parentrecovers

we invite our daughter (not in recovery) for dinner every sunday. she's off on sunday, and we open the door. just a few hours of time. we'd be grateful for an hour. we just want to see her.

she signs up, and we go about our day - chores, errands, gardening. etc.

3 sundays in a row now where she doesn't show. this week she says she is showing. with a lot drama. she'll be here in about 30 mintutes. we are anxious to see her, because we want to see that she's "ok".

it's so hard.

hugs, k

least

It's so hard to see a child who may be in trouble and does not accept your 'help' or even want to come see you. Please pray for her that she can see you as accepting and loving. She may be afraid to see you if she's really "bad off". Just pray for her, it's all you can really do.:ghug2

Rella927

Miss K so sorry sweetness I know this has been so hard for you....I will continue to send blessings to her and to you and Mr. K Love ya sweets

Hevyn

k, from what I know of your situation you've done everything right in dealing with this. Speaking as the "daughter" part of the equation, I know she probably wants more than anything to show up and be ok, & someday she probably will. Leaving the door open is something my mother was unable to do. She simply cut me off & let me know how disgusted she was. Oh, she's polite, but so cold and unforgiving I can't communicate with her - we've lost all the closeness we once had. (We're running out of time.) Your daughter is so fortunate to have you for parents, & I'm sure she knows that in her heart. Sending prayers that she will see the light one day soon. Love, Joanie

Alive

you're a Mom...so right....only a mom and a dad....

cmc

My heart goes out to you because I know how that feels, k.
Yes....."it's so hard" to see your child behave in such selfish, hurtful and self-destructive ways. I know that you have the tools to handle this and I'm just sending along my support for you and mr parentrecovers. She's sick right now but I'm hoping that soon she will come to her senses. In the meantime...here's an extra hug for you.
I hope you have a nice visit with her today.

Ann

K, I've walked in your shoes and I know how awful it is. These shoes were never meant for any mother to wear.

Sending prayers for your daughter and hugs from my heart to yours.

Astro

(((k))) You're loving parents, and someday I may be doing the same thing for my children. I hope and pray that I'm even half the parents that you are.

gypsytears

I hope she shows and dinner goes as well as possible. I hope at least she shows up so you know she's somewhat OK.

You are a great mother K .

Anna

K, I am so sorry that things are so hard for you and your family.

There is always hope.

mle-sober

My children are still in my home so I don't have your expereience. But I do worry constantly about whether they'll grow up to be alcoholics or addicts. I know it would be one of the most difficult things for me. In my sobriety, I've tried to apologize to my own mom for putting her through so much. She's had 2 out of her 4 kids become alcoholics. We've been through quite a mess but we love each other despite it all. And forgivness reigns. We are lucky and we know it. I pray your daughter will find her way out and back to you. I tink just to keep inviting her - that open invitation - must be helpful even if you can't see it yet.

stone

Love ya K.

historyteach

(((K)))

I'm sorry.
I've been in your shoes many times. It's very hard, and the imagination starts running away with us.

Try to focus on what is, and what you can control. It's the only thing we can do.
Let go and Let G*D.

Shalom!

Rusty Zipper

(((kk)))

nogard

((((((((((((((((((kk)))))))))))))) I understand, watching my daughter fade away and more recently struggle back and bloom and I still wonder whats going on if she hasn't rang and I know how much angiush and pain I put my Mum and Dad through

Thinking of you and sending much much Love, in fact infinity+1 for you (((K)))

Kevin

Thanks (((MG)) quick and quiet as always

Cathy31

I think this post should have been moved to family and friends of alcoholics/addicts...K I'm sorry for your pain al-anon can help.

Cathy31
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indigo

You have my sincerest love and support K I have 2 of my children in the throes of addiction and I wholeheartedy empathise with you.

Dean62

Thank you for posting this in the newcomers forum. I needed to see this. :praying

parentrecovers

thanks. everybody. i appreciated your hugs. i listened to your points and i learned from them. my daughter did come over, and it was great to see her. i need to continue to practice learning to go of MY expectations. i get that. it's just not always easy to practice.

one day at a time in recovery,
k

Rowan

K - I wish you were my Mom.

You inspire me to be a better mother. Thank you for sharing.