put myself into ****** up situation
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put myself into ****** up situation
well tonight i put my self into ****** up situation i went out to bar with buddy to catch up on times, i managed not to drink, but now that i home, i feel like i have to, part of me tells me no, but mostly feels like i have to, i dont know what to do, im on 3months but that wont last much longer
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3 months is amazing, how'd ya do it? I'm on day 13, with high hopes to get to where you're at. You don't really want to backtrack now that you've come so far do you? What have you been doing when the cravings hit? Think about how much temptation you've had to resist in order to achieve 3 mths of sobriety. Think of just how significant an accomplishment you've made. Don't throw that away. You can make it one more night. Just one more night. Maybe you'll take that drink tommorrow, but don't give in tonight.
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Hi Equilibrium,
It took a lot of changes for me to be able to live a sober life. One thing I did was to avoid places where there was alcohol. It was just too hard.
You can make a choice to get through this!
It took a lot of changes for me to be able to live a sober life. One thing I did was to avoid places where there was alcohol. It was just too hard.
You can make a choice to get through this!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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Don't turn back now EQ stay sober today!!
Don't even worry or think about tommorrow.
You're posting on here, that's good. Don't stop!
If you can, call someone, anyone you trust, tell them how you feel... it helps.
Don't give up before the miracle.
God's Peace
Don't even worry or think about tommorrow.
You're posting on here, that's good. Don't stop!
If you can, call someone, anyone you trust, tell them how you feel... it helps.
Don't give up before the miracle.
God's Peace
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Dayton, Ohio
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I wouldn't focus on what you could do (drinking)
I'd focus on what you didn't do (drink)
Keep doing what you 're doing right now to get through the evening.
Just work on one hour at a time.
Turn on that cooking channel while you're posting on here!
Do you have any phone numbers of people in Recovery?
Is there a meeting you can go to tonight? I know there are a great deal of meetings where I live on Friday and Saturday nights to help others in a spot just like you are.
Hang tight!
You can do this
Just for Today!
Hugs & Prayers,
Judy
I'd focus on what you didn't do (drink)
Keep doing what you 're doing right now to get through the evening.
Just work on one hour at a time.
Turn on that cooking channel while you're posting on here!
Do you have any phone numbers of people in Recovery?
Is there a meeting you can go to tonight? I know there are a great deal of meetings where I live on Friday and Saturday nights to help others in a spot just like you are.
Hang tight!
You can do this
Just for Today!
Hugs & Prayers,
Judy
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Colorado Prairie
Posts: 1,417
There's a lot of us that have lost the choice. We can't drink for any number of reasons.
Don't wait for that to happen in your life. It's never pretty!
Therefore I think you're in a better situation than you think you are. Keep it up.
Don't wait for that to happen in your life. It's never pretty!
Therefore I think you're in a better situation than you think you are. Keep it up.
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 49
Hello Eqlibrium -
I got myself into situations like that when I first started drinking again. (After over two decades without a drink by working ... well, I call it a "Program of Vigorous Ignorance" now.)
I had these rules for myself such as: only on Sunday and only after Mass - it is a feast day after all. The problem was that we have a very late mass at our church: 9pm and it seemed very unseemly to start so late afterward. So if that was my Mass then, no cocktails for me that Sunday.
The rest of the week though, I was haunted by the idea that I was "owed" a evening of cocktails. To fix the balance, I would do things like go through the calendar and see when I had late Masses and then determine other days would to be my "Substitute Sundays". It deteriorated very fast because I sometimes would schedule my Substitute Sunday before Sunday, but after that Sunday I still felt like I was owed a Sunday so I'd need another one to make up for it. I lost track very quickly and probably should have recognised something was wrong way back then since I knew of no one else who gets out a calendar to schedule their drinking sessions.
There is something mysteriously powerful about placing yourself in a situation where you would normally drink yet abstaining. It endows a sense of entitlement that I don't entirely understand.
Pax,
Dietrich
I got myself into situations like that when I first started drinking again. (After over two decades without a drink by working ... well, I call it a "Program of Vigorous Ignorance" now.)
I had these rules for myself such as: only on Sunday and only after Mass - it is a feast day after all. The problem was that we have a very late mass at our church: 9pm and it seemed very unseemly to start so late afterward. So if that was my Mass then, no cocktails for me that Sunday.
The rest of the week though, I was haunted by the idea that I was "owed" a evening of cocktails. To fix the balance, I would do things like go through the calendar and see when I had late Masses and then determine other days would to be my "Substitute Sundays". It deteriorated very fast because I sometimes would schedule my Substitute Sunday before Sunday, but after that Sunday I still felt like I was owed a Sunday so I'd need another one to make up for it. I lost track very quickly and probably should have recognised something was wrong way back then since I knew of no one else who gets out a calendar to schedule their drinking sessions.
There is something mysteriously powerful about placing yourself in a situation where you would normally drink yet abstaining. It endows a sense of entitlement that I don't entirely understand.
Pax,
Dietrich
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Ha Ha Augustine! That was funny. Really. Not sarcastic. God, now I just sound like a jerk. Whatever. That was a funny post. And real.
Eqlibrium, I really just think that you need some structure to your efforts. Having white-knuckled it for 3 months really isn't the kind of sobriety that lends itself to long-term kinds of changes. I get the feeling you're not an AA type o guy. But boy does AA help me in so many ways.
Keep trying. Keep trying. Don't drink today. Sooth your rattled nerves with other distractions - really good strawberries, walking barefoot, swimming, a funny movie, loud music that does NOT remind you of drinking....Hang in there. I, for one, am rooting for you.
Oh - and yea - don't go into those bar kinda places or other places you drank until your sobriety is much, mcuh stronger. And maybe never. You just sabatauged yourself. (Don't have a clue about how to spell that.)
Eqlibrium, I really just think that you need some structure to your efforts. Having white-knuckled it for 3 months really isn't the kind of sobriety that lends itself to long-term kinds of changes. I get the feeling you're not an AA type o guy. But boy does AA help me in so many ways.
Keep trying. Keep trying. Don't drink today. Sooth your rattled nerves with other distractions - really good strawberries, walking barefoot, swimming, a funny movie, loud music that does NOT remind you of drinking....Hang in there. I, for one, am rooting for you.
Oh - and yea - don't go into those bar kinda places or other places you drank until your sobriety is much, mcuh stronger. And maybe never. You just sabatauged yourself. (Don't have a clue about how to spell that.)
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