I can't get my head around a troubling relationship
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I can't get my head around a troubling relationship
I ended a typical troubling realtionship with a women 3 months ago. She keeps surfacing even after I tell her that I want to be alone and ask here not to contact anyone I know.
I feel a great deal of resenments becuase she illegealy hacked into my computer and was reading personal info and using it against me to the point that it was driving me mad.
In retrospect, it was the alki in me. I never want to go thru anoother releationship like that again.
My point is, I am 9 days sober, going to meetings everday.
I am in self preservation mode and must make it to 90 days. do I owe explanations to anyone at this point?
I feel a great deal of resenments becuase she illegealy hacked into my computer and was reading personal info and using it against me to the point that it was driving me mad.
In retrospect, it was the alki in me. I never want to go thru anoother releationship like that again.
My point is, I am 9 days sober, going to meetings everday.
I am in self preservation mode and must make it to 90 days. do I owe explanations to anyone at this point?
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:atvJust keep moving forward in your recovery. Amends will come later on--much later on. Focus on your meetings and staying sober today. This girl sounds like she has some problems of her own--which she needs to work out. Good luck--keep your head up and place one foot ahead of the other one.
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Re: Troubling relationship.
The only insight I have, Standfast... If you say a prayer of help for yourself, say a prayer of help for the woman too. She'll leave you alone only when she gets better with her issues.
I found this to be very helpful with a similar situation. it was my first time praying in years. I just say "HP, help me. And help ______ and _____ and ______."
On a small level, it helps my resentments and exasperations a lot.
--NM
The only insight I have, Standfast... If you say a prayer of help for yourself, say a prayer of help for the woman too. She'll leave you alone only when she gets better with her issues.
I found this to be very helpful with a similar situation. it was my first time praying in years. I just say "HP, help me. And help ______ and _____ and ______."
On a small level, it helps my resentments and exasperations a lot.
--NM
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In addition to others comments, my experience so far has been:
Focus on recovery.
I can't control other people.
Stressful situations keep happening even when I am trying to get sober. Just have to accept this fact, can't change it, and have to deal with it in a good way.
Sounds like you already dealt with the situation in terms of telling her to leave you alone. Can't do much more right now.
Focus on recovery.
I can't control other people.
Stressful situations keep happening even when I am trying to get sober. Just have to accept this fact, can't change it, and have to deal with it in a good way.
Sounds like you already dealt with the situation in terms of telling her to leave you alone. Can't do much more right now.
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