OK, I really screwed up....
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OK, I really screwed up....
A lot of people are telling me that what I wrote in another thread was hurtful, unkind, messed up, and indicates that there is something seriously wrong with me.
I have two choices: (1) I can insist to myself and others that I was somehow "right" or (2) I can stop and listen to the feedback I'm receiving, and question my words and actions. I'm going to try #2.
So now, examining what happened, I see that I reacted to someone else's pain in a cold, unkind and self-righteous way. I desperately want to tell myself that I was trying to be helpful. But the truth is, I did not respond with love or compassion. I did not respond the way I would have like to be treated.
Apparently, I don't have the strength or courage to respond to another person's pain in a way that is helpful and nurturing. I'm sorry to have been hurtful towards someone who is already hurting, and to have upset those of you who witnessed my insensitivity.
I have two choices: (1) I can insist to myself and others that I was somehow "right" or (2) I can stop and listen to the feedback I'm receiving, and question my words and actions. I'm going to try #2.
So now, examining what happened, I see that I reacted to someone else's pain in a cold, unkind and self-righteous way. I desperately want to tell myself that I was trying to be helpful. But the truth is, I did not respond with love or compassion. I did not respond the way I would have like to be treated.
Apparently, I don't have the strength or courage to respond to another person's pain in a way that is helpful and nurturing. I'm sorry to have been hurtful towards someone who is already hurting, and to have upset those of you who witnessed my insensitivity.
I think it's ok to make mistakes. I certainly forgive you. I think the essence of what you said is absolutely spot on - I think you just got the context wrong. It's so easy to be self righteous when actually our desire is to be helpful...but we live and learn hey. Progress not Perfection! And maybe those who unkindly attacked back can also think about their actions...neverhteless, we have stopped fighting anyone and anything! You did your bit, good for you
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Yup I agree with Taz! When I'am wrong in my life today and I can admit to it right away, I know that my recovery is working for me! Sounds like it is working for you! Way to go!
I think the essence of what you said is absolutely spot on - I think you just got the context wrong.
Kevin
And I dont see why someone who apologises should be congratulated for it.
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