delurking serial quitter
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delurking serial quitter
Hi been a member here for a while, but I think this is my first post. Been quitting, slipping, repeating for far too long, last couple of years. I have been up to a couple months sober in the past and want to make it stick this time. Today is day 5 on this edition and thought I would say hi to those whose posts I have been clandestinely reading the past few days.
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Soooo...do you have a plan for this
time to be your final misery-go-round?
Yes! you too can recover.
A future of health and joy is possible.
Welcome to our Forums ...
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Co Springs, CO
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Hi thanks for the welcome!
Day 6 alcohol and smoke free.
A couple of you asked "do you have a plan?". Good question, and one I have been giving some thought.
My longest sober run last year was 58 days, I was going to AA and seeing a therapist. Early on everything was pretty positive. Somewhere along the line in both AA and therapy the focus on the past, looking for my character defects, digging into my childhood for non-existent wrongs. Anyway things got real negative real fast. Going to therapy and doing step 4 stuff was agony. I stopped doing it and slipped. And I have been floundering since.
I am not blaming anyone or anything but myself for quitting. But I feel like I was drug into activities that did nothing to reinforce my motivation to stay quit, or self esteem, or reduce my guilt and shame over things done or not done while drinking.
I think my plan has to learn and improve on my best attempt. So for the time being I am going to resume AA and not scratch at any festering sores from the past until I think I am ready to do so, if ever.
Reinforcing this approach, I just finished reading "Under the Influence". In the authors' guide to treatment they talk about the importance of a support system in the 3d world, and are supportive of AA. And at the same time to avoid the pitfall I experienced. Specifically by focusing inventory work on how things are going AFTER getting sober.
Also I need to get a rational diet and exercise plan going and stick to it, too many years of booze is not kind to the waist line. Making progress here should be a positive reinforcement as well.
Well I guess that's a pretty lengthy response that could be shortened to:
don't drink
don't smoke
go to AA
don't dwell on the past
exercise
eat right
I hope everyone is doing well.
LC
Day 6 alcohol and smoke free.
A couple of you asked "do you have a plan?". Good question, and one I have been giving some thought.
My longest sober run last year was 58 days, I was going to AA and seeing a therapist. Early on everything was pretty positive. Somewhere along the line in both AA and therapy the focus on the past, looking for my character defects, digging into my childhood for non-existent wrongs. Anyway things got real negative real fast. Going to therapy and doing step 4 stuff was agony. I stopped doing it and slipped. And I have been floundering since.
I am not blaming anyone or anything but myself for quitting. But I feel like I was drug into activities that did nothing to reinforce my motivation to stay quit, or self esteem, or reduce my guilt and shame over things done or not done while drinking.
I think my plan has to learn and improve on my best attempt. So for the time being I am going to resume AA and not scratch at any festering sores from the past until I think I am ready to do so, if ever.
Reinforcing this approach, I just finished reading "Under the Influence". In the authors' guide to treatment they talk about the importance of a support system in the 3d world, and are supportive of AA. And at the same time to avoid the pitfall I experienced. Specifically by focusing inventory work on how things are going AFTER getting sober.
Also I need to get a rational diet and exercise plan going and stick to it, too many years of booze is not kind to the waist line. Making progress here should be a positive reinforcement as well.
Well I guess that's a pretty lengthy response that could be shortened to:
don't drink
don't smoke
go to AA
don't dwell on the past
exercise
eat right
I hope everyone is doing well.
LC
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Please look in "Under" for the chapter on Nutrition
I followed that for about 6 months with good results.
And...the info there convinced me to finally quit.
God and AA keep me in recovery.
Good to see you again...
I followed that for about 6 months with good results.
And...the info there convinced me to finally quit.
God and AA keep me in recovery.
Good to see you again...
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