saturday and sunday. I went to a weddin and every1 was drinkin around me. I didnt even like the taste of the beer i drank. So annoyed with myself so back to day 1 but atleast i know i can do it and thats drinkin is pointless and painful. Wish i just had not drank
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Thanks both for your messages. U get used to not drinkin and i even liked it feelin fresh and happy. Then u let ur guard down at celebrations and this wat happens i guess it was hard as every1 was bein handed out wine when we walked in. I should have put it down. I managed at the hen night not to drink and was really happy with my self. It is possible though and i am going to back to it lookin 4ward to feelin well again. Also, when i was drinkin i didnt enjoy the taste any more it was the effect that i was after it tasted nasty after not drinkin for so long. Back to not drinking again i screwed up but i know that life without alcohol is better than being trapped by it
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Originally Posted by Amelie 
I should have put it down.
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I don't have a programme like Astro, but I think the ideas the same.
I like who I am when not drinking.
I know what happens when I drink.
I know that effect will never change....I researched that for 15 years.
so...there is never a good enough reason to drink.
I've worked hard to change who I am and to change my life.
It's about more than not drinking, it's being a better person -
I value my sober life too much to lose it.
Simple really LOL
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I like who I am when not drinking.
I know what happens when I drink.
I know that effect will never change....I researched that for 15 years.
so...there is never a good enough reason to drink.
I've worked hard to change who I am and to change my life.
It's about more than not drinking, it's being a better person -
I value my sober life too much to lose it.
Simple really LOL
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I don't have a programme like Astro, but I think the ideas the same.
I like who I am when not drinking.
I know what happens when I drink.
I know that effect will never change....I researched that for 15 years.
so...there is never a good enough reason to drink.
I've worked hard to change who I am and to change my life.
It's about more than not drinking, it's being a better person -
I value my sober life too much to lose it.
Simple really LOL
I like who I am when not drinking.
I know what happens when I drink.
I know that effect will never change....I researched that for 15 years.
so...there is never a good enough reason to drink.
I've worked hard to change who I am and to change my life.
It's about more than not drinking, it's being a better person -
I value my sober life too much to lose it.
Simple really LOL
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Don't beat yourself up. So you slipped...you didn't fall. Even if you fall, just get back up.
I personally never think of it as "back to day 1", though I used to. (I tend to be a perfectionist and demand perfection of myself, but I've learned that is not helpful to me overall, not when trying something as difficult as this in which setbacks are virutally inevitable)
I just pick it up where I left off and keep going, reminding myself that all those days I did well still count...they are days when I didn't screw up, days when, before attempting recovery, I would have been drunk. Days when my poor abused body got a break.
And for me, success just builds on itself. It is much more helpful for me to think of it as a week or 2 weeks or whatever of success with a day or 2 of screw-ups mixed in than "great! Back to day 1"
I think we tend to be so much harder on ourselves than others are. Others tend to understand while we tend to hate ourselves. I am trying to be more gentle on myself, to understand myself and not get into that whole self-loathing cycle.
I don't think anyone here thinks any less of you for your momentary lapse. Nor would you think less of anyone here for theirs. Give yourself that same benefit and compassion:ghug
I personally never think of it as "back to day 1", though I used to. (I tend to be a perfectionist and demand perfection of myself, but I've learned that is not helpful to me overall, not when trying something as difficult as this in which setbacks are virutally inevitable)
I just pick it up where I left off and keep going, reminding myself that all those days I did well still count...they are days when I didn't screw up, days when, before attempting recovery, I would have been drunk. Days when my poor abused body got a break.
And for me, success just builds on itself. It is much more helpful for me to think of it as a week or 2 weeks or whatever of success with a day or 2 of screw-ups mixed in than "great! Back to day 1"
I think we tend to be so much harder on ourselves than others are. Others tend to understand while we tend to hate ourselves. I am trying to be more gentle on myself, to understand myself and not get into that whole self-loathing cycle.
I don't think anyone here thinks any less of you for your momentary lapse. Nor would you think less of anyone here for theirs. Give yourself that same benefit and compassion:ghug
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"perhaps the reason god lets us fall down is so that we will learn how to pick ourselves up" --- quote from Batman returns.\
way to go Amelie. way to come back. often people have asked me "what are you going to do different this time"? you may like to pose that question to yourself.
anyway thanks for sharing and I hope to hear more
way to go Amelie. way to come back. often people have asked me "what are you going to do different this time"? you may like to pose that question to yourself.
anyway thanks for sharing and I hope to hear more
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Next time i will remember how i feel now. I guess two days in 6 months is nothin to beat myself up about. I could nt even do 2 weeks before. Thanks for all your support as always i have found reading sr extremely helpful
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Amelie 2 posotives added together equal a posotive!!!!
Posotive #1, you stayed sober for 30 days!
posotive #2 you are sober again!
Those 2 posotives equal a stronger resolve to do what it takes to stay sober.
Just not drinking never worked for me, I like Astro use AA, Dee also has realized how crucial change is to staying sober. For me the 12 steps of AA are what has led me to the change I need in me to stay sober.
Work on changing your self for the better what ever means you use.
Posotive #1, you stayed sober for 30 days!
posotive #2 you are sober again!
Those 2 posotives equal a stronger resolve to do what it takes to stay sober.
Just not drinking never worked for me, I like Astro use AA, Dee also has realized how crucial change is to staying sober. For me the 12 steps of AA are what has led me to the change I need in me to stay sober.
Work on changing your self for the better what ever means you use.
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Isn't it funny how I (we) can forgive others for their mistakes but beat ourselved unmercifully for our mistakes. I'm working on forgiving myself but it's hard. So hard.
We have to pick ourselves up and start over. That's what I'm going to do. :ghug
We have to pick ourselves up and start over. That's what I'm going to do. :ghug
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